the thing is i just dont get it .... it was never this way before i became a mom, which you'd think would thrill mom to pieces, which it did ... but then it just became so clear she resented anything dh did that differed from how she would do it, and gradually latter became so variable it was clearly impossible for him to do anything right, and this extended to me for any support i'd give him. and these were all very little things, like what kind of soup he might give her or the fact that he "teased" in ways she disliked etc.<br><br>
nowadays i feel like i spend time with her because she is my mom and she's getting older (which she keeps reminding me) and so forth, whereas MIL and SIL are much more fun to be with. And would never guilt me if I declined an invitation, no questions asked. But with mom, an entirely different story ... it's like she is judging me all the time.<br><br>
the thing is she is a very good woman at heart, loves dd, etc and so i feel like i ought to make more effort to forgive her shortcomings and do whatever i can so she believes i care about her ... but it is just getting too tense these days. <sigh>
