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<p>I just found out that I have an "impending miscarriage" - I'm still in my 5th week.  This is my third miscarriage in a row.  My first was at 9 weeks (subchorionic hemmorhage followed by a d&C); after 3 months of waiting I got pregnant again after 10 months only to miscarry at 6 weeks.  Then after three clomid/progesterone cycles (I ovulate round day 22 and so have a short luteal phase, I got pregnant only to find out that my beta levels have tanked so this pregnancy is destined to fail.  I am going on a family vacation next wednesday and will be around my 7 month pregnant sister in law, who is understandably excited and only wants to talk about her pregnancy.</p>
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<p>i have had the recurrent pregnancy loss panel done, and everything came back normal.  I do have two boys.  My first one was born after two blighted ovum miscarriages in a row.  I've had the hsg done, all the fertility testing done, and everything comes back normal.  I am 34 - my re says not to wait and to try again right away.  My progesterone levels this pregnancy were great (they were borderline last time).</p>
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<p>1) are my chances of havng a healthy pregnancy abysmal since no cause for these miscarriages has been found?</p>
<p>2) how do I get through the grief - it has really hit me hard this time, much harder than the others, and I need to suck it up for the family vacation, when, according to my re, I will just have started miscarrying.  He won't do a d&C because he says I need to go through it naturally for the fastest healing.</p>
<p>3) is there anything I can do to avoid another miscarriage, or do I need to just "roll the dice again" per my re?</p>
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<p><b>alliei</b> -- I'm so sorry for your losses, especially during the holidays. <img alt="hug2.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug2.gif"></p>
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<p>I'm just following my gut here--most early losses are due to genetic anomalies and are nature's way (not the the sch, obviously). I know that is small comfort at best. If your panels were all clear and your hormones are in balance (FSH, Estradiol), then your RE may be right. Sadly, egg quality goes way down in our thirties and first tri. m/cs often go up. Have you had clotting factors tested? Some clotting issues can result in 1st tri. losses. Has DH had a semen analysis?</p>
<p>Also, it is my understanding that low progesterone during early pregnancy is often an indication that the pregnancy is likely not viable (usually genetic). While REs treat w/progesterone, it doesn't necessarily fix the inherent problem.</p>
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<p><b>Answers to your ?s</b></p>
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<p>1. No! You have two beautiful children. You are able to <b>get</b> and <b>stay</b> pregnant. There is still LOTS of hope for you! </p>
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<p>2. It is devastating, I know, especially with a pregnant relative. Take time alone for yourself. Talk with friends/family if it helps you. Don't if it doesn't. Post here and vent. Turn to your DH for comfort. Perhaps ask your sister to be sensitive to your situation. If all else fails, how about a margarita? : )</p>
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<p>3. See the first part of my post above. That is the $1,000,000 question I wish all of us had the answer to! Maybe consider acupuncture and Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM). It helps many women. There is a book called "The Tao of Fertility" which some women find helpful. </p>
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<p>Sending you love, light, and healing during this difficult time.</p>
 

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<p>Momma I am so sorry for what you are going through. Multiple losses are so incredibly disheartening. </p>
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<p><strong>1) are my chances of having a healthy pregnancy abysmal since no cause for these miscarriages has been found?</strong><br>
You never know what will happen in the future. For those of us who have been down this road, we all *know* how hard this is to endure it. This is my 5th pregnancy in 3 years. I am now 23 weeks along. I lost all four of my other babies, some in 1st trimester and some in 2nd. I really didn't think there was any hope for me, as I am 40 now, but my husband asked me to try one more time and so far so good. *fingers and toes crossed*</p>
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<p><strong>2) how do I get through the grief - it has really hit me hard this time, much harder than the others, and I need to suck it up for the family vacation, when, according to my re, I will just have started miscarrying.  He won't do a d&C because he says I need to go through it naturally for the fastest healing.</strong></p>
<p>Cry. Alot. whenever you feel it and don't hold back. Wail like a crazy lady if you have to. I took long drives at night and went to sit by Lake Erie (I was living in Erie, PA at the time) and listen to the water and just cry and cry. I think that's the best way to let it all go. My husband saw me go through all of this, but he didn't experience it like I did. Don't expect your husband to be affected int he same way, or even know what to do with you.</p>
<p>As for D&C vs natural, you do what is best for your brain. He is right that D&C might cause scarring, but I lost one naturally, gave birth to one, and after that I couldn't handle it anymore and had a D&E for the 3rd at 20 weeks and finally a D&C for my last. It's what *I* needed and I don't regret it.</p>
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<p><strong>3) is there anything I can do to avoid another miscarriage, or do I need to just "roll the dice again" per my re?</strong></p>
<p>You could try a second opinion. That's what I did. I went to a specialist at UPenn and then another one at Cleveland Clinic and they both said the same thing. I needed to have that second opinion just to be sure. They both said, (basically! they were nicer about it!) "You're old and fat. Try again as soon as possible if you want to have a baby."</p>
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<p>And please join us at the Veterans Thread! It;s a thread in this forum and those ladies have given me so much support. Lean on anyone you can to get through it. <span><img alt="hug2.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug2.gif"></span></p>
 

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<p>I have had 4 early losses in the last 15 months. The last 2 were back to back. I just cant seem to make it past 5 weeks. The first 3 were not so bad. I had some wine and cried myself to sleep and was on the mend by the next day. The last one was hard. It felt like someone died. I dont even know if I am mentally prepared for another BFP but I keep trying.</p>
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<p>I dont really know what to tell you other than to let yourself greive and feel sad. I have one child so I know my body is capable if the conditions are right.</p>
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<p>All I know is that after I have baby number 2 I am done with TTC. DH is getting snipped and I never want to worry about getting pregnant ever again.</p>
 

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<p>It's good to know that I'm not alone on this crazy journey -  1 healthy child, 6 losses, all tests normal - my RE and OB just say "roll the dice" and I might get lucky again - I don't want to feel like a science project...my OB wants to try me on Lovenox even though my blood clotting panel came back normal.</p>
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<p>Advice?</p>
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<p>It's so nice to have support on here and read so many success stories!</p>
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<p>Maybe we should start a thread "rolling the dice again"....haha</p>
 
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