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When giving a gift with a designated value which do you do?

  • Spend the allotted amount, ignoring sales/coupons/etc.

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<p>Ok, for by DH's family we draw names and by a nice gift in the $20-25 range.  The person's whose name I drew had a list with multiple items on it.  One of the gifts is usually priced at $33/set before tax.  They had a one day sale last week, and with my coupons, the sale, and a special discount, I was able to get 2 sets for $25 with tax.  I was thrilled at how much I saved, and thought I would give her 1 set for Christmas and one set for her birthday (in Jan).  DH says I should give her both sets for xmas since I only spent $25 for each.  What do you think?</p>
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<p>If it matters the sale price was $40/2 sets (without tax), I used a special discount from filling out an online survey, and a member reward promo code to get the price down to the $25 ( I also avoided shipping by having it delivered to the store).</p>
 

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<p>It's the value.  No one nickles and dimes in my family.  It is more about the thought then anything.</p>
 

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<p>sorry answered before I saw the rest of your post. If you are going to give her both eventually anyway I would just give both now.</p>
 

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<p>I'd give one set now and another later.  She doesn't need to know how much you spent, and in fact had you not noticed the sale, not had the coupons and not gotten the special discount, you'd be paying beyond the price limit anyways.</p>
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<p>Another thing to remember too is that other people probably will be watching what you give, and if they didn't notice the sale on the items you bought, they would have thought you exceeded the price limit. </p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Ellp</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1284181/gifts-with-a-dollar-limit#post_16100711"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I'd give one set now and another later.  She doesn't need to know how much you spent, and in fact had you not noticed the sale, not had the coupons and not gotten the special discount, you'd be paying beyond the price limit anyways.</p>
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<p><strong>Another thing to remember too is that other people probably will be watching what you give, and if they didn't notice the sale on the items you bought, they would have thought you exceeded the price limit. </strong></p>
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<p>This is what I was thinking, too.  I would give just one set for Christmas.</p>
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<p>If I spent 25 for 2 then I would give both.  For me it is the dollar spent.  So if I manage to get twice as many things for the same amount then to be sure the receiver will get more.</p>
 

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<p>I would give both now. For me it's more about how it would feel to get the same thing for my birthday that I got for Christmas, like the person giving the gift had done the work for Christmas and then just decided to say "screw it" for my birthday.</p>
 

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If it were a gift for my side of the family I would give one. For DH's family I would need to give both. I just had to go out and add to a gift for a member of DH's family because I got a great deal and he said we had to hit the target $ exactly.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>pumpkin</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1284181/gifts-with-a-dollar-limit#post_16101248"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br>
I just had to go out and add to a gift for a member of DH's family because I got a great deal and he said we had to hit the target $ exactly.</div>
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It's none of his business how good of a deal you got. The recipient is getting the same object whether you paid full price or got a discount. Why not just make it mandatory to give cash or gift cards if "hitting the target" is so important? I would be tempted to just hand over a personal check now, no wrapping or anything, if someone said that to me about a gift I had gotten them. </p>
 

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<p>I'd probably give one now and one later, but then again we are really broke these days.  I certainly don't think you're "obligated" to give both because they ended up costing you $25, or "miserly" if you don't give them both at once, or anything like that.  In other words I see no problem with it.</p>
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<p>Another thought is that giving two *whatevers* now and then something else later is well... just more stuff, yk?  It totally depends on the circumstances, but, for example, I would prefer to give my kids one set of Lego now and another one in a few months, than two sets now and then even more stuff down the road.  We're always trying to minimize the stuff that comes into our house.  Just my opinion of course, I know a lot of people would feel differently....</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>MusicianDad</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1284181/gifts-with-a-dollar-limit#post_16101240"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-right:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-bottom:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I would give both now. For me it's more about how it would feel to get the same thing for my birthday that I got for Christmas, like the person giving the gift had done the work for Christmas and then just decided to say "screw it" for my birthday.</p>
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<br><br><p> The sets are towel sets and she wants 8 sets.  since her b-day is in Jan, her birthday list is usually just what she did not get off her xmas list, so I know she will want them.</p>
 

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<p>Whenever our family does a $ amount it's more about what you spend then what the gift is actually worth. But to be honest, we're usually more concerned with the opposite (that someone spent too much on us). I thought $ amounts are usually put in place to save everyone money and make sure nobody feels like they have to break the bank to make someone else happy. So I'd probably be really happy to know that you got such a great gift and didn't spend the full amount. But to answer your question........<br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>anj_rn</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1284181/gifts-with-a-dollar-limit#post_16103352"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>MusicianDad</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1284181/gifts-with-a-dollar-limit#post_16101240"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I would give both now. For me it's more about how it would feel to get the same thing for my birthday that I got for Christmas, like the person giving the gift had done the work for Christmas and then just decided to say "screw it" for my birthday.</p>
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<br><br><p> The sets are towel sets and she wants 8 sets.  since her b-day is in Jan, her birthday list is usually just what she did not get off her xmas list, so I know she will want them.</p>
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I was going to say the same thing as MusicianDad. Even with your description of the gift, I would still probably chose to give both at Christmas and then something else for her birthday. It's more about the excitement and element of surprise then anything. She could be perfectly happy receiving the same gift twice, but if I were the giver I wouldn't want to take the chance.</p>
 

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<p>I'm kind of in the middle on this. I tend to get great sales so I <strong>will</strong> give multiple items off a list... so for ex. I got my cousin 3 gifts & the total would have been $60 (the limit is $25-30) but I only actually spent $27 after sales etc. For my SIL the limit was $50 and I only spent $25 but I got her $60 worth of gifts. So I kind of try to balance the total value with how much I spent & how often the items generally go on sale. If everyone knows that XYZ is always on sale for 1/2 off, I wouldn't count the full price toward my total.</p>
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<p>Wow that is confusing to write out lol.</p>
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<p>Anyway. In your case, the only reason I would lean toward giving both is that they are identical. I kind of think it would be weird to give the exact same thing for her bday, but maybe she wouldn't feel the same... If they were 2 different items then I wouldn't even hesitate to give one for Christmas & one for bday.</p>
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<p>OH last year I had my dad for a gift swap & wanted to get him something that was way over the limit. So when I gave it to him I told him that it was also his birthday gift (which was the next month). So on his birthday he just got a card from us (plus we had dinner with him etc. so still celebrated, just no additional gift). Maybe you could do that?</p>
 

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It's none of his business how good of a deal you got. The recipient is getting the same object whether you paid full price or got a discount. Why not just make it mandatory to give cash or gift cards if "hitting the target" is so important? I would be tempted to just hand over a personal check now, no wrapping or anything, if someone said that to me about a gift I had gotten them. </p>
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I guess I wasn't clear. DH said I had to spend more, not the recipient. He and his brother negotiate an exact $ amount to spend total on the other family. Since we have one<br>
Child and they have many that means my DD gets a big gift from them. Since their kids get smaller gifts from us I can't be cheap. We had to switch to this method because the negotiated per person system was getting unfair to us.. I would rather we not bring up money at all, but that is how his family does it.
 
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