Anyone else out there with this? My eight-year-old has ADHD w/giftedness. Her neurologist thinks maybe Asperger's too. I'm having a hard time managing behaviors. Any suggestions?
Originally Posted by joensally
I've got some great resources for you. Many of them are offered on google books with a large preview so you can get a sense of the book before trying to hunt it down at the library or buying it.
The Misdiagnosis and Dual Diagnosis of Gifted Children and Adults, Webb et al. (not saying your DD is misdiagnosed, but this book does a great job of describing things. It's hard teasing out what's what when a child is multiply complicated).
The Mislabeled Child, Eide and Eide. (Great descriptions of how certain diagnoses manifest and remediation strategies).
Kids Caught in the Syndrome Mix
When the Labels Don't Fit (I just really like this book, and again it's filled with strategies, including living in your world with a SN kid).
The Oasis Asperger's book
I really like Smart but Scattered - it's about Executive Functioning, which kids with AS and ADHD struggle with. It helps determine which areas your child is struggling in and offers strategies to build these skills.
It sounds like she needs some help with perspective taking. Winner's work (socialthinking.com) is amazing. We've used the SuperFlex curriculum with great success at home, and her other materials are also wonderful.
Do you have access to social skills groups? These are extremely helpful.
What kind of school does she attend? I'm curious that the impression is that you know who all of the gifted kids are, and that they're all well-behaved, and that everyone else knows your DD is smart but assumes she should "behave." It sounds like you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself. Lots of kids act out, especially in early elementary when they don't have developed self-regulation strategies.
Is your daughter receiving any therapies? Does she have sensory issues? Sensory and anxiety can form a loop that leaves a child rigid in their thinking and limited in their ability to see others' perspectives or reasonably respond to stimuli.
There are a number of parents here with kids who are gifted and have an ASD, or who are "neurologically atypical" but without an ASD. My son's in the latter category, but the strategies that work for kids with AS complexities work with him.
If you're googling, "twice exceptional" or 2E refers to being gifted with another complexity.
Well, before I was a ps teacher I was an IT manager and project manager in banking in NYC and made more money than dh. I lost my job pre-child and we managed to adjust over the course of a few years without losing our house. It was ROUGH. But we are now able to be minus an income for me. To be honest, the whole experience of adjusting to the change in income and how it allowed me to be home when my ds was younger and had some PROFOUND developmental problems (seriously--just beyond belief) has put us in a mindset where we'd soon cram the 4 of us into a 2br apt. for me to be home than have our house. But dh and I are very much on the same page about it. We've seen what my being home has done for our son (granted--he was in a way different place than what we're discussing here... where his is now is a HUGE, HUGE improvement to where he was).Originally Posted by CassandraD
Are you still working? I've thought of homeschooling, but can't afford to quit my job to do it : (
It is confusing.Originally Posted by karne
When we got the Add/ADHD dx for our child, and meds were very clearly the route to go, I cried, a lot. It was part saddness, but a bigger part relief because finally, it was a validation that there was something beyond "poor choices" being identified. DH and I have no more special tricks for making sense, or working with our kids issues than anyone else, precisely because they are our own kids. We struggled with feeling like we should have the answers, and we felt like other people felt like we should have the answers, but truthfully, we are walking the path right along with our kids, and it's confusing and difficult at times.