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I just got back from visiting my BIL's parents (not my in-laws, just friends, long story) and they were telling me about how my nephew that lives in NC is doing. Well, I wanted to choke them by the time I left. When my BIL first had their baby I tried to talk to them about not circing and breastfeeding. Well, they circed anyway ( I can't go into why on the thread because I can't retain composure), they stopped breastfeeding because he was eating "too often" (every 2-3 hours <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: ), and they started him on solids, not just cereal, but actual solids at 3 weeks because he was still eating "too often" (every 3-4 hours). They co-slept until my BIL mom told him they were "preverting" his son and would turn him gay if they continued to do that. So, they stuck him in a crib after 4 months of co-sleeping and let him CIO, per my BIL's moms instructions.<br>
He's now 6 months old. They stopped all formula at 5 months old and he's just eating solids now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"> WTF were they thinking?! They don't give him any liquids other than juice in a bottle. They were saying it's so cute how he eats steak with A1 sauce now. I had to leave. I told dh we needed to go and we left. I couldn't stay there anymore. The poor child weighs 20lbs at 6 months old. He was 7lbs when he was born. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I just can't even imagine doing what they have done to their poor baby. I won't even talk to them anymore. We have pretty much cut off all contact with them. Which is really sad because they named their son after my dh because they were so close.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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Well, most of my kids weighed in that range by six mos, but not much more at a year. But I agree, that is just nuts. They don't listen to their pediatrician? I'd think any mainstrem ped would have a stroke if they heard how he was being fed.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well, most of my kids weighed in that range by six mos, but not much more at a year. But I agree, that is just nuts. They don't listen to their pediatrician? I'd think any mainstrem ped would have a stroke if they heard how he was being fed.</div>
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How much did your children weigh when they were born though? At the weight he was born at if he was growing the way he was supposed to be growing he wouldn't hit 20 lbs till he was a year or older, not 5 months.<br><br>
The peditrician said the way they are doing things is fine. He's the same pedi his wife had as a baby. She has many health problems.
 

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Although I don't agree with their parenting habits...<br><br>
DS was 7lbs 10 oz at birth and 20" long. He is now 5 1/2 months old and weighs 21 lbs and is 28" long. That's the 99%, yes, however he's quite healthy. My DS is eclusively breastfed.<br><br>
So although their parenting techniques are in question, his weight is not THAT abnormal...
 

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While I agree wholeheartedly with the... I'm having a hard time finding a word for it. Atrocity? Ignorance? Borderline abuse? Whatever it is, I understand the feeling you have. But I would encourage you to not cut them off from your lives. They, and especially that baby, need your influence. They were apparently open to listening to some things you said, so that's good. But it sounds like without you in it's life, that baby will be doomed to be raised by hopelessly ignorant sheeple!!<br><br>
I know that if people cut me off b/c they didn't like my parenting choices, I wouldn't have any friends (most ppl I know are mainstream)...
 

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We were traveling over the weekend, and we were sitting in an Airport in Chicago. A family with a baby came and sat next to us. The woman asked how old my little Julia was.. I told her just about 4 months.. SHe was amazed at how little she was.. I was like oh.. she is a chunker..**( like 14pounds..thats pretty good i thought.. ) anyway..she goes on to say that her baby is soo big and whatever, she started asking the normal questions..does she sleep throught the night..I respond saying i didnt know b/c we co-sleep and I couldnt really tell.. She did comment on my sling..saying she liked it..<br>
But the most appalling thing was..that she was feeding her 6month old baby McDonalds......... YUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was totally grossed out.. She asked if Julia was on solids yet.. and I told her no.... I told her she was exclusivly breastfed and will probably stay that way till at least 6months.. well she was like dont u think she needs something more.. I was like noppe shes just fine.. and she definatly does not need Mcdonalds..... seriously.. what was she thinking!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know that if people cut me off b/c they didn't like my parenting choices, I wouldn't have any friends (most ppl I know are mainstream)...</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I was like noppe shes just fine.. and she definatly does not need Mcdonalds..... seriously.. what was she thinking!</div>
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:LOL<br><br>
good comeback. Even if DC was eating solids... McD's? Yikes. I'd be afraid he'd chocke.
 

