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Hi<br>
We have a one year old and cannot get her to go to sleep on her own. We have tried reading, singing, nursing down, cuddling down, rocking down, and even tv down. What should be a peaceful experience is one that she fights regularly and she gets so overtired, it makes matters worse. We are even considering CIO which I am generally opposed to. She is a high needs toddler so I don't think CIO would work anyway. That said, I am seeking your advice. How can we get our baby to go to sleep?<br><br>
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What worked when she was younger?<br><br>
Have you tried laying with her in the dark while nursing?<br><br>
Is she sleeping in your bed?<br><br>
-Angela
 

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She used to nurse to sleep just fine. It is only recently that she has stopped this. We lay in the dark while nursing and have the ocean playing in the background. She does not sleep in our bed. We have a twin in her room that we sometimes use to co sleep, but she will not co sleep down either - i've tried. she just cries and crawls around the bed.
 

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What happens if you don't "try" to put her down to sleep? And just take her to bed when you go?<br><br>
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When she is so exhausted she will finally go. But until then, even if I am ready for bed, she will not go to sleep. I think we need something new that will relax her so that going to sleep is a peaceful experience. We just can't figure out what the thing is for her.
 

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What does your bedtime routine look like? Do you have a consistent routine every night?<br><br>
She's at that age where separation anxiety is really starting to kick in, and it doesn't go away at night. She may have started to associate nighttime with being left alone. Could you temporarily bring her little bed into your room so that you establish a good association with sleep for her? Not just co-sleeping occassionally in her room, but really establishing a good association for her. The separation anxiety will probably start to fade sometime around 18 months, so there's plenty of time for her to have her own room.<br><br>
Is she still taking a 2nd nap? My DD had a much harder time falling asleep at night when she was about to drop her 2nd nap--she just wasn't sleepy enough since she really didn't need that nap anymore.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Hi<br>
Our bedtime routine currently is pj's, books, then nursing w/ lullabyes & ocean, then downstairs to watch Teletubbies. She's down to 1 nap, wakes around 2:00pm, but doesn't go to sleep now until at least 9 (more like 10) and we start our routine at 7:30 or 8<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">m.
 

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Ditto!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you, mama. That's a tough situation.
 
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