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<p>Can anyone recommend some good books for me and DH to read about GD?  DS just turned 1 and we want to decide on discipline methods before long.</p>
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<p>BTW, I recently came back on MDC and noticed the format had changed.  There used to be a place at the top of each forum with rules and resources and all that... is that stuff still somewhere (so I wouldn't need to start a new thread to get this type of info?)</p>
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<p>TIA!</p>
 

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<p>I'll second "Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline". Also we loved "Non-Violent Communication", "Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids".</p>
 

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<p>Subbing for more suggestions too, I'm new to GD as well.</p>
 

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<p>i need good GD advice! i came from an abusive home and want to GD my children (only one so far 14 m/o) DH is kind of a non-believer. he will sometimes be like just slap her hand if shes touching x and im like NO! he thinks she will be a spoiled brat ect ect.</p>
 

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<p>Also subbing for suggestions! </p>
 

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<p>i dont think we are getting anymore lol</p>
 

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<p>I love anything by Haim Ginott, especially "Between Parent and Child". It's not so much about discipline (as in how to get kids to do what you want, gently) but a way of communicating with your kids. I believe that the side effect of following Ginott's advice will be a better relationship with your kids and that can't help but manifest itself in "discipline issues."</p>
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<p>I love "Kids, Parents and Power Struggles" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka because it helps us to understand where some of the resistance comes from when we ask our kids to do things, or want them to behave.</p>
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<p>Alfie Kohn's "Unconditional Parenting" is ANYTHING but a how-to. But it's good for shaking up your thinking and looking at things in a new way. Then Kurcinka's book will help you put stuff into actual practice.</p>
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<p>I also like "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk". I am not all the way through it but it's been very helpful so far.</p>
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<p>These aren't "discipline" books per se, but I think that they are parenting books that will help foster a gentler more respectful environment and relationship, which helps in the area of discipline.</p>
 

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<p>I also like Unconditional Parenting and "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk". I wish I'd read How to Talk earlier; it echoes many of the principles in UP, but gives you actual techniques to try. So helpful!</p>
 

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<p>Awesome! i so agree, this style of parenting has changed my life and consequently our family's atmosphere. I am so passionate about it since seing the amazing changes in all three of our children and in myself and my hubby. But I don't agree when my friends and family tell me its each to his own, whatever way suits whatever family because to me it is not about what is convenient for the parents but its about how all children in this world should be treated, which in turn will turn our society into one with a huge lack of crime or anger.</p>
 

