October, I'm sorry I couldn't get back to you sooner ... sleep problems abound in our household and are taking up lots of time
. Anyway, I dug up some links and old threads you might find useful.
This is an article from Mothering on crying in arms:
And this is an excellent thread on the idea of crying in arms, with people speaking to all sides of the issue. Also, I write about the problems we had, and how crying in arms helped:
Although crying in arms helped, I don't think we'd be doing nearly as well without the chiro and CST. I found a chiro who said she would only need to see dd 3 times or less, and charged $35/visit. She is amazing, and on the first visit resolved issues the previous chiro had not. So it's very important to find a good practitioner. I see you're new to the area, so it may be difficult to find a referral. Is there a local birth network? Or LLL? Maybe you can go to a meeting and speak to some other mamas. I know there's a website for finding chiros for kids, but don't have it at my fingertips. If I find it, I will post a link here.
We also go to a massage therapist who does CST, and we continue to see her every few weeks ($30/session). I believe dd is still processing her birth trauma, and the CST seems to help her and me (I also go occasionally). I always feel so incredibly connected to dd after a session. It really helps me connect with her emotionally, and understand her better.
BTW, my dd also spit up and arched her back a lot, and always wanted to be carried, but she did not have reflux, so that's not always a sure sign. She also had green poops, although I think this was due to our well water. The green went away when I switched to distilled, but she still had lots of gas (and still has some, although it's much better).
If you're interested in CST, you can search for a practitioner here
. I would try to find someone with experience in somatoemotional release (SER), which is an advanced form of CST. Then call and ask if they work with babies (not all practitioners do).
Everything the previous posters said is also valid. Food sensitivities or a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance can also cause fussiness, gassiness, weird poops, etc., although I believe these problems are much less common than many people think (studies show a mother's diet rarely affects the baby). Foremilk is simply hindmilk left over from the previous feeding. The longer it sits, the more fat is re-absorbed into your body. As long as you don't go long periods between feedings, I doubt you have too much foremilk. Try to listen to your instinct, as it will help you determine if this is a physiological problem (like food sensitivity), or based more in emotional issues. Please feel free to PM me if you would like to discuss further or just need a shoulder to lean on. I know how incredibly hard and isolating this can be. I can't tell you how many hours I spent crying in those early months. I know it doesn't feel like it, but things will get better. I hope you are able to find a way to help your dd and yourself. Many hugs ...