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I see lots of mamas here that have their rainbow babies or are far along enough to be out of the woods for an early loss.<br>
I've been wondering, did you find out what was causing your losses, or did you just keep trying?<br>
After 3 losses in a row, I just feel so lost. I want to try again, but I just wish I knew if it was a lost cause. YKWIM? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I have only had one very early loss, so I have no clue how to respond, but I wanted to give you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I am praying for you!
 

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My rainbow after three consecutive losses is 4 months old. There is hope....<br><br>
I did the RPL testing and came up with little in the way of an explanation. I chose aggressive empiric treatment with heparin, baby aspirin, prescription folate and progesterone. It is not for everyone but I am happy it was available to me.<br><br>
I won't insult you with statistics about loss. When you come up on the wrong side of the statistics over and over and over again, the numbers become meaningless.<br><br>
It is a painful, difficult decision to try again. With or without testing and treatment. Making the conscious decision to put yourself out there again is terrifying.<br><br>
With deep sincerity I say, "If there was hope for me, there is hope for you." I wish you peace and comfort as you grieve your baby and move into the future.<br><br>
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I've had three early miscarriages (in the first three months) in between having five wonderful sons...then I had a stillbirth of twins. Sometimes loss is exponentially dealt out in unfair ratios. Some of us have several losses...some of us have only one...some....none.<br><br>
Thinking of you...XXX
 

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Amy is right. It's a crappy, crappy situation. I wish I could offer you some hope right now.<br>
How long until you get your test results?
 

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They said they will have the results by Friday...so probably next week.<br>
I hope they send them directly to me so I can obsess on Google over the weekend. Luckily I know someone in the doctor's office the results are supposed to be sent to, so she will probably call me right away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx"><br>
If this turns out it was something easily fixable, I may freak that I lost another baby.<br>
I just feel it in my bones that it has something to do with my late ovulation over the past few months. They just won't take that seriously.
 

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Lots of hugs for you!<br>
I have gene mutation (MTHFR). I had 3 early miscarriage each one with identifible trysomys..Then I have my precious girls (now 5 yo) ...Then another miscarriage. Now, I have my liitle boy..<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br>
My balance is 4 angels and 2 beautiful children..
 

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My heart goes out to you. I suffered losses to and sometimes am afraid to try because I dont want to deal with the heart ache over and over again. There is hope. I have one boy after two losses and have since had an early miscarriage, but I am hoping for a second.<br><br>
Hugs and best wishes.
 

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My first loss was ectopic, then I lost my "rainbow baby" at 16 weeks and never found a reason. He was perfectly normal and they couldn't find anything wrong with me, his heart just quit beating. I wasn't scared the first time to try again, but being pregnant this time has been really hard. I'm 19 weeks now and it hasn't really gotten any easier. So, idk. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I know, I'm starting to think I just got lucky with DS <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Glad that you have an inside operative!<br>
I was going to suggest to you to definatley request copies of the reports. You may want them for a second opinion - or you may want to obsess.<br>
I've done both.
 

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I will definitely want to obsess. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> It would be nice if they found something easily fixable. (Duh! right?) I just don't know what else there is to test for.<br><br>
Man you should see this nasty bruise on my arm from the blood draw. 10 vials they took. When I look at it, it actually makes me a bit queezy.<br>
My throat kind of feels funny today, now I'm thinking, maybe I had some sort of an infection that caused them. Geeeze! Great! Now I'm a hypochondriac!
 

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After all of the testing, and pretty much the same results, this is same the therapy our RE prescribed for us.<br><br>
I felt frustrated after getting the results from all the bloodwork. There wasn't anything we could fix. I did get pg and have a healthy baby while on the heparin, baby aspirin, metanx, progesterone combo, but I also lost a baby while doing the same.<br><br>
Hopefully your results will give some clear answers.
 

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I do hope you get your answers, and your baby, ASAP.<br><br>
-MQ
 

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I'm supposed to get the results today. I'm sure since it's Friday they will wait until Monday to bother calling. See what a pessimist I have become?
 

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I just wanted to give you a <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/stillheart.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stillheart">
 

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Well as I figured...I called the lab when I got home at 3 and they said "Oh they're done, let me fax them to your doctor" She couldn't fax them to me.<br>
So I called the girl at the doc's office on her cell phone and she left early today for a little weekend getaway. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"> She was like "Oh I hope you can wait until Monday" Does it matter? I don't have a choice do I? I hate when I have to be nice when I want to scream. Why is it everyone else gets to go on with their life and I always seem to have to wait for my answers? I knew when they told me Friday that they wouldn't get around to doing anything until Monday.<br><br>
The fact that the results won't really do anything for me over the weekend...well I suppose it would be nice to get some answers. It would also be nice to justify this massive bruise on my arm from the blood draw.<br><br>
The accupunturist wants to wait until I have at least one period to really start the fertility accupunture. Who the hell knows when that will be? My last O (When I got pregnant) was on cd 38 and they seem to be getting progressively later. So I could be waiting 2 months.<br><br>
Ahhh sorry ladies. I'm so exasperated today. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I hope you get your answers, soon <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
I'm right there with you. I miscarried a month ago and I don't have the chromosomal results from the embryo yet because, according to the pathology dep't, it's a low priority and they get to it when they have time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sorry they are being flippant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I just want to let you know that there's a BIG possibility that nothing will turn up.<br><br>
When I lost Joseph at 16 weeks (he was alive 3hrs before he was born on the u/s, was alive for a minute after birth) no one had a clue why. And the pathology report even said something to the tune of 'no idea why, male baby looks completely healthy'. Mind you, the chances of what happened to me were less than 1%.<br><br>
Makes for rough subsequent pregnancies. The not knowing why. The wondering if it was something I caused that could happen again, at any time. The sheer powerlessness of going forth into the unknown. I mean, at least if they had said it was a blood clotting disorder or a chromosomal defect, I could plan (aka take control) around that. But without an answer, I was left with nothing I could 'control'. And that was really, really, really hard to absorb. It also led to a lot of anger because, well if there was nothing wrong, why didn't I keep him.<br><br>
I'm not saying this to scare you, just to prepare you a bit if the results are indeed 'inconclusive'. I think, in a way, not knowing is harder than knowing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
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I have had 4 m/c's- 2 before my first son and 2 before my 2nd son. Did all the testing on myself, couldn't find anything. They were going to test the 2 babies that were missed m/c's (b/c I had D&C's) but weren't able to for whatever reason. Because of the way mine happened (one was spontaneous, one was a blighted ovum, one there was a great heartbeat but passed away around 9 weeks, and one the heartbeat got slower and slower until it passed away around 10/11 weeks) my doctors are certain mine were chromosomally abnormal and there was nothing that could have been done.<br><br>
Don't lose hope!! I know mine weren't all in a row, but I have had 4 and still had 2 beautiful boys! I have a good friend who had 6 losses before having her 2 little girls!!! Don't give up hope, never ever give up hope!
 
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