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Even I can't justify most of that and I'm usually "be nice to the mainstream people."<br><br>
Except my son was 23.14 at 6 months.<br><br>
Steak with A1? I FF since day 4 and ds still ate every 2-3 hours for a LOOOONG time, just like BF on demand. That's just babies!
 

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Steak at 6 months!?! that's horrible! That poor babe is going to have issues with food when he grows up.<br><br>
On th e weight thing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> - my older ds was 7 lb. 14 oz. at birth and weighed 19 lbs 15 oz. by 4 months old!!! Exclusively breastfed! And my younger ds (7 months old right now) was 7 lb. 6 oz. at birth and weighed 19 lbs 8 oz. at 6 months old....Almost exclusively breastfed (we've let him try a little applesauce and banana...)
 

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That is the other side of mainstream from crunchy! Just sick! Why does a baby need steak??? Not to mention A1.<br>
ACK! That poor kid doesn't have a chance to cultivate a healthy relationship with food. But at least the MIL is happy...<br>
ACK!<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">How much did your children weigh when they were born though? At the weight he was born at if he was growing the way he was supposed to be growing he wouldn't hit 20 lbs till he was a year or older, not 5 months.<br><br>
The peditrician said the way they are doing things is fine. He's the same pedi his wife had as a baby. She has many health problems.</div>
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I agree what they are doing is horrible.<br><br>
but FYI- my ds2 was 6 lb 2 oz when born and 20 lbs at 6 mos- exclusively breastfed, so it's not unheard of to gain that much weight. He's now a year old and aprox 27-28 lbs (best guess) and aprox the same weight as my 3 year old, who's small for his age.
 

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:puke<br><br>
My baby is 7 months....well over 20lbs....super chubby.....only breastfeed! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My baby is 7 months....well over 20lbs....super chubby.....only breastfeed! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"></div>
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Yeah, I know we're OT, but mine was 20lb at just over 4 months, and at 6 months must be about 24lb now - he weighs in on Thursday.<br><br>
So, I don't think hte weight thing is an issue, but certainly the feeding is. I can't beleive that a ped supports this - are they telling the truth?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Sounds like my nephew. He was about 8lbs when he was born and 8 months he's 25lbs. Willow is nearly 2 and weighs about 22lbs.<br><br>
My SIL breastfed their daughter for 7 months...didn't breastfeed Keller at all...She could, mind you. She just didn't. The kid never gets held...CIO...sleeps in a separate room altogether. Is left in his swing all day....is sick all the time because he's in daycare...Ok...I'm done ranting. :LOL<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yeah, I know we're OT, but mine was 20lb at just over 4 months, and at 6 months must be about 24lb now - he weighs in on Thursday.<br><br>
So, I don't think hte weight thing is an issue, but certainly the feeding is. I can't beleive that a ped supports this - are they telling the truth?</div>
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I didn't mean to be rude about the weight thing. I've just never seen a baby go from 7lbs flat at newborn to 20 lbs at 5 months. That just seems like way too much of a weight gain to me, BUT my dd was 6.8 at birth and is just now 16lbs at almost a year old. All the babies I've ever been around have grown about that speed, so I guess I just have a biased opinion. Sorry if I offended anybody! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Hey there!<br><br>
I feel so sad for that baby! Poor thing! What is sad is the parents not making there own decisions and relying on grandma to decide what is best for THEIR baby.<br><br>
As for cutting off contact. I have done it too. Being Judgmental is one of my biggest character flaws but oh well.
 

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Yeah, my kids ranged from 6-12 to 9 lbs at birth and they were all in the 20 lbs range by 6 mos, all exclusively breastfed. I think my smallest at birth was the biggest at 6 mos.<br><br>
But no offense taken.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Although I don't agree with their parenting habits...<br><br>
DS was 7lbs 10 oz at birth and 20" long. He is now 5 1/2 months old and weighs 21 lbs and is 28" long. That's the 99%, yes, however he's quite healthy. My DS is eclusively breastfed.<br><br>
So although their parenting techniques are in question, his weight is not THAT abnormal...</div>
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ditto - While B2 is eating solids, its not that much...jsut enough to keep her from totally freaking out at dinner time! She is 18 on our bathroom scale. Has her 6m wbv this week and we'll see how close our scale is. Anyway, she was 7lb 3 oz.
 
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