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So my son is about 15 months and I LOVE being home with him. At the same time, I like to go out and do my own thing a few hrs a day. I was working part-time but must return to full time work because of the economy and my DH's company. DH and I are both in school (he just returned to get a college degree so this financial situation doesn't happen again) and I have about 10 months left before I'm done.<br>
I don't know what I'm trying to say really.. I just get very depressed and overwhelmed with all of this. We haven't put DS in daycare because I was working around DH's schedule and we really couldn't afford that extra expense. Now, with DH in school, and my soon to be full time status, I have to put DS in daycare (no family around ect). I am sort of angry that I have to work full time (I know many of you do so don't take this wrong) but it was our plan for me to work part time at night and enjoy life as a full time mom during the day. Now that I will hardly be home, I feel like I'm going to miss out on a ton of stuff. We were also planning on another baby in about a year and that dream is drifting away. With how things are going, I'm going to have to wait 3-4 more years.<br>
I'm sure others have been in my situation and might have had the same type of emotions. I'm thankful I did get the time I did with DS but at the same time, I think it might have been easier to not know what I was missing by working full time a year ago. Anyone have advice other than "get over it"? I'm really emotional lately because of this<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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You won't miss anywhere near as much as you think you will. I have had to work full time (or close to it) since Anna was 6 weeks old. Think about how much happens between 6 weeks and 15 months and I didn't miss ANY of her major milestones. I have never actually felt like I missed anything, although I did and do miss her terribly at times (not so much now as before). She did everything for the first time when I was home. I saw her roll, sit-up, crawl, walk, talk, sign, pee in her potty.. all for the first time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
I know that you are sad that you won't be doing what you planned; things don't always go as planned, but they will work out in the end. Just try and think positively. Relish the opportunity to be home that you DID/still have (think of those of us who had to leave a 6 week old baby to return to work <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ). Make the best out of the time you spend with him and let the less important stuff slide.
 
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