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Yesterday I was frustrated with some things with my kids, so while they were napping I sat down with _The Discipline Book_ by Dr. Sears and read through some sections of it. I've had this book for years and have always loved it and felt like it was quite in line with my ideas on parenting.<br><br>
I noticed that the type of discipline strategies that Dr. Sears advocates in his book look very different from the types of strategies I see discussed here. Basically, what I get from Dr. Sears is that the parents are in charge and that the children will do what the parents say when the parents say it. I know that GD is not about letting your kids do whatever they want, but I do get the sense from the discussions here that pulling rank on your kids is not acceptable, while Dr. Sears believes (and says) that kids have to do what the parents say <b>because</b> the parents are the parents.<br><br>
Also, while he says that he doesn't advocate punishment, he does talk about using time-outs, taking away privileges, and grounding. Those are things my dh and I do or would do as the kids get older.<br><br>
I wondered what others here think of Dr. Sears and whether they see any of the discrepancies I feel I am seeing. I am probably different from many here in that I tell my kids what to do and make them do it, but I still consider myself gentle because I don't yell at my kids or shame them or yank them around or anything like that. I just make them do what I tell them to do.<br><br>
Namaste!
I noticed that the type of discipline strategies that Dr. Sears advocates in his book look very different from the types of strategies I see discussed here. Basically, what I get from Dr. Sears is that the parents are in charge and that the children will do what the parents say when the parents say it. I know that GD is not about letting your kids do whatever they want, but I do get the sense from the discussions here that pulling rank on your kids is not acceptable, while Dr. Sears believes (and says) that kids have to do what the parents say <b>because</b> the parents are the parents.<br><br>
Also, while he says that he doesn't advocate punishment, he does talk about using time-outs, taking away privileges, and grounding. Those are things my dh and I do or would do as the kids get older.<br><br>
I wondered what others here think of Dr. Sears and whether they see any of the discrepancies I feel I am seeing. I am probably different from many here in that I tell my kids what to do and make them do it, but I still consider myself gentle because I don't yell at my kids or shame them or yank them around or anything like that. I just make them do what I tell them to do.<br><br>
Namaste!