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I have a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old. Getting out the door to any activity is a huge ordeal for us. I know that leaving the house is the toughest "transition" of the day for children, but we just cannot get anywhere on time. And then I feel like I'm just "rushing" my children all the time.<br>
My older one goes to school two days a week and she doesn't want to be late there. I've asked her teacher to talk to her about that. So far, so good. But it's going to LLL, the grocery store, my ICAN meetings etc. She just dawdles soooo much. When it's something fun that she wants to do, I say, "Let me know when you're ready to go to your friend's house." But there are certain things she doesn't want to do that we must do----go to the grocery store, my ICAN meetings, other stores etc.<br>
Any ideas?<br><br><br>
If this has come up before, please direct me to the thread.
 

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In good weather I have been known to throw shoes and sweaters outside and get them ready there (no running around the house escaping mommy!)<br><br>
Good luck!<br><br>
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I'd set a time for 15 minutes before you have to leave. Then when it goes off, tell her you are setting the timer for 5 minutes and when it goes off again it is time to get ready because you have to leave. that gives you 10minutes to get them & you ready and out the door before it's time to leave.<br><br>
If that doesn't work you can always set your main clock back 10 minutes.
 

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Generally, when I am feeling like I'm rushing my kids, it means that I need start the getting out the door process about 15 minutes earlier. That gives my kids time to dawdle without my exploding.<br><br>
I also find that it helps enormously if I get myself ready to go BEFORE the kids. That way, I'm there to help them and don't get so frustrated by the fact that I have said "shoes. on. now." 5 times because I don't. If dd doesn't go get her shoes, I can, and then it's done. But if I'm trying to brush my teeth and get my shoes and get dd to get her shoes, it just ain't gonna happen.<br><br>
And remember if it's something for YOU, there's not much motivation for her. Sometimes giving her something to look forward to in the car (a special book, music tape) might work -- 'let's go get in the car so we can hear the rest of your tape.'<br><br>
And finally, don't be afraid to put her in the car in her pjs and/or without shoes. Our dd (2 1/2) reguarly goes to daycare in her pjs, not as a threat, but because it's simply easier. Ds has to be at kindergarten at a certain time. Daycare is much more flexible - so we scoop her up in her pjs, put her in the car and bring clothes. It works. You can put shoes/shirts/pants on at a LLL meeting, I'm sure!
 

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I second what Lynn said about Mom getting ready first. I'm dressed to shoes before breakfast, which helps me focus 100% on getting DD out the door.<br><br>
The other thing that's helped us a little is picking out clothes the night before. DD gets so bogged down in making a fashion statement! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
All that being said, I do not know how we're going to make it to kindergarten on time next year. It's all we can do to make it to preschool by 9am. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Generally, when I am feeling like I'm rushing my kids, it means that I need start the getting out the door process about 15 minutes earlier. That gives my kids time to dawdle without my exploding.<br><br>
I also find that it helps enormously if I get myself ready to go BEFORE the kids. That way, I'm there to help them and don't get so frustrated by the fact that I have said "shoes. on. now." 5 times because I don't. If dd doesn't go get her shoes, I can, and then it's done. But if I'm trying to brush my teeth and get my shoes and get dd to get her shoes, it just ain't gonna happen.<br></div>
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I always leave myself some time for dawdling, one last visit to the bathroom and stuff like that. While the kids are still playing I pack a bag, get myself all ready, and start giving prompts "we're leaving in 10 minutes", "finish that picture/song/cookie and then we'll put on your jacket" , so it's not a surprise.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I second what Lynn said about Mom getting ready first. I'm dressed to shoes before breakfast, which helps me focus 100% on getting DD out the door.<br><br>
The other thing that's helped us a little is picking out clothes the night before. DD gets so bogged down in making a fashion statement! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
All that being said, I do not know how we're going to make it to kindergarten on time next year. It's all we can do to make it to preschool by 9am. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> about laying out clothes the night before. That made a huge difference for us, and saved me a lot of energy that used to be spent fighting over what to wear.<br><br>
We still don't always get everywhere on time, but it's gotten better. We get to preschool on time, by getting up early. No tricks there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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We get ourselves ready to go long before we need to be anywhere. Then, we start getting our son ready about 30 minutes prior to departure. We are firm with him about when it's time to leave...it's not negotiable at all.
 

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myds is 3 (almost 4) and we've been doing this for a year now as I went back to work when he turned 3. The rule is this... he gets up about 1 hour before we leave. I give him his breakfast (a smoothie and vitamins) and when he is done w/ that he brushes his teeth and I get him dressed. While Im drying my hhair he gets on his boots and coat. If he refuses to do any of these things... or refuses to let me help him the first time I ask then he just goes "as is" to preschool adn ruins the morning. I have had to take him barefoot w/ toothpaste all over his face before... usually this happens once and not again.
 

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I was thinking about this thread this morning. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I find this is one area where co-sleeping does NOT help. All the "time management experts" say that Mom should get up before the rest of the family. Co-sleeping with my DD, that just ain't happening. If I don't want her to wake up, I have to stay with her.<br><br>
Anyone else experience this? It just makes my before bed routine that much more important.
 

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That's frustrating!<br><br>
I get everything ready the night before -- outfits out for all of us, snack packed, baby bag packed. If I have a lot that I will need to take with us, I'll even put the stuff in the car the night before! I have *everything* ready, from jackets and hats by the front door to a clean diaper with DD2's outfit. I do get myself ready while they wake so I can help them.
 

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My dh manages to stay so layed back getting the kids out the door and it's mainly because he allows an extremely long amount of time for putting on shoes and jacket. So it's not time that includes getting dressed and presentable.
 
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