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Hi all! My BIL and SIL are adopting a baby girl from China - they're probably going over in March to get her. My DH and I would like to get them a Christmas present that would help them out on the trip. I think MIL and FIL are getting them a digital camera. Do you have any suggestions for things that would be really useful for them?<br><br>
TIA!<br><br>
Michelle
 

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Michelle,<br><br>
What a thoughtful person you are! There are some packing lists of things people bring to China at <a href="http://www.fwcc.org/packtips.htm" target="_blank">http://www.fwcc.org/packtips.htm</a> which might give you some ideas.<br><br>
I belong to the "pack light" school of thought, so while I think a digital camera is great, I wouldn't get them a lot of electronic stuff to lug over there otherwise. There is also a lot of stuff that it's just easier to buy over there, like an umbrella stroller. Slings and snugglis are iffy, IMHO. We brought a snuggli on the first trip and a sling the second trip. The sling was probably a better choice and we got some use out of it. Some of the kids are a little too big for the snuggli and many really don't like being carried in either.<br><br>
Do they have good luggage? I would have greatly appreciated that as a gift. We brought one very large and one carryon sized, softsided wheeled upright and a smallish backpack. I like the kind that lets you strap pieces together. Some people swear by the giant rolling duffle but I found them awful. I helped one of the single moms on our trip who got sick and had one, and honestly if it were mine, I would have abandoned it in the Guangzhou airport.
 

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Wow! What an exciting time for your family <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
The first thing that I thought of was a sling! Of course, this is probably something that you would want to run by her first as there are many brands/types in the market.
 

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If you're not married to the idea of giving something that they can take with them to China, getting something for later and for an older baby might be the way to go. I know one thing that's a little unique to adopting older babies (esp. if it's your first child) is that you have to have your home well baby/toddler-proof from the get-go. There's no "grace period" as with a newborn!<br><br>
Consulting with them about babyproofing supplies might be thoughtful -- if they don't already have gates purchased, a high-quality one (fairly expensive) is a wonderful gift, esp. if they have stairs. If they don't have a clue about this topic yet, perhaps getting them a gift certif. to a place that carries good products (and have helpful sales associates) might be the most practical route, if not the most personal.<br><br>
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My vote - a baby carrier! (Though I wouldn't do this for Xmas... you need some time to narrow down your search/purchase.)<br><br>
A sling (more than 1, but it you want to give just 1 you have a lot of options) like the <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Over the Shoulder Baby Holder. I love the padding and it's very cozy.<br><br>
I also love my Maya Wrap sling, unpadded. There are other brands out there, like the padded shoulder variety - not sure the names.<br><br>
This site has a good overview of various carriers:<br><a href="http://store.peppermint.com/" target="_blank">http://store.peppermint.com/</a><br><br><a href="http://www.thebabywearer.com/" target="_blank">http://www.thebabywearer.com/</a><br><br>
The Mei Tai - Chinese Carrier, i.e., Asian Baby Carrier (ABC) is gaining in popularity. Many WAHMs have created their own versions (more fabric, wider variety of fabric choices). The most popular one right now is the <a href="http://www.kozycarrier.com" target="_blank">Kozy Carrier</a>.<br><br>
Tell them to save their money and avoid the Bjorn - and just get a Kozy! There is a 3 month wait for them (I just got 2.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> ) It rocks because you can wear it on the front OR back. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
So a sling (or any soft baby carrier to be worn against the body) for bonding is what I would get.<br><br>
Any parent (adoptive or birth) needs that. And so do <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> babies and young children.<br><br>
That and a copy of <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/reading.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="reading"><a href="http://www.continuum-concept.org/" target="_blank">The Continuum Concept</a>.<br><br>
Visit the Babywearing Board here at MDC for more info on the various types of carriers (or that babywearer site.)<br><br>
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If you don't like that idea... you can buy them a beautiful, leather album or Scrapbooking album and YOU can start the scrapbook for them (since they'll be pretty busy). I bought scrapbooking items 4 years ago I have yet to use! :LOL<br><br>
Another idea: a gift box of great board books for babies/toddlers. Things for them to read to them.
 

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yeah, baby carriers and slings are awesome, which you probably already know since you're a mom. Just be careful with the ones that have padded sides -- if your SIL is petite, she may not be able to cinch it tight enough (I'm 5'2", short-waisted to boot, and have had big problems trying to use slings with padded sides).
 

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While we did get some use out of the carriers while in China, once home, neither one of our girls wanted anything to do with them, so I found them of limited utility.
 

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I'm 5'2, not short-waisted and no problems with the padding (size Medium). It that sling were too large for me, I'd try a size Small, which is WAY more snug/petite. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
Another gift option (not necessarily for the trip) are soft leather baby shoes.<br><br><a href="http://www.robeez.com/" target="_blank">Robeez</a><br><br><a href="http://www.bobux.com/index.asp" target="_blank">Bobux</a> My personal fav.<br><br><a href="http://www.joshoes.com/store/" target="_blank">Joshoes</a> (Inexpensive, plain design, made by a WAHM.)
 

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I'd get them and ABC such as the Kozy. Helpful in China, helpful to promote bonding, helpful on the plane, and possibly once they get home as well. Also far more flexible as to who can wear them as there are no buckles to adjust, can be used to carry newborns through large toddlers, and as someone else mentioned on front or back on small or large adults.
 

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Mine are more after-trip suggestions:<br><br>
--a subscription to Adoptive Families magazine; I find it really good reading;<br>
--the day before they get home, stock their frig with milk, fresh fruit and veggies, bread, etc; put a few casseroles or other dinner items in the freezer; and whatever their decadent items are (chocolate, wine, potato chips); had someone done this for me I would have volunteered to be their lifelong slave!
 

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Thanks for your responses! A lot of these are great ideas for when we have a baby shower. For Christmas, we decided to get them a Baby Sherpa backpack (it's what SIL wanted, although overpriced IMO), and a good suitcase.<br><br>
Thanks again!
 
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