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Great. I'm having a great f'ing mothers day. Got up this morning, got a frigging pop tart for breakfast (while dh helped ds1 get a bagel and he drank coffee). Vaccumed the house, cleaned the bathroom, stuffed diapers (we use bg 3.0s so they need stuffing every now and then), got a load of laundry in. Yeah, I've had a great frigging day. After being up for an hour or so, dh finally came in and told ds1 to tell me 'happy mothers day'. Not a frigging card. From either. Cause' you know, I'm not DH's mother. "sorry, your not my mom". When the boys are older 'they can buy you cards and stuff'. But DH? No. He thought to buy *HIS* mom a card from the boys. But me? No. A big 'f you' . So yeah. I'm sitting here, crying to myself and being extremely pissed off. Great f'ing day. Thanks so fing much.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sorry you are having a rough morning. I hope your day improves. Happy Mothers' Day!!
 

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That really really sucks big time! I'm so sorry for the insensivity.<br><br><b>I</b> Wish you a Happy Mothers day. And I thank you for all you do, which we know the list is long, only to begin with creating child in your womb, birthing children unto the Earth...then onto<br>
Kissing bobos<br>
wiping snot<br>
nurturing in only the way a Mother can<br>
protecting like a wild bear<br>
teaching even if you don't have a teachers certificate<br>
demonstrating patience everyday<br>
Giving love as it radiates out through every fiber of your being<br><br>
and the list goes on and on and on...<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Sorry you are having a crappy day.<br><br>
Happy Mother's Day.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Happy Mother's Day!
 

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You aren't alone!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> So far I got to push dh out of bed with the baby so I could sleep in (though by the time he finally rolled out of bed I was wide awake), make breakfast for everyone and get the kids dressed, and do a load of laundry. In a little bit I will take ds to Sunday School and go to the grocery store, then I will prepare some food for lunch and get the gifts ready for our mothers. Dh hasn't even said a word other than to tell ds, "Mommy is in a bad mood today." And he certainly can't use the "You're not my mom" excuse, given that I purchased the gift to his mom from him and set up and executed the craft that ds and dd made for her as well.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to all the disappointed, left out mommies today. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm sorry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Is there any way you can just take your kiddos and go do something fun? I know here the children's hands on museum has free admission for moms (and kids aren't that expensive) today. I'll probably try to take ds (with or without dp, depending on when he's seeing his mom today).
 

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Can I join this club?<br><br><br>
6:30 I was out of bed with a sickie little girl (She has her first cold and is coughing and sneezing and generally unhappy), came downstairs, unloaded the dishwasher, cleaned the kitchen, swept and mopped the floors while somebody enjoyed the luxury of an empty bed.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">
 

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I wish I could just go somewhere fun today. That'd be nice. But no, we live out in the middle of nowhere (so nowhere 'fun' to go thats close anyhow), and besides, my family (dad, brother, sil... sil's mom, my mom) are all coming down for a mothers-day/b-day dinner (my b-day was friday, brothers is monday). Hence the need for an at least mostly clean house (Oh.and my dads moving back down here today too - he's been up living with his mom & dad as my grandma has alzheimers thats recently gotten bad... his brothers taking a turn starting today - so I was trying to get his house back looking nice, since he hasn't been here in a couple weeks...).<br><br>
DH just came in a few minutes ago and tried to apologize 'I'm sorry I didn't get you anything' - right. Thats why you were in here just an hour or two ago practicly *BRAGGING* that you hadn't gotten me jack. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">: So, now he's taken ds1, I'm assuming to go get me something. :roll We'll see.<br><br>
Thanks for all the well-wishes... and sorry to hear that others are having equally crappy days. Hope they don't expect jack for fathers f'ing day.
 

