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After staying home with Alexander <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"> for almost five months (so lucky to have been able to do that!), tomorrow I have to go back to work. Actually, I'm just subbing for four hours, then five hours the next three days. Then three days a week, four hours a day, for two weeks. Then I'm off for another month before starting my new full-time, demanding teaching job. Tomorrow is just the beginning.<br>
Anyway, I'm so nervous about leaving Alexander with his Grandma (my mother-in-law) and all the organzing that comes with taking a baby out of the house everyday.<br>
We practice APing but I am so concerned about this big change for Alexander. How does a five month old react when Mama is suddenly gone all day? Will he think I'm never coming back?<br>
I've been having terrible nightmares about going back to work. I dreamt that they wouldn't let me leave work and that the teenage babysitters (?) watching my son didn't know how to feed him (he has a cleft lip and palate) and didn't know how to work his cloth dipes.<br>
Argh... I'm nervous, you all! And sad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying">
 

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I know how you feel. I am going back next week and am terrified. DD is only 6 wks and I can't take any more time. I am miserable just thinking about it. My only real consolation is that I don't have to do daycare. Dh is home during the day with our kids and sometimes his mom takes them. It will be a hard transition, but it will work out. It has to, right?
 

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It will be okay! Yes, there is an adjustment period. Your DS will probably be very confused at first. But it won't last very long and your DS will not only be fine, but thrive! I think it's very very important for children to form attachments than just one or two people (their parents).<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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It will definitely be fine!! I never thought I'd be able to say that when, like the pp, I had to return to work 6 weeks after my DD was born (I feel for you, by the way!!) My mom cared for Anna and she really did OK with the transition, even at that age!<br><br>
Anna and I have remained securely attached, even while I have been working full time since then. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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BIG HUGS hon, I know how it feels. My dd was right at 5 months when I went back to work. I cried the whole day b/f going back! MIL kept her too. It was very hard at first, and dd was extremely HIGH NEED (if you look in Dr. Sears' book about the high-need child I think there's a picture of my dd). Within a few weeks dd was waking more & more & more often - and reverse cycling, where she'd nurse from the time I got home til the time I left for work the next morning, and drink just enough pumped milk to get by (maybe 8 oz a day?).<br><br>
Anyway, some things to remember:<br>
It can get tricky with MIL watching baby, but try to remind yourself that even though she may not do things the way you would, she LOVES him and is not going to do anything to harm him.<br><br>
When things get hectic, let the housework go! Let everything go! Eat Hamburger helper & sandwiches, lol! I used to sing in the choir at church but quit because when dd was a baby & I was working, being a mom & a teacher were the only things I could handle!<br><br>
Connect with your baby in whatever ways you need to. All this AP/natural parenting stuff? MDC??? The only reason I even KNOW about those terms, this website, etc., are because that's what evolved from necessity, and I found the terms & websites while googling "problems" I was having with dd! I especially think that co-sleeping helps us stay connected. (BF'ing too, although I confess I don't know anything about cleft palate, but if you bf and/or pump it's nice knowing you can do that & MIL can't! LOL! If you can't/don't it's okay too!)<br><br>
Put up lots of pictures of DS at work and talk about him whenever possible. My students get sick of hearing about my kids, but it makes me feel better! Plus I work with special ed - behavioral/emotional problems - so I feel it helps me model positive family relationships for so many of mine that don't have that.<br><br>
Being a teacher is nice because you still have shorter hours than most wohm's, and remember you can start the countdowns..... first the days til Thanksgiving, then Christmas break, Spring Break, etc. and before you know it, summer is here again! Plus I find that I get wrapped up in my students & it makes the day go by quickly.<br><br>
You are both going to be just fine, I promise! And ds will benefit from having that close relationship with grandma too. Your going back as a sub will help too, and maybe leave ds with grandma a couple days while you do BTS type stuff before school offically starts, just so everyone can get used to the routine. And keep in touch with other wohm's that can commiserate with you, that always helped me! BEST OF LUCK to you both!!!
 

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Okay, it wasn't so bad today. Time went by quickly, and while I admit I did some speeding on my way to pick him up, my day was okay.<br>
Thanks for your all's support and advice. I think co-sleeping helps, too.<br>
MIL is wonderful, too. I shouldn't complain...<br>
Anyway, I can do this. At least for four hours.
 
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