Getting married tribe?

to EVERYTHING you are saying!!!

My own dear mother hasn't given me nearly as much flak as my MIL, which surprised me. My mom has been super supportive of the fact that I don't want to wear white, no heels, no veil, etc.

So are you ready to elope yet? :LOL

Well ours is going to be very unmaterialistic, but maybe because we are both planning a second marriage and decided about 4 weeks ahead of time. Or maybe because it is going to be in the middle of a campout with both of our families. I guess because I didn't shop for invitations (we had been planning the campout for a couple weeks before we decided all of our family is going to be there lets just get married-we even thought about not telling anyone until the minister showed up ), a dress, a cakemaker, favors or anything that I haven't noticed the materilistic side of weddings.

Not that my first was a grand affair (probably cost about $2000, food, dress, flowers, everything), but this time since we aren't having all the trimmmings (no attendants, no boquets, no colors, no specific clothes (my hope is my boys aren't too muddy or smell too much like fish!), ect.) we have really been focused on the ceremony and vows which are really the important part of the day.

Good Luck with getting what you want

I hear ya both!

Mallory, the idea of a suprise wedding sounds like fun. Our engagement party is going to be a camping trip with our honor people (except for one bridesmaid... she's not at peace with the great outdoors )

Loki, we're Catholic too, and have decided against eloping for the same reason, although it's starting to sound mighty tempting. :LOL

I've been trying to keep things in perspective, but it's not easy when you have people (um, one person really ) insisting I'll regret not having a veil/heels/wearing white....

Anyone else with MIL woes?

Also, anyone else *not* wearing white?

Those hippie skirts are so cute! I saw that they're at Old Navy now.

Are you nervous, Loki?

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October 1
We are planning semi-traditional, but based on what WE want. We are not accepting monetary help (unless it comes afterwards) because no one else gets a say :LOL
We have a hotel booked on the ocean (we live in Boston, wedding on south shore). It does the ceremony, reception, and lodging--weekend wedding, no one will have to leave the hotel if they don't want to. Short, quick ceremony led by a friend of ours who got ordained just for kicks, and we are sinking most of the money into the reception. BIG party for our friends/family. No real honeymoon, as I'll still be exclusively breastfeeding, but overall, I'm really excited about it! Our "DJ" will be my iPod & a PA system, and we're not doing flowers other than bouquets. I'm making all the centerpieces, with sand, seashells, driftwood, and other stuff I'll collect off the beach this summer. I want a sundress style wedding dress, and will just ask my "attendants" to wear red.

I'm actually excited about it--it's low key, relaxed, and we're doing exactly what we want. My 6 year old will be pulling her then 4 month old brother behind her down the aisle in a red wagon

Emmy, that sounds so sweet! We're having a beach party luau this summer just to celebrate our engagement. We're also not accepting $$$ towards the wedding because we've learned that $=dictatorship.

I would like more than anything in the world to have an outdoor wedding (beach or Bok Tower), but DP isn't willing to commit to that because of weather issues. That's what I get for wanting to marry a meteorologist! :LOL

Hi,

I'm not planning on getting married anytime soon, but I do officiate at weddings. As an Ethical Culture Leader, most of the couples who come to me to officiate at their weddings want someting somewhat alternative.

I always remind couples that this is their wedding and that their parents or in-laws had their weddings. Some parents try to influence how a wedding happens because they had a great experience with their own, and some because they didn't get to have the wedding of their dreams. Neither is a good reason to try and make the wedding their way. Sometimes it is easy to find a way to accommodate or honor parents, or other special people, but not always. That goes for both the ceremony and the reception.

Before the ceremony I always try to have couples spend a bit of quiet time together - sometimes to meditate or reflect together, to be able to think about and feel why they are getting married. And I also think it is important to have each person in the couple get a bit of time to breathe and center on his or her own before the ceremony. It is too easy to get caught up in the excitement and details of the day and not be able to focus on the importance and significance of the ceremony.

Wishing you all wonderful weddings,

Susan

turtlemuse What is an Ethical Culture Leader? WE finally asked one of my friends to get a Progressive Universal Life Church minister certificate, so she can marry us. She and my grandpa are going to do the ceremony, which we are all going to work on, we've also written our won vows (really the whole ceremony ) and I am so glad we decided not to go with a Baptist minister (the prevailing sect in this part of the country, I mean my town of 2500 has 3 or 4 different Baptist churches.)

It's interesting that we all have such different ideas of what is the important part of the day. From the honeymoon to the reception to the ceremony! I hope you all get what you want with out breaking the bank or upsetting too many relatives

How are you doing, Loki? I know it's getting close to the big day and all...