[hergrace]

Anybody know any good resources for GD with multiples. The fighting/biting has started with the triplets and I am struggling with how to proceed.

 

[1stTimeMummytoLore]

i have yet to see anything helpful for GD with multiples. i think we are all just muddling through that phase as best we can. i find most GD books rather annoying to read in light of my twins actually b/c most of their techniques and suggestions are hard to adapt to multiples. i can't really very successfully have a good firm gentle heart to heart with one child while the other one is scream in my ear! i can imagine that with trips it gets even more tricky since two can still work on tearing the place apart wihile you try to deal with one of them!<br><br>
i've found that i have to have some way of gently and lovingly seperating them before i can even start to deal with the situation. this usually involves me picking one up, giving them a hug and putting them in the pack and play within sight of me and telling them i will be right back after i deal with their twin. (usually the instigator/biter/hitter is the one that goes in the pack and play while i comfort and calm the other one.) i also have to work really hard to remember to take a breath and stay calm myself. if i can manage to do that, i can usually get through the day ok.<br><br>
anyway- my point i guess is that, you are not alone in GD being challenging with multiples and i've found trial and error is about the best i can do right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">

 

[DoomaYula]

GD with mults?!?!?!?!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"><br><br>
My kids still bear the physical scars from that lovely biting phase x2 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
I do the best I can but... yeah. Not much GD for my twins around here.

 

[hergrace]

That's what I thought.<br><br>
Ahh, the changes we make with more than one little one in the house. I've already started using the Pack and Play to keep them separated while I deal with them one at a time. I hope I won't need 2.<br><br>
I guess for now the best that I can do is live on the floor with them and try to prevent things as much as possible. So far, there is only one pattern to biting so I can see it coming - I am sure it will only get worse since they are just barely one.

 

[AkRotts]

We used our Pack n Play to keep the twins separate a LOT at that age. The hitting, biting and hair pulling was horrible!!!! Now at 20 months old they have gotten better, although we do still deal with the fighting on a daily basis, it isn't nearly as bad as it was.<br><br>
We did (and still do) a lot of separating and redirecting. We generally try to let them work things out, but if someone is getting hurt we always intervene!<br><br>
Caitlyn at 12 months old is only 8 months younger than the twins, so we are going thru this all over again<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
There are days I feel like the mother of triplets <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">