I'm new to gd. DS is 10 months and although I haven't read any books, I keep visiting this message board for guidance. All I know is I don't want to shout at or hit ds, nor do I want to use punishment/rewards. I also don't want to effect his self esteem by making him believe if he behaves well we love him and if he behaves badly we don't, thus I want to avoid things like 'good boy/ well done'. At the moment, I'm just really using replacement and redirection. So if he starts playing with the dvd player or something I just say 'that's not a toy, while moving him and trying to engage him in something else'. I've recently had my mil staying for a week (it's been a long week, lol) and she does some things I'm not very happy with, like calling him naughty when he doesn't do what she says, or if he's playing with something he shouldn't she yells at him, then if he still doesn't come away she says 'how shameful' (she's Turkish). Also when he goes near anything dangerous she shouts come away, come away, caca caca (meaning poop). I've also heard her and fil call him dirty when he has done a poo. One more thing not related to discipline but I might as well get this off my chest as well, she insists on talking to him in a stupid baby style (like mispronouncing words and using baby words). Does anyone have any advice on how I can explain to her why I don't want her to talk to ds like this?