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We have been co sleeping our now 2yo since birth and am not planning on stopping. About 5 months ago DH started sleeping upstairs on the guest room. It started gradually and is now an every night thing. Our DS has started becoming more wiggly and loves to sleep sprawled out across the bed. DH says he just doesn't feel like there is room for him and sleeps better upstairs alone. He doesn't have any problem with me co sleeping and isn't urging me to quit co sleeping, but I do miss him in bed with us. Now that it's been so long, on the rare occasion that he sleeps with us, he'll have a hard time sleeping. I think because he's become so used to sleeping alone.<br><br>
I was hoping for any good ideas on getting this mr back to bed with me, and also wondering if this has happened to anyone else... I never hear about it on here. We want to soon upgrade to a king, but we're waiting till we move, which could be a few months from now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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My DH stayed home for 6 weeks after the birth then on work nights would sleep ini the guest bed since he got up @ 4 and needed to sleep and he'd wake us up - so it worked out - for whatever reason - at 4 months or so maybe later he stopped and stayed in our bed. Weekends he was always in our bed......we have a king and DS now sleeps between us or in the twin next to our bed - that might be a good solution for you - bolster on either side to prevent roll offs and DS falls asleep in whatever bed he wants to (usually on the boob) then if I feel like space I move him to the twin and climb in with him whenever he wants milk - sometimes I sleep in the twin with him - out of laziness - but DH gets more room <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Good luck
 

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we had a queen and our ds was very wiggly rolling around sometimes ending up with his head where his feet should be, my dh slept on the couch for about five months saying he got better sleep and didnt have to worry about the alarm waking me or ds. we asked for christmas that my parents buy us a new king size mattress or contribute to the fund and thats what we got... tons and tons of room and hubby back in bed with me!!! it s amazing...
 

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not sure if this is an option for you, but we recently brought in our extra twin trundle bed and put it directly next to our Queen bed (our room is now almost all bed!!). So, our DS sleeps in the twin bed (ideally, it doesn't always work this way!) - and DH and I sleep on the queen. I just move over a foot to the "little" bed (they are basically at the same height) when DS needs to nurse or needs me closer by to fall back asleep. Then I either stay on the little bed with him, or move back to the queen to be closer to DH. It has been working decently for me - and my two bedhogs (DS and DH!)!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">not sure if this is an option for you, but we recently brought in our extra twin trundle bed and put it directly next to our Queen bed (our room is now almost all bed!!). So, our DS sleeps in the twin bed (ideally, it doesn't always work this way!) - and DH and I sleep on the queen. I just move over a foot to the "little" bed (they are basically at the same height) when DS needs to nurse or needs me closer by to fall back asleep. Then I either stay on the little bed with him, or move back to the queen to be closer to DH. It has been working decently for me - and my two bedhogs (DS and DH!)!!</div>
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Yup, actually dd and I side-carred daddy in a twin mattress and dd and sleep on the queen! Works great!
 

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I second the idea of side carring a crib or twin mattress and getting your ds to sleep in a more reasonable amount of space. Right now we are in a queen with no side-car (used to use the crib on the side of the bed - sooo much more room in a queen that way) and dd loves sprawling between me and dh, to the point she is sleeping sideways so that she can touch both of us at the same time and it ends up pushing us to the edges in our sleep. You have to keep rotating her back to a "normal" position and it doesn't seem to bother her. Dh seems to feel bad putting limits on how she sleeps and ends up in uncomfortable positions but I will grab her and shift her back the way she needs to be and get dh to come closer and we all still seem to get pretty good sleep. We are upgrading to a king with a possible crib side car in about a month and a half so it should get a lot better.<br><br>
Just ask your DH to try something new for a night or two when he can afford to lose a little sleep and see if it gets any better. Good luck, I know I would miss my dh if he were in another room!
 
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