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I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this? but my friend gave birth to twin girls @ 32 weeks they are 4lbs 1oz and 4lbs 5oz.. poor mama ended up having one naturally and had to have the other one c-sec <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> and she has a 8 month old dd at home! (yes 8 months old!) She got to go home today and is pumping bm for her twins and caring for her older dd as well.. She lives out of state and i'd like to send a gift.. What helped you the most? gift cards? gas cards aren't an issue since they live only blocks from the hospital ..<br><br>
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Hi:<br><br>
Congratulations to your friend! Here's what I would have liked for my preemie twins:<br><br>
1) Preemie clothing: All the outfits we bought or received as presents before the birth were way too huge for our little peanuts. It was a hassle to find preemie clothes and buy them while we were going back and forth to the NICU and trying to get our family together. [It turned out that Macy's had the biggest selection of preemie clothes at decent prices for where we live.]<br><br>
2) Target gift card: For all those little necessities you find out you don't have.<br><br>
3) Inserts to support little heads in car seats: When we first used our car seats, we would have to use rolled up towels around their heads to keep them from flopping around - the head roll that came with the car seat was way too big. This was a hassle and didn't work all that well. We ended up receiving smaller head rolls (one from Eddie Bauer and both from Target, I believe) that fit inside the head rolls that came with car seats. This really helped our kids sit in their seats without their heads flopping around.<br><br>
4) Lots of very small diapers: Regardless of whether she goes with cloth or disposable, she'll need more than with a singleton and they will have to be small enough to fit her babies. If she goes with disposables, Pampers Snugglers in Newborn sizes are about the smallest standard brand. She'll also need more wipes than with a singleton.<br><br>
All the best to your very busy friend and her babies!
 

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"3) Inserts to support little heads in car seats: When we first used our car seats, we would have to use rolled up towels around their heads to keep them from flopping around - the head roll that came with the car seat was way too big. This was a hassle and didn't work all that well. We ended up receiving smaller head rolls (one from Eddie Bauer and both from Target, I believe) that fit inside the head rolls that came with car seats. This really helped our kids sit in their seats without their heads flopping around."<br><br>
Head inserts that do not come with seats are highly discouraged and can be dangerous. Towels and receiving blankets are preferred.
 

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thanks everyone! i would go clean and help with her 8 month old but they live out of state <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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gift certificates to restaurants and gas stations, preemie friendly clothes and "just born" sized clothes, and a friendly ear were all the things I treasured from friends and family.
 

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you're so sweet! Yikes, twins and a baby too! So are they Irish triplets??<br><br>
It sounds like they are doing well so they might be home soon if nothing gets in the way beforehand. I agree, a giftcard for Target or whatever store is near there would be much appreciated. Also, you can buy things bulk a lot of times on Amazon. See what she is using for dipes or whatever and order it off of Amazon to be shipped to her home.
 

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we call them the polish triplets <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I think i'll get them a gift card and maybe something for her 8mo dd as she might be feeling a bit left out during all this
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hi:<br><br>
Congratulations to your friend! Here's what I would have liked for my preemie twins:<br><br>
1) Preemie clothing: All the outfits we bought or received as presents before the birth were way too huge for our little peanuts. It was a hassle to find preemie clothes and buy them while we were going back and forth to the NICU and trying to get our family together. [It turned out that Macy's had the biggest selection of preemie clothes at decent prices for where we live.]<br><br>
2) Target gift card: For all those little necessities you find out you don't have.<br><br>
3) Inserts to support little heads in car seats: When we first used our car seats, we would have to use rolled up towels around their heads to keep them from flopping around - the head roll that came with the car seat was way too big. This was a hassle and didn't work all that well. We ended up receiving smaller head rolls (one from Eddie Bauer and both from Target, I believe) that fit inside the head rolls that came with car seats. This really helped our kids sit in their seats without their heads flopping around.<br><br>
4) Lots of very small diapers: Regardless of whether she goes with cloth or disposable, she'll need more than with a singleton and they will have to be small enough to fit her babies. If she goes with disposables, Pampers Snugglers in Newborn sizes are about the smallest standard brand. She'll also need more wipes than with a singleton.<br><br>
All the best to your very busy friend and her babies!</div>
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1) Preemie clothing is a great idea. Nic was born at 35 weeks @ 5 lbs and even preemie clothes were big on him but they fit much better than newborn sizes. We found preemie clothes at Babies R Us for about $10-15 an outfit.<br><br>
2) We appreciate all the Target giftcards. We use them all the time for everything: more wipes, dipes, laundry detergent, etc.<br><br>
3) Aftermarket head inserts are really discouraged by car seat professionals. You're best at sticking with rolled up towels/receiving blankets. Nic is 3 weeks old and we still have to use rolled up receiving blankets.<br><br>
4) Pampers Swaddlers Newborn are the dipes we're using. We can buy them in a case of 96 at BRU for $24. We go through 40+ a week so the big case comes in handy. We also love the Pampers sensitive wipes, Nic fusses at the Huggies wipes but he's ok with the Pampers.<br><br>
My friends have been great at just coming around with food and to give us a break. I know you can't do that since your friend is out of state but maybe giftcards for some takeout food from a restaurant she likes?
 

