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Share with me your thoughts on this please. Believe me, I have an inkling of what most of you will think, I just need to see it, if you could.<br><br>
Someone gave my daughter an OREO the other night. I think you can empathize with how I felt.<br><br>
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Hmmm... I'd be very unhappy, as I think babies and young children need to maximize their nutrition. Empty calories have no role in their diet; many are picky enough that whatever goes in their mouth needs to be nutrient dense, not junk.<br><br>
From another angle, I would be displeased, as the person would have either A. ignored my request to not feed my child said junk food (thus disrespecting my role as the mom) or B. not asked me in the first place (again disrespecting me as the mom).<br><br>
Either way, I would not be happy about it. And they would have known it.
 

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Meh. I'm much more relaxed with this baby than I was with my first ones. One Oreo won't hurt her. The mess would tick me off, though!
 

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Who gave it to her? I think that would have a lot to do with it for me. I always ask before giving anyone's children anything I think might be the least bit objectionable. At ten months an oreo isn't the best choice to be sure, but like the PP said, one oreo won't kill her. I would make sure that the offender knew this was unacceptable in the future though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Ohhh mama I went through WWIII with my MIL over this very topic...except it was a Snickers bar. She gave my oldest daughter and ENTIRE super size bar when she was 11 months old. I nearly flipped a chicken! My kids have NEVER had fast-food let alone junk food. I just sat down and had a talk over my values as a parent and kindly asked her to respect those values. She does for the most part, I still do breath checks on my daughter when she comes home from grandma's house though..hehehe.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Meh. I'm much more relaxed with this baby than I was with my first ones. One Oreo won't hurt her. The mess would tick me off, though!</div>
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I agree with this. But, I would keep an eye on this person in the future since they are not making very good nutrition decisions for my kids. I would not want my kid to have an oreo for a least another half a year or more.
 

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I'm on my fourth baby and I would not be pleased. Past a year it wouldn't much bother me, but before 12 months I am the Gatekeeper. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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i wouldn't let someone give my 2 1/2 YEAR old an oreo, so certainly wouldn't give one to a 10 month old.<br><br>
why is an artificial, chemical laden cookie considered a "treat"?<br><br>
why not a yummy, delicious, juicy peach, or a scrumptious ripe pear?<br><br>
or, if it just simply HAS to be a cookie, a homemade baked from scratch whole grain cookie?<br><br>
giving an oreo once, won't "kill" our kids. but i personally would be very careful about setting up an infant's early food experiences like that, which DO impact their food choices over the course of their life.<br><br>
and that could "kill" them, or at the very least seriously impact their health over the long term. and i'm not just talking obesity (which is a problem of epidemic proportions, by the way).<br><br>
it has nothing to do with being 'relaxed', too.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm on my fourth baby and I would not be pleased. Past a year it wouldn't much bother me, but before 12 months I am the Gatekeeper. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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I feel like this too. Before a year, watch it I will smack your hand for trying to give my babe things like that, after a year I ease up a little.
 

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I think it depends on the child, actually. For example my son of the same age is pretty much onto solids for 50%+ of his caloric intake (by necessity -- supply issues in conjunction with his unwillingness to take enough donor milk or formula from a bottle/cup/etc), and will eat just about anything ... as a result I personally would barely bat an eye, BUT I also know that 99% of the time he's taking in a bulk of healthy foods. (Such as yesterday he had a tiny bit of a brownie ... but he also had more than a tiny bit of broccoli, lima beans, brown rice, eggplant, mixed fruit, lentils, chicken breast, breastmilk, etc, etc, etc.)<br><br>
In short, I would only stress if we're talking about babies who are brand new to solids, who don't eat many solids, who are proving picky, or who may be likely to have allergy issues. Which, admittedly, at 10 months may well be a majority.
 

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I'd be angry that the person didn't give ME the Oreo. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Everyone around me knows that <b>I</b> get all the chocolate goodies!
 

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I am not that fussed by the OREO idea - but like another poster said, I always ask the parent/caregiver if a child wants some of our snacks. (What happens if your child is allergic?)<br><br>
I would raise it with the individual if they are likely to be around your babe. It would also be likely to communicate my nutritional goals to your common friends so nothing is violated especially as babe gets older, and snack sharing becomes more common.<br><br>
I am a laid-back mom of four kiddos though - so I work on principal of balanced intake, one cookie isn't going to sink the nutritional boat.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'd be angry that the person didn't give ME the Oreo. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Everyone around me knows that <b>I</b> get all the chocolate goodies!</div>
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Excellent point Debi. If anyone gets the Oreo, it's the mama!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Eat">:
 

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I'd be ticked off. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> I don't like the idea of giving DD processed foods for quite a while and I'd be really angry with anyone who took it upon themselves to do so.
 

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I think that person needs to learn to be more careful. Some kids could be very allergic to different foods, which is why you should never just feed someone else's baby!<br><br>
If it was a friend/family member who fed my baby that, I'd flip out. Then when I was calm I'd have a stern talk about that. And I'd be very careful about letting my kid be around them unsupervised/in busy company/etc again, depending on the situation.
 

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I am a super-laidback mama in a lot of ways, but if someone had given DS an oreo at 10 months, there'd have been hell to pay. He had a bunch of food sensitivities and had a very limited diet until he was around 2.<br><br>
It's not just a matter of it being junk -- it's a matter of being up with DS for days on end while he's rashy, poopy, gassy, etc. etc. And you can bet that helpful oreo-giver would be nowhere in sight for that ordeal.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am a super-laidback mama in a lot of ways, but if someone had given DS an oreo at 10 months, there'd have been hell to pay. He had a bunch of food sensitivities and had a very limited diet until he was around 2.<br><br>
It's not just a matter of it being junk -- it's a matter of being up with DS for days on end while he's rashy, poopy, gassy, etc. etc. And you can bet that helpful oreo-giver would be nowhere in sight for that ordeal.</div>
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I'd be worried about allegies and any bad outcome as stated above- gas, upset tummy, etc. My parents are coming out when dd's 7 months and my Dad keeps talking about giving her an oreo. I don't think dd will get much in her mouth as we haven't started solids yet but I don't want to do anything that will cause her pain. Would 1 oreo for a 7 month old be really bad and/or worth the cute pics? I dunno- though I would never do it on my own until she's at least a year and then with a homemade cookie... tired of hearing that we did it with you and your siblings and you're fine... Sure- but what happened 24 hours after? Who remembers if we got sick or not? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Ohhh mama I went through WWIII with my MIL over this very topic...except it was a Snickers bar. She gave my oldest daughter and ENTIRE super size bar when she was 11 months old. I nearly flipped a chicken! My kids have NEVER had fast-food let alone junk food. I just sat down and had a talk over my values as a parent and kindly asked her to respect those values. She does for the most part, I still do breath checks on my daughter when she comes home from grandma's house though..hehehe.</div>
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Yeah, I'd have flipped out at a Snickers bar. We recently learned our dd has a peanut allergy...there would have been hell to pay. Doesn't it say on the wrapper, "Packed with peanuts"???<br><br>
OP--yeah, depending on who it was, I'd have been pissed. My dad and stepmom, for example, used to try to sneak chocolate to my kids under a year only because they knew how I felt about it. But if my little sister did it or something, I wouldn't be upset. I'd just tell her not to do it again.
 
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