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<p><span style="font-size:14px;">I'm a big reader, and I liked:</span></p>
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<p><a class="sim-img-title" href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FPositive-Discipline-Preschoolers-Years-Raising-Responsible%2Fdp%2F0307341607%2Fref%3Dpd_sim_b_53" style="font-family:verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;color:rgb(0,51,153);" target="_blank" title="Positive Discipline for Preschoolers: For Their Early Years--Raising Children Who are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful (Positive Discipline Library) (Paperback)">Positive Discipline for Preschoolers: For Th...</a><span class="shvl-byline" style="font-size:11px;">by Jane Nelsen Ed.D.</span></p>
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<p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height:17px;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FNursing-Mothers-Companion-Revised%2Fdp%2F155832304X%2Fref%3Dcm_lmf_tit_3" target="_blank"><strong><span style="color:#004B91;"><span class="yshortcuts" id="user_lw_1292194215_0" style="color:rgb(54,99,136);">The Nursing Mother's Companion: Revised Edition</span></span></strong></a> by Kathleen Huggins</span></p>
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<p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height:17px;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FWhats-Going-There-Brain-Develop%2Fdp%2F0553378252%2Fref%3Dcm_lmf_tit_1" target="_blank"><strong><span style="color:#004B91;"><span class="yshortcuts" id="user_lw_1292194215_1" style="color:rgb(54,99,136);">What's Going on in There? : How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life</span></span></strong></a> by Lise Eliot</span></p>
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<p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FWhy-Love-Matters-Affection-Shapes%2Fdp%2F1583918175%2Fref%3Dpd_bbs_sr_1%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1222117718%26sr%3D8-1" target="_blank"><span style="color:#003399;"><span class="yshortcuts" id="user_lw_1292194215_2" style="color:rgb(54,99,136);">Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby's Brain</span></span></a> <span class="ptBrand">by Sue Gerhardt</span></p>
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<p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height:17px;"><span class="shvl-cell-title" id="user_purchaseShvlTitle5"><span style="color:#003399;">Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming Par...</span></span> <span id="user_purchaseShvlByline5">by Naomi, Ph.D. Aldort</span></span></p>
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<p><span class="shvl-cell-title" id="user_purchaseShvlTitle4"><span style="color:#003399;">Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child</span></span> <span id="user_purchaseShvlByline4">by John Gottman</span></p>
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<p><span class="shvl-cell-title" id="user_purchaseShvlTitle2"><span style="color:#003399;">Mother Nature: Maternal Instincts and How They Shape the...</span></span> <span id="user_purchaseShvlByline2">by Sarah Hrdy</span></p>
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<p><span><span class="shvl-cell-title" id="user_purchaseShvlTitle1"><span style="color:#003399;">The Vital Touch: How Intimate Contact With Your Baby Lead...</span></span> <span id="user_purchaseShvlByline1">by Sharon Heller</span></span></p>
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<p><span class="shvl-cell-title" id="user_purchaseShvlTitle0"><span style="color:#003399;">Infant Massage--Revised Edition: A Handbook for Loving Pa...</span></span> <span>by Vimala Schneider Mcclure</span></p>
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<p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height:17px;"><span id="user_btAsinTitle">Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way We Parent<span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height:19px;text-transform:capitalize;"> by </span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif;line-height:16px;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fs%2Fref%3Dntt_athr_dp_sr_1%3F_encoding%3DUTF8%26sort%3Drelevancerank%26search-alias%3Dbooks%26field-author%3DMeredith%2520Small" style="font-family:verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;color:rgb(0,51,153);text-decoration:underline;" target="_blank">Meredith Small</a> </span></span></p>
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<p><a class="sim-img-title" href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FScience-Parenting-Margot-Sunderland%2Fdp%2F075663993X%2Fref%3Dpd_sim_b_27" style="font-family:verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;color:rgb(0,51,153);" target="_blank" title="The Science of Parenting (Paperback)">The Science of Parenting</a> <span class="shvl-byline" style="font-size:11px;">by Margot Sunderland</span></p>
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<p><a class="sim-img-title" href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FEmotional-Life-Toddler-Alicia-Lieberman%2Fdp%2F0028740173%2Fref%3Dpd_sim_b_63" style="font-family:verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;color:rgb(0,51,153);" target="_blank" title="Emotional Life of the Toddler (Paperback)">Emotional Life of the Toddler</a> <span class="shvl-byline" style="font-size:11px;">by Alicia F. Lieberman</span></p>
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<p><a class="sim-img-title" href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FEveryday-Blessings-Inner-Mindful-Parenting%2Fdp%2F0786883146%2Fref%3Dpd_sim_b_54" style="font-family:verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;color:rgb(0,51,153);" target="_blank" title="Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting (Paperback)">Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful...</a><span class="shvl-byline" style="font-size:11px;">by Myla Kabat-zinn</span></p>
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<p><a class="title" href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FYour-Own-Good-Child-Rearing-Violence%2Fdp%2F0374522693%2Fref%3Dsr_1_1%3Fs%3Dbooks%26ie%3DUTF8%26qid%3D1292195791%26sr%3D1-1" style="color:rgb(0,51,153);font-weight:bold;" target="_blank">For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence</a> <span class="ptBrand">by <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FAlice-******%2Fe%2FB000APM0AI%2Fref%3Dsr_ntt_srch_lnk_1%3Fqid%3D1292195791%26sr%3D1-1" style="color:rgb(0,51,153);" target="_blank">Alice ******</a>, Hildegarde Hannum, and Hunter Hannum. It's dated, and I don't "buy" it all, but it really resonated with me.</span></p>
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