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So, is there an etiquette thing here? Am I <i>supposed</i> to give her a gift or is it totally optional?<br><br>
I want to give my doula a gift. She is super sweet and has been very supportive, like she is supposed to be. I am really appreciative of her since she has no issues and is very supportive of my choice to UC. Anyway, I am trying to figure out what to get/make her.<br><br>
She has a young DD that she wears and she only has a ring sling. I was thinking about making her a MT or an Onbo as a thank you gift. Is this a good idea or no? Also time is ticking closer and well my to do list is still pretty large... so thats a factor too.<br><br>
Any ideas, what are you all doing?
 

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I havn't met my doula yet so I don't know what I will get her. But, I've worked as a birth/postpartum doula and midwife and can share what gifts I've most appreciated.<br><br>
For one, I really like receiving pictures. But more than that, my favorite gifts have been handmade things. Like a knitted diaper cover for my dd, or homemade baked goods to share with family after being away at a birth. I think a sling is a wonderful idea, very thoughtful even if you don't get a chance to make it yourself.<br><br>
My other favorite gift has been earings with the baby's birthstone. If she wears earrings, I may get my doula this as a gift, as it has been my favorite birth related gift.
 

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Most of my clients have given gift cards to the PX or extra money on top of the fee. Some resources are limited here as far as making things and it can be kind of hard to get around here so that's the easy way to do it. I don't mind though. But yes, I think gifts or a little something extra is very nice.
 

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I will be giving my doula and my midwife each one of these mother necklaces.<br><a href="http://www.etsy.com/listing/24889472/mother-cast-silver-cherry-blossom-bud" target="_blank">http://www.etsy.com/listing/24889472...ry-blossom-bud</a>
 

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Shenanegans, that's beautiful! It's also $100USD? Wow. Nice gift.<br><br>
Errr I'm just happy to be able to pay my fee to my doula, nevermind a gift on top of that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag"> And as for the MWs, here in Ontario they're covered by OHIP (Min of Health and Long Term Care) so I didn't think they could accept gifts. I remember when dd2 was born the MWs suggested I make a financial donation to the clinic so they could help moms who had no status in Canada, no OHIP coverage, but still wanted midwifery care.
 

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My mom just got this necklace for me - <a href="http://www.etsy.com/listing/41144039/new-mama-pendant" target="_blank">http://www.etsy.com/listing/41144039/new-mama-pendant</a>. Obviously, I'm pregnant, but I'm also a midwifery student and she thought it was very fitting to me and my life. It is a beautiful necklace and very well made. She has other pregnant pieces on her site, that are also beautiful. I think a gift to your doula is very special - especially if she is doing a wonderful job for you.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Shenanegans, that's beautiful! It's also $100USD? Wow. Nice gift.<br><br>
Errr I'm just happy to be able to pay my fee to my doula, nevermind a gift on top of that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag"> And as for the MWs, here in Ontario they're covered by OHIP (Min of Health and Long Term Care) so I didn't think they could accept gifts. I remember when dd2 was born the MWs suggested I make a financial donation to the clinic so they could help moms who had no status in Canada, no OHIP coverage, but still wanted midwifery care.</div>
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Yep, midwives in Ontario do accept gifts. But they are not expected. They are a token of appreciation, but I don't think monetary gifts would be accepted. If you want to gift but don't want to spend, write a thank you card and put a picture in it.
 

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I gave mine a picture of her and the baby right after birth and a hat that I crocheted. If I weren't crafty, I probably would've given her the picture and something baked.
 

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Thanks for all the replies.<br><br>
She is a newer dula and I am one of her last mommas that she is taken on for no fee. I suppose giving her some extra $$ would be nice but honestly we don't have it... roof leaking, van had to have new tires now the car... the list goes on and on. As it always does. Usually this is a no brainier thing for me, I gift a lot but she is crafty like me- so thats out the window! I would bake her something (and I guess I still could) but she is vegan and really I know nothing about that. I would be afraid of doing something wrong. I still may give that a shot though.<br><br>
I love that necklace shenanegans! Absolutely beautiful! However, way out of my price range but your doula/midwife will be pleased, I know I would be!<br><br>
I love the birthstone ear rings idea and may end up doing that if I can't get the baby carrier made. I think I am going to try for that... if only I could do something with this pesky swelling... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I would bake her something (and I guess I still could) but she is vegan and really I know nothing about that. I would be afraid of doing something wrong. I still may give that a shot though.</div>
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I have a whole bunch of vegan baking recipes at home, the last one I made was super easy, lemon bars (and passed the omnivore dessert-loving taste test). I'd be happy to send info.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have a whole bunch of vegan baking recipes at home, the last one I made was super easy, lemon bars (and passed the omnivore dessert-loving taste test). I'd be happy to send info.</div>
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Those sound good! Please send the recipe this way... I think I need to do my own personal taste test. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yummy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yummy">
 

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yeah they are 98$ but I make them myself, that is a link from my etsy shop so they are cheaper for me!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">yeah they are 98$ but I make them myself, that is a link from my etsy shop so they are cheaper for me!</div>
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Such a wise momma! Maybe I should steal your idea too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Those sound good! Please send the recipe this way... I think I need to do my own personal taste test. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yummy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yummy"></div>
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I have it in a PDF file, if you PM me your email I'd be happy to send to you. (or is there a place I can post a PDF?)<br><br>
For the non-dairy "butter" I highly recommend Earth Balance, it's the best butter substitute by far for vegan baking.
 

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I've been thinking about this for a while too. This will be my doula's first birth, and so her services are "free", but I really want to give her something special. I love the jewelry/birthstone idea, but she lives a very SIMPLE life, so I'm not sure if she would find it too attention-getting. I'll have to do a jewelry check on her next time we meet!
 
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