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OK... My husband left me... with no money either, and I am a student. Luckily, the semester is over. Fuck him, I'm ready.... but how the hell should I survive? Quit school? I'm in an unfamiliar environment... he wanted us to move closer to where he was from. ASS HOLE> Sort of in shock at the moment.. it has been 5 days, no phone call. No money
 

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Oh my goodness! I can't imagine what kind of shock that must be! What a crap thing to do! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
About school - if there's any way you can stay in, do it! It can be a great, flexible way to raise a child alone and will help you get a better job when you get out. Do you have family with whom you're close? If so, maybe there's a school near your family that you could transfer to?
 

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Hey mama~<br>
That sucks. I am so sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Where do you live, mama? Maybe someone is nearby and can help you out?
 

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My state has a program for "displaced homemakers", free or reduced tuition; there is financial aid available, grants--NOT loans. Check it out at your school's financial aid office.<br><br>
Oh, and strength to you!!
 

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All I know is that I'm really confused at the moment. I don't understand if we're getting a divorce or what. thanks for the helpful information. I really need money for the moment. Luckily we had a full refrigerator, but I can see needing it within a few days. I think I'll probably just try to sell some stuff around the house somewhere and look for a job.
 

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you should be able to apply for financial aid now even though the semester is out..provided that you are registered for next semester...and i agree with other poster that staying in school is a great way to make it as a single momma...grants would be great, but loans will do if you need to make ends meet...and at least you are not out of the home 40-60 hours a week...hang in there
 

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Go talk to your school financial aid before the holidays! See if you can get finanical aid help immediately, my school will sometimes even do emergency advances etc. Check into options for next semester.<br><br>
I would not quit school, sometimes it is easier to have money, see your child with a school schedule than work. (at least this has been try for my good friend I go to school with)<br><br>
best wishes!<br><br>
how old is your child?
 

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My school does this, too. I get an "emergency loan" every semester because they don't disperse loans until a week after the semester begins. Not so good when you need to have your textbooks 2 weeks <b>before</b>. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"><br><br>
Selling stuff around the house is always a good option. Turning those extra toys, clothes, whatever that were sent by well-meaning relatives or bought on impulse has saved my butt a time or two, for sure.<br><br>
About school - really, try to stay in. It has the potential to make your lives so much better.<br><br>
I know it's hard to look very far down the road when you're in the initial shock phase. I hope some of us who have been through break-ups can help you there.
 

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1) get a lawyer<br>
2) file for divorce (if you so wish)<br>
3) Document the heck out of the fact that he left you completely without funds,a nd you don't know how you will feed your family (if that is the case)<br>
4) Ask for sole and exclusive use of the abode, temporary physical and legal custody, and $$ support<br><br>
Will he want to see kid(s)?<br><br>
I have been going through this nightmare for 1 1/2 years.<br><br>
Get a network of friends, and not his friends.
 

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If you belong to a church, let them know what's happened. They will probably get a food drive organized for you. Let friends and family know. You may be surprised how much people are willing to help.
 

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As a single student mama, I think that being a student is actually an ideal situation for a single mama when kids are young. Usually you have only to go to classes, which means kids don't have to go to daycare. Yes, subsisting on student loans sucks big time, and we've racked up an incredible amount of debt...but I would still have those same loans if I wasn't a mama.<br><br>
There are, like was already said, a lot of grants and special loans for mamas and single parents.<br><br>
I'm sorry you're going through this.
 

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Apply for financial aid. If you've already been granted a certain amount, you can apply for more because of your changed circumstances. Also talk to whoever deals with students w/ families or women, etc. Some schools have special programs w/ child care subsidies based on income, or to help you get your textbooks, etc.<br><br>
Apply for public assistance.<br><br>
It might be a good idea to find a part time job. Public assistance programs will often provide childcare, but as a student they often want you to work part time, too.<br><br>
Absolutely document everything, dates he left, lack of money, etc., and see a lawyer or a legal aid organization. Possibly your school might have a legal aid office, mine does. See if they can help you or point you to resources that can.
 

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Don't be afraid to contact the local Salvation Army and other local Food Banks. That is what they are there for. I was reminded of that again when I went to apply for food stamps.
 
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