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Expectations can do that huh? Happy Mama's Day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> Sorry you aren't enjoying this beautiful day, maybe you can grab the kid (s) and go do something fun. I don't have a partner and my kids are young so i don't even think they realize it is Mother's Day (other then the fact their school had them make something for Mother's Day but i don't think they even realize it's today). And i am not going to prompt them or guilt them into doing anything for me. I chose to be their mama and everything that goes along with that. Every day is Mother's Day and often pretty much everything i do for them does go unappreciated but they are little and that is ok because it is their smiles that make me know they are healthy, alive and appreciative because of all i do for them. We are going to the beach for a picnic because it is a beautiful Sunday, Hallmark holiday or not...
 

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Happy Mother's Day. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Maybe later you can talk to him and let him know that now, while your dc are small, he needs to take them to choose a card and get a gift. Let him know how much it means to you to have those things today. Handmade cards and picked flowers are nice, too, but with them being so young still, HE needs to help them to do this.<br><br>
I hope your day gets better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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P.S. One year dh totally forgot and realized when we were at church because the sermon was Mother's Day related. We stopped on the way home at Walgreens, he and the boys ran in, got me cards and the boys each got me...a Chunky candy and a Reeses Cup. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake"><br><br>
I liked the years he remembered better...I'd get breakfast in bed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Eat">
 

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A parade for you!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/flowersforyou.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Flowersforyou"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/flowersforyou.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Flowersforyou"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana">:carro t<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/blowkiss.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Blowkiss"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/kiss.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="kiss"><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Mama. Enjoy your babies today.<br><br>
I got a big fat fight last night with dh <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> . He's still mad at me too. And I have to spend this afternoon with my outlaws <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">, but get the evening with my sister and mom and our families... so... it'll be a good day on the whole...<br>
My kids are safe and healthy.<br><br>
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Happy Mother's Day<br><br>
My hubby is still in bed. I have been up with my son for ages. We are going to brunch with my family and he said "we should just cancel".....uhmmmmm no. Get out of bed so we can have a nice mother's day. Do I have a card or gift? No. Does he get Father's day cards and gifts? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> Every year from the point I was pregnant. Maybe we will go to the mall later and I will get something...but the point is there should be at least a homemade card from my son...I know I am the one who does the crafty things with him but it isn't that difficult to give him a piece of paper and say "we need to make mommy a nice card" DS will be more than obliging as he loves doing that.<br><br>
Oh well happy mother's day to all of us and I know my boys still love me.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Sorry you're having a bad day so far.<br><br>
DH works every mother's day since he's a cook, so it's not a day we really celebrate (just like valentine's day). I figure he's having a worse day than me, so I can't really complain. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
Happy Mother's Day to you and all the other neglected moms out there! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/flowersforyou.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Flowersforyou">
 

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My dh slept in while I got up with the kids <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> Then I had to ask him to make me breakfast. He swore he was getting ready to do it.<br><br>
He must have realized I was getting irritated because he didn't argue about taking dd2 to Mass with him and dd1 (I went by myself last night).
 

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Happy Mother's Day. I am of the mentality that this is just another day so I have minimal expectations <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But like a PP, my husband works every Sunday so I don't have an option of sleeping in anyway. DS did sleep till 7 so that was nice.<br><br>
If Mother's Day was a disappointment for me (I would expect a partner to make it special if that's what you want!!!) then I'd be darn sure to not make a big deal out of father's day. That's probably childish, but at least you could state- well, you're not my father...
 

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You know with that attitude you are not obligated to do anything on father's day or his birthday. They are not your day.<br><br>
If it is any releaf, I have been barfed on by 2 of my 3 kids this morning. The other said he was just going to say in bed. They all have fevers.
 

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Return the favor on Father's Day.<br><br>
I am SO tired of this crap that some so-called "men" say about how their wife is not their mother. So what? Why isn't the mother of their children just as, if not more, important in their life as their own mom?<br><br>
My husband always makes sure there is something from our children for Mother's Day. Always. My dad did the same for Mom.<br><br>
This year, I got MIL's card and gift and made sure it was sent to her (she lives far from us). DH made a lasagna for our Mother's Day dinner at my mom's.
 
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