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I haven't ever posted here but do lurk fairly frequently on the pregnancy board. I was going to post there but this board seems more fitting. I'm about 36 weeks now and am realizing this birth is going to happen soon. Anyway I was doing some reading tonight on tearing and am getting scared. All of a sudden I am feeling really unprepared. To sum my first birth did not go well and I ended up with an episiotomy and 4th or 5th degree tear to my rectum. Ugh.Anyway, my midwives keep telling me it's not likely to happen again, but I'm scared. I had started doing perineal massage with this pregnancy thinking it would help prevent a repeat tear but now I've read that it could contribute to tearing. I had also been thinking that I would try squatting for this birth but I think I read that this may put too much pressure on the perineum. I saw something about fingers in the vagina to try and help during pushing which was actually counter productive. Should I put something about this in my birth plan? What about internal exams? I guess I'm feeling confused.: Any help, thoughts, experiences would be greatly appreciated. TIA.