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2 weeks! I'm in the "don't worry about it unless I need to" mode now.
The waiting is horrible isn't it? Good luck x

My nuchal scan and blood test risk combined came back as a one in ten risk for trisomy 21. The calculations did not factor in our ages apparently.
I have an amniocentesis booked for Monday afternoon :( and it takes 10 days until the results come back after that.
I'm trying to think positively but in truth I'm scared about losing this baby. On a positive note, I "think" DH is softening and is less scared of a positive result. I hope I'm right.
 

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@Silverbirch, that is such a scary and stressful place to be! I am sorry, and hoping for a result that will be easy for you and your husband to work through. If you can, please do check back in and let us know how the amniocentesis goes, okay? I will be thinking about you a lot.
 
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@Silverbirch, that is such a scary and stressful place to be! I am sorry, and hoping for a result that will be easy for you and your husband to work through. If you can, please do check back in and let us know how the amniocentesis goes, okay? I will be thinking about you a lot.
I will :smile:
I bought a ringsling online last night. It's the first purchase I've made and now I'm thinking I've jinxed everything. I'm being silly right?
 

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Silverbirch, I got nothing for ya except to say you are in my thoughts. What a difficult circumstance.
 

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Silver: Look at it as a 9 in 10 chance that everything is a-ok :) Those are some awesome odds!
 

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I am waiting now as well. My midwife told ne they like to under promise and over deliver. So, while they (at least this lab) says 14 days, it is usually only 7. She said she will call with the results. I am on vacation now. Trying to stay positive and enjoy my time with my family.

Continuing to hold good thoughts for you silverbirch and forestlover75!
 

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We received our amnio result today over the phone.
Positive for trisomy 21.
We see the Ob on Thursday, I guess to discuss where I'm going to deliver this little guy.
Dh didn't take the news well to begin with, although he seems to have pulled together a bit this evening. I wasn't at all surprised by the news, whereas Dh was convinced it would be negative.
At least we have a few more months to prepare ourselves and families.
Anyone else still waiting for results?
 

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@Silverbirch... Love, sweet lady. For you, your man, your to be star, and all his siblings.
You're sure to be all over the place with emotions until you meet him. Please lean on us for support. Though strangers, we are all in that sensitive space of waiting, not knowing. It can be any of us, too, and I think we're all well aware of that.
I witnessed a scene a couple of weeks ago that has sat with me in vivid memory. We were at a fair listening to a band... Soul Sounds. This band was amazing, playing some awesome soul music of the 50's-60's. My lump of a 13 year old (love him dearly) sat expressionless, shoulders slouched listening to this awesome music, not able to get his groove on. Just past him was an older teenaged boy with Down's, totally rocking out, totally happy, lighting up the spirits of everybody around him, his papa (or grandpapa, or uncle or friend- whoever was with him) was just sitting back and smiling this great big proud smile. I opted out of genetic testing, but in that moment felt at complete peace with the potential of what may come.

Love for the sadness that must come from this news, and love for the peace that will come in time. :x
 

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No testing here either. I was following one mamas story in the December due date that had a serious test come back positive. She had to wait a long time for amnio results to find out if the baby truly had the problem, and during that time she was mentally preparing herself to induce at 17weeks and bury her baby. In the end, the original positive test was wrong!!!! All that grief and heartache.... As it is I would have my baby no matter what so I have no desire to test. If something is wrong we can deal with it when it happens.
DDC crashing - somehow this popped up on my sidebar.

On top of all that, the amnio caused my water sac to have a slow leak and at 23 weeks my water really broke and now I am on hospital bed rest until I deliver, no later than 34 weeks, and likely a c section because not enough water for baby to move around, and definitely a NICU stay, and all because I got the MaterniT21 and it was wrong. And all because I thought we would just know the sex earlier and it would be better and less invasive than the NT scan.
 

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Oh my goodness, @Galatea. Talk about your unintended consequences--I am so, so sorry! You made the best, most informed choice you could have made. I know we are all rooting for you in this DDC, and I will probably be checking back into the December threads from time to time to see how you are doing. Best wishes for the bed rest to fly by, and for that baby to stay put until 34 weeks.
@Silverbirch, I hope that knowing for sure is giving you some peace. @happyday8598's story about the concert is just beautiful, and I really want to echo her words about all of us being here for you--we all know perfectly well that it could be any of us. I have shared before that my daughter was born with cleft lip and palate, and we will be working with the effects of that throughout her childhood; obviously, the cleft experience and the DS experience aren't that much alike, but I want you to know that there is a huge space in my heart for mothers of children who are born different and need extra care. I am holding you, your husband, your older children, and your sweet baby in my thoughts.
 

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I saw my Ob today but he was next to useless really. He whispered so quietly I had to lean right over the table to hear! He said "tell me what you to do? Other people in your situation choose not to proceed with the pregnancy". Our response was a rather forceful and quite loud "we want to continue".
Then I asked about heart scans and he was completely wishywashy about that too. So we've left that with his secretary to make us an appointment with a specialist at a hospital 2hrs away, sometime in the next 2weeks.
Then I asked Where is the best place to have this baby? Which hospital is most open to my preferred style (no intervention) of birth?
He couldn't answer! Which has best neonatal facilities? One about 2hrs away apparently. Well that could be interesting! My last 3 births took less than 3hrs from start to finish and I often didn't know that it was really time because I get weeks of strong braxton hicks leading up to it. Plus, in early Feb or late January we often have snow and ice so any journey will take longer.
I felt very frustrated at the end of our consult. We going to ring the independent midwives tomorrow and see if they have better information. Sadly I've already found out that my favorite midwife is unavailable to see me. Hoping the other one is still practicing and might be able to act as a doula in whichever hospital or wherever we end up.
 

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((hugs)), silverbirch. Too bad that OB was so unhelpful. I hope you find that the other mw is available and that she is much more sensitive.
 
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