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<p><span style="font-size:medium;"><span style="font-family:calibri;">I’m not pregnant yet, but planning for baby #2 in the future.  I would be interested to know your thoughts on my chances of a VBAC. </span></span></p>
<p><span style="font-size:medium;"><span style="font-family:calibri;">My son was born 8 months ago via C-section.  It was a horrifying experience!  <span><img alt="greensad.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="width:15px;height:15px;"></span>I felt like I had no control over the situation and that the doctors made me have a c-section.  I had to be induced at 38 weeks because of high blood pressure.  We knew the baby was going to be big because of ultrasounds, they thought he would be 9 lbs. I still wanted to try for a vaginal birth even though I had a “big baby”.  I was given cytotec wed. night which didn’t do too much.  I was already 2 cm. before the induction.  Thurs morning, the dr. came in and broke my water and started pitocin.  I spent the whole day in labor, doing pretty well without any pain meds.  They kept turning up the pitocin, making the pain worse.  By 6pm, my doctor was ready to go home and wanted to do a c-section, I was still only 3 cm at that time.  I said no c-section yet, I want more time.  So he left, saying I should try an epidural to see if it would help me relax.  My husband and I decided to go with the epidural at that point because I was so tired and no longer able to tolerate the pain.  After one hour with the epidural, I was 10cm.  I was so excited thinking that this was going to happen, I was going to have a vaginal birth!  They let me push for 2 hours, but the baby wasn’t coming down any further.  I’m not sure how far down he came, but my husband said he couldn’t see the baby’s head when I was pushing.  Dr. #2 came in and checked me and said the baby’s head was starting to mold, which meant his head was just too big to fit.  I didn’t have enough knowledge to know whether he was just pressuring me or if the baby was really just too big.   He scared my husband by saying the baby could get stuck and then could either die or be paralyzed.  So with the pressure from my husband to do the c-section, we went ahead.   The baby ended up being 10.5 lbs. so he was much bigger than we first thought.  The baby has this bubble of fluid on his head from the spot where his head was trying to come through, which didn’t go away until he was 3 months old. The bubble was on the left back side of his head and about the size of a plum.  The recovery from the surgery was not bad at all, I was up and walking around within 24 hrs. and never really needed too much pain medication.  My incision did get somewhat infected, but nothing serious.  It looks great now. </span></span></p>
<p><span style="font-size:medium;"><span style="font-family:calibri;">We will not be going back to that doctor or hospital, for additional reasons.  Our baby was basically taken against our will to the NICU for jaundice, his levels never got higher than 17, he was given formula without our permission and stayed in the NICU unnecessarily for a week.  It was the worst week of my life. <span><img alt="gloomy.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="width:15px;height:25px;"></span> The NICU nurses yelled at us if we touched our baby.  They gave him an IV, because I refused the formula, but then gave him formula anyways.  They told us to leave several times, even though they have a 24 hr visiting policy for the parents.  Several times we came in he was screaming and no one was caring for him.  They threatened us with CPS if we tried to take him home AMA.  All I wanted was to take my baby home and breastfeed him and cuddle him.  I felt like a week of his life, the first week of his life was stolen from me.  The experience still haunts me to this day.</span></span></p>
<p><span style="font-size:medium;"><span style="font-family:calibri;">  I’m not sure what the best route would be for the next pregnancy, ob, midwife, hospital or home birth.  We are lucky in that we live in a big city and have many options available to us.  My husband doesn’t want a home birth, but I’m considering it after my experience.  Is that even possible?  The only complications I really had with the pregnancy was the high blood pressure.  It started at 24 weeks and went away a week after the baby was born.  The highest my bp ever went was 160/90, so not too bad.  The dr. said I have a 10% chance of it happening again.  I’m 25 so I’m young and healthy.  Although I did gain 90lbs. due to all the swelling.  I was gaining 10 lbs./week at the end.  I have lost 60 lb.s with 30 to go.  My goal is to lose it all by my baby’s first birthday.  We would ideally like to wait until our son is a year old to get pregnant again, but we are open to it happening sooner, so I would like to be prepared.  Has anyone had a similar experience?  Anyone have suggestions for avoiding a repeat c-section?  Thanks!  </span></span></p>
 

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<p>You've come to the right place for ideas, support and encouragement!  First off, big, big, big hugs!  My goodness, it sounds like you and your baby were treated just awful!  :(  :(  We had some NICU time, it was necessary, but still traumatic.  I can't imagine the feeling of being forced to stay there for something they most likely could have taken a much different route!</p>
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<p>I'm very glad to say that you'll be finding a different provider and hospital, if you chose the hospital route.  You mentioned home birth..I don't know much about it as I've never had one, but look into it....why not!?!?!  Meet with some home birth midwives....interview them...talk with them, get a good feeling for them, the way they handle things like high blood pressure or the pushing phase.  Make sure you are comfortable with the midwife and take things from there!</p>
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<p>As for the pushing, I'm apparently one that pushes a long time...it was 2 hours with my son, who I too was told time for a c/s.  Then it was 1 1/2 hours with my daughter before I opted for the epidural, with another hour which ended in an episiotomy and forceps, but a vaginal birth.  So my #3, finally I had NO interventions, but 3 hours of pushing.  For me, I had to let go of the idea of being a 3 pusher and wala, baby and istead find someone who would support me and encourage me!  My OB never ONCE mentioned how long I was in labor, how long I was pushing.  He never once made an reference to needing to 'hurry up' or that things were taking "too long".  This was exactly what I needed!  We saw ZERO signs of progress for the first 2 1/2 hours of pushing, we didn't see his head or anything like that...but eventually he settled into a good positon and the pushing went from feeling him lower to seeing some hair to him crowning!  We just needed TIME!!!!</p>
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<p>I'm sorry I don't know anything about the bubble that was on his head...I guess that would be a good question while interviewing a midwife too!<br><br>
Wishing you the very best!</p>
 

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<p>i don't have much advice, but plenty of support! i am so sorry you had just a horrible hospital experience! i am in disbelief at the way the NICU staff treated you!</p>
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<p>i also had a c-sec and i was told i was a great canidate for a VBAC, buuuuuut i'd still have to do it in a hospital with a suregon on-call 24/7. DH isn't totally comfortable with a HBAC, so we've agreed on a birthing center for the next one. it's not a hospital, but it's not home.</p>
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<p>the most improtant thing you can do is find a treatment provider you feel comfortable with. since you're not pregnant yet, you can use all this time to reasearch different doctors, midwives, doulas, hospitals, etc and read up on their policys and opinions on VBACs. once you find someone you're comfortable with you can talk realities of can i do this at home? can i have a VBAC? what if this and this comes up again, etc.</p>
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<p>best of luck! here's to that <span><img alt="hbac.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hbac.gif" style="width:28px;height:25px;"></span></p>
 

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<h3 style="text-align:center;"><span style="font-size:14px;"><span style="color:#006400;">I am sorry your pregnancy ended the way it did. </span></span></h3>
<h3 style="text-align:center;"><span style="font-size:14px;"><span style="color:#006400;">Your care providers failed you and your family.</span></span></h3>
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