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I've been asked to go to a conference for two days in Feb. My nurser will be 3 1/2 by then, but I've never been away from him for more than 8 hours and never at night. I want to go on the trip, two days away from my kids for the first time in 6 years!, but I'm nervous about what ds#2's reaction will be. Dh will be home with the boys if I go, but I think it might be rough.<br><br>
Has anyone gone away for a weekend from a frequent 3 yr old nurser and what was their reaction? Did they return to nursing once you got home?<br><br>
I'm really torn about this one...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Caroline<br>
mom to August (12/14/03) and Ronan (9/13/06)
 

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My DD1 is 3.5 and still nursing. I've been away from her twice for two days at a time in the past 8 months. Both times she has returned to nursing with no comment or issue.<br><br>
You mentioned never having been away at night. Is he still nursing during the night? DD1 was not nursing at night by the time I went away.
 

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I left both my older kids at different times and they both went back to nursing no problem and did great while I was gone, go and enjoy your conference. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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this last summer i left my then 2 yr old for a weekend. we usually only nursed 2-4 times a day but i knew he would be ok during the day, it was the night-time snuggles i was worried about. it turned out fine. i talked to him before i went (hes a hyper-aware kind of kid) about how i was going far away and wouldnt be there for nite-time snuggles but that we would snuggle as soon as i came back- several times. dad gave extra time for going to sleep with him and warm milk and cuddled with him till he fell asleep and kept him super occupied while i was gone.<br>
when i got back he was super happy to see me and we nursed right away and we didnt even have any seperation anxiety to work out.<br>
i think you'll be fine
 

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I was away from my twins twice for several nights when they were 3-4. As far as nursing went, it was fine. They were used to going to sleep one night a week with DH as I would get home from work after bedtime, so that wasn't a new experience. And of course they were getting plenty of other nutrition at that point. They returned to nursing as before once I got home with no comment.<br><br>
We did have some behavior issues with DS while I was gone (hiding at preschool, fighting with twin sister. . .well, more than usual <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">). He has never handled change well, and was upset with Mommy being gone. It was pretty hard to be a several-hour plane ride away and listen to DH tell me how he was acting. In retrospect, I could have cancelled/postponed the trips, but he was just acting out his unhappiness, and I suppose it didn't permanently scar him (easy for us to make ourselves feel guilty, though). Nothing to do with nursing, just his personality.<br><br>
The one surprise I had was how often I had to express milk while I was gone. I expected to be able to pump twice a day, and not have any problems. I ended up with plugged ducts for the first time in years, and had to up the pumping. I was at a work-related conference for one of the trips and couldn't get to my hotel room easily to pump, so ended up hand-expressing in the bathroom several times. Lovely!
 
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