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I currently WAH as a medical transcriptionist with my 7 week old daughter. My husband wants to relocate so that he can eventually go to the police academy in his home state, which isn't even taking new applicants right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
Anyway, i'd have to give up this WAH job and go with another WAH job that pays about 1/3 of what I earn now AND we'd give up our apartment to live in my MIL's house, albeit she is never there becuase she is a police officer and always busy.<br><br>
Anyway, I know eventually i'd have to get an WOH job in our new city to pay the bills, at least until DH got into the academy, and I really don't want to put DD in daycare. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
Am I nuts for being upset about the idea of moving? I just can't convince my husband it's not a good idea. Not to mention, I'd give up benefits, a 401k.. all kinds of things, for a job that doesn't have any of that. NOT a financially secure idea with a baby. But his theory is that you have to take one step back to get 2 steps ahead. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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I'd have to agree with you on this one. IMO, I would stay put until DH was accepted in the program. I'm also a WAHM doing MT. We moved two years ago out of state with the risk of me loosing my job so DH could go to law school. He was already accepted and we had six months or so to research my working options. It worked out for me that I could stay with company, continue working from home in the same manner that I was before moving, and be out-of-state. I am my company's only out-of-state employee, but it works. Is this a possibility for you? It never hurts to ask. I was very surprised that my boss was okay with trying it out. Two years later and I'm still working for the same company.<br><br>
I don't know what state your DH wants to move to, but if it's Indiana, I could hook you up with my boss. She's looking to hire someone with experience and is pretty understanding in the family department.<br><br>
Good luck no matter what you guys decide to do!
 

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I tried to talk to my current hospital about taking the job but the hospital says they don't want to deal with withholding and all of that from other states. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: So, I could try working for a national but they pay notoriously low and benefits are so expensive with them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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You sound right on, sister.<br><br>
I don't think you could pay me enough to move in with my MIL. As Tevye says in Fiddler on the Roof, "May God bless and keep the czar. . .far away from us!"<br><br>
Seriously, with all due respect to your husband, if it ain't broke, don't fix it. You have a good situation where you are. Your priorities are really straight and clear. Your little baby needs you - in my opinion, at least for the first two years. If your husband had already been accepted, that might be different. But to put yourself in a situation where you will be living in someone else's house, on their turf, indefinately, when you have already started your own family? I just can't see how it would be good for you at this point.<br><br>
Good luck and hold your ground.
 

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Wow, how frustrating. I agree, I think you are right to want to stay put!<br><br>
I WAH doing MT also for a regional service. I know that there are nationals out there that pay well, though. If you do find yourself looking, check <a href="http://www.mtdesk.com" target="_blank">www.mtdesk.com</a> and <a href="http://www.mtdaily.com" target="_blank">www.mtdaily.com</a> to see what's out there and sound out other MTs about them.
 

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I agree with you too. Why move until he is in or at least until they are taking applicants. I hope you guys can work it out.<br><br>
I'm interested to know how you got into MT and how you like it. I currently WOH 32 hours a week and would love to find something to do at home.<br><br>
-Normee<br>
Mommy to two dds - 7/3/99 and 6/30/01
 
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