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My DH always gets me something relatively thoughtful for my birthday, our anniversary, Mother's Day, etc. And I never get him anything except a card. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> It's not because I don't love him, it's because (a) he is *so* incredibly picky about everything and (I swear, I'm not exaggerating here) probably would secretly think whatever I got him was dumb and useless, and (b) he goes out and buys whatever he wants as soon as he decides he wants it, so there's not exactly a list of things he wants that I could pick from.<br><br>
In the past, I've tried getting him a few little things that I thought were special, but they always flop big time. For example, one year for Valentine's Day, I gave him a red basket that had a bunch of "sexy" gifts in it, like a pair of boxer shorts with red hearts on them, a Kama Sutra book, and some massage oils. He wore the boxers a couple of times, then threw them away because they were "too tight." He looked at the book once and proclaimed the positions to be "ridiculous," (they were pretty ridiculous, and we laughed about it) and it's been sitting in a drawer untouched ever since. The massage oils have never even been opened.<br><br>
Then for his birthday last year, my parents got him an iPod, and I bought him a subscription to Rhapsody so he could buy songs (we were pretty broke at the time). He never once logged into Rhapsody but instead downloaded songs on some program (Limewire?) and then, after a couple of months, told me I could cancel the subscription to Rhapsody if I wanted to, because he wasn't going to use it. He doesn't even use the iPod my parents bought him anymore; he says, "I have an MP3 player in my truck, so I really don't need it."<br><br>
Buying clothes for him is not even CLOSE to an option. The sleeves have to fall at exactly the right place on his arm, shirts have to be the exact right length, and certain colors of denim (for jeans) are off-limits, not to mention they have to be exactly the right fit in the crotch. He owns more shoes than I do, so he doesn't need any of those. He has 3 watches that he never wears (one of which I bought him, and he wore maybe a few times, then put in a drawer never to see the light of day again, and that was actually probably the most successful gift I ever gave him!). He has a ton of pairs of sunglasses.<br><br>
He has a boat, and he likes to play golf, but he is constantly buying stuff for both of those hobbies. The one thing I can think of right now that I could buy him would be a kneeboard for the boat, but I KNOW I would get the wrong kind, and he's probably going to buy one before his birthday in September anyway.<br><br>
Any suggestions at all?
 

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You lost me at golf. For my notoriously difficult to buy for BiL I always found something he liked once he took up golf.<br><br>
My DH is the same way but since he is more of a nerd I have found some good stuff for him at <a href="http://www.thinkgeek.com" target="_blank">www.thinkgeek.com</a><br>
The best was a Swiss army knife that has a thumbdrive, flashlight and a pen.
 

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My dh is like that, although he doesn't buy so much. He is just incredibly pick....er...<i>particlular</i>, and my gifts are never what he wants. He, otoh, always manages to get me the perfect thing, even if I didn't know it existed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Anyway, I have stopped buying him gifts for the most part. Instead, I make him a special meal, and make it a generally special day for him (Father's day and his Birthday--we don't do gifts for our anniversary, and Christmas is mostly about he kids). We go hiking if that is what he wants, or sometimes he just wants to take dd to a movie, or sometimes he wants to go out to eat.<br><br>
I did come up with a winner gift one Father's day. I bought his favorite "treats": hot sauce, a 6-pack of pricey beer, and jalepeno potato chips, lol.
 

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I agree, it sounds like gifts aren't your DH's love language. So I'd try to make the day special with things he likes. What about an experience? Would he like a private golf lesson?<br>
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Tickets to something! Even if it isn't something he'd LOVE, he'll be obligated to go with you, and the two of you could have a good time. Something unique like a boat ride or something. (Here, we'd have a choice of boat cruise, scenic train ride, zoo, sporting event, movies, or play. I don't know what you've got there.)<br><br>
Re: the massage oil... it is apparently up to YOU to crack those babies open, so do it! A massage from you should have been an integral part of that gift... better late than never! But be sure you're feeling frisky. Dh and I always remind each other that 78% of massages end in you-know-what. (And 67% of statistics are made up on the spot, too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">)<br><br>
ETA ok I read that he has a boat, so a boat ride would have to be something special like a dinner cruise.
 

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I agree with the ideas and especially second the nice dinner. I'm the picky one in this family but I'm always happy to go out to dinner.
 

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My dh is like this. I either throw him a party, make him a fav. food, or buy him a present that we can go and exchange at the mall together <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">, at least that's an outing!<br><br>
oh-- and as picky as he is, he really loves hand made stuff, like knitted scarves and wristwarmers ect.
 

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I play golf and use this website in the us: <a href="http://www.tgw.com/main.jsp?SITE_ID=W0011&EMC-062308ud1&LNK=TGWTop:" target="_blank">http://www.tgw.com/main.jsp?SITE_ID=...d1&LNK=TGWTop:</a> they are very cheap so you'd be able to get him something really nice. Let me know if you need any help or recommendations in the golfing department<br><br>
Here are a few ideas: <a href="http://www.tgw.com/customer/category/product.jsp?SUBCATEGORY_ID=7469" target="_blank">http://www.tgw.com/customer/category...TEGORY_ID=7469</a> remember if he is a right hand player he'' need a left hand glove.<br><a href="http://www.tgw.com/customer/category/product.jsp?SUBCATEGORY_ID=8527" target="_blank">http://www.tgw.com/customer/category...TEGORY_ID=8527</a><br><br>
I was thinking that golf balls or golf gloves are something that every golfer needs to buy again and again. The cloves and balls I recomment are top quality and shouldn't make him feel like he can't use them.<br><br>
Pm me if you need help with that.<br><br>
Anne
 
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