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"Head inserts that do not come with seats are highly discouraged and can be dangerous. Towels and receiving blankets are preferred."<br><br>
Yeah, that's what we were told and tried at first, but they caused out kids necks to flex forward too much and didn't stay in place. We ended up using the other head inserts after talking with the neonatalogist and the person at our hospital who specialized in infant car seats (one of our twins was still in the NICU and we were going back and forth from home every day). The new inserts ended up stabilizing the head much better.<br><br>
Edited to add: I should have explained the safety measures we took before using the head inserts instead of giving a blanket recommendation. We were concerned about the safety warnings as well and wouldn't have used them without prior approval. Sorry for misleading anyone! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Preemie clothes will definately be appreciated and make a great keep-sake too! Though I <i>hate</i> the place, Walmart has preemie one-piece outfits for $8.<br><br>
Wipes & dipes are great too. Pampers sensative wipes are my favorite also.<br><br>
A case of nutrition bars would be really nice too. I always too a Bumble bar with me to the NICU and I even found I could sneak a bite between kangaroo sessions.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:<br><br>
Also, if she doesn't already have a bunch, a few extra pump horns will make her life easier. If she is using a Medela pump, you can get more horns at Target for ~$7.<br><br>
But most importantly, give her tons of support. Leave her messages when ever you think about it because wow, the NICU is emotionally very challenging.
 

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Congratulations to your friend on the birth of her twins! I had my first twin vaginally and the second one c-section, so I feel her pain. Tell her that the upside is now when she goes to baby showers, she can pretty much quiet the whole room with her birth story. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
We loved getting preemie clothes as gifts and we got a ton of them. Other stuff that was great were diapers (but newborn size, not preemie size - they outgrew them so quickly) and definitely GCs to take-away restaurants. We got some of those plus one GC to a "nicer" place (Benihana) and we still haven't managed to use the nicer one. We didn't have the stomach for a nice fun dinner while they were in the NICU, nor the time once they were out. If she doesn't have Karen Gromada's <i>Mothering Twins</i> that is also an essential book.
 

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A Moby Wrap.<br>
Gift Cards<br>
Diapers<br>
Wipes<br><br>
Can't think of anything more specific for a mom of twin preemies, but I would think she would appreciate anything a mom of a singleton would enjoy - just doubled <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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The one thing someone got us when DD was born at 30 wks that DH and I felt like we couldn't live without was a book on Preemies and their special needs, it is also sort of support book on being in the NICU. I think it is called Preemies, with an adorable picture of a little babe stretched out on the cover. When I get home I'll check the author and post again.<br><br>
Congrats to your friend.
 

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The book is "Preemies: The Essential Guide for Parents of Premature Babies" by Linden, Doron, and Paroli<br><br>
It is wonderful! Our NICU had one for every niche, and my sister got me my own copy for Yule.
 

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Dr. Sears' preemie book was very useful to me as well. I found it provide a nice balance. Less medical information but more baby bonding information. The breastfeeding info. was more useful for me and it really encouraged me to demedicalize once we brought DS home (co-sleeping, baby wearing, baby-led feeding- all things I didn't do with my first preemie).
 

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i never thought about sewing a sling.. that might help... can you use a sling for twins? (ring sling) i could always just sew and send them two so one for mama one for papa <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
And i will check and see if maybe i can find a preemie book at the used bookstore (i'm a single mom so money is super tight!) plus i know her well and she wouldn't mind getting a used copy<br><br>
thanks for so many great ideas! I know she must be super stressed (she sounds okay on the phone so thats good).. I just have my 9 month old and sometimes i know I get really stressed out! i can't imagine whats its like to add preemie twins to the mix! whooaa the diapers they are gonna need!.. i would sew them some cloth fitted diapers but i know they would never get used because they are in a small apartment and have to do laundry at the laundormat.. but maybe i can sew them some warm fleece reciving blankets!.. hmm now i need to go see how much fabric i have! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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