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My 18.5 month old toddler is nursing more and more and more since I got pregnant (around 7-9 weeks now). He nurses every 20 minutes. Everytime I won't let him do something, play with something he can't have, he's bored, he then decides he MUST nurse right then. It's like he's trying to punish me. I'm going insane. If I try to deny him nursing, he then proceeds to cry. Forever. He doesn't stop until he goes to sleep, even if its 2 hours before nap time.<br><br>
I didn't plan on weaning during pregnancy, but seriously, I need to get him down to once an hour or so.<br><br>
He still nurses frequently overnight, and I let him nurse both sides, but he just wants to live with the boob in the mouth. I take it away and then he thrashes and cries for 5-10 minutes before going back to sleep. I'm not into CIO, but NOTHING will suffice except the boob and its MY BODY TOO!<br><br>
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I feel for you. My dd went through a phase of nursing like crazy at 18 months and made me nuts- though I wasn't pregnant. It is important for you to think about why he might be doing this- do you think your supply is less? Is he having a growth spurt and needs more calories and getting them from you? Is he teething?<br><br>
I found it helpful to leave out a little snack tray, a muffin tin with differnt appropriate finger foods in each cup and to give dd a sippy of fluid to have all day- it cut the nursing for food down.<br>
I also found I could sometimes give her something cold to chew on for comfort instead of my breast for teething.<br>
And at one point I realized she really wanted to suck on something- and I took to giving her a bottle at times- since she had never had one it was a novel idea. I put soy milk in it. This might not seem totally AP, but if it keeps you from loosing your mind.....<br><br>
Your baby is not doing this to punish you. And you are right it is your body too. I wish you well for finding solutions that work for you and your dc.<br><br>
Peace,<br>
Laura
 

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Is it possible that perhaps he may be sensing your "resentment" of nursing him so often,or that something is different (the pregnancy) and therefore makes him want to nurse more? maybe he knows you are upset and is trying to comfort you by doing what comforts him most. or maybe he's trying to bond more as you are pulling away a bit. does that even make sense? i know how irritating, frustrating and even angering it can be when your child wants to nurse all the time.<br>
if you think this might be a possibility then try to relax ( yeah right <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> ) as you nurse, and just let him go at it, and maybe in a few days he'll start to get bored and not nurse as much.<br>
if not, then some practical advice i can give (which helped my dd nurse less often) is to not let him get bored...find new activities or messy activities...paints, play-doh, crayons or markers, sand and water play. whatever you think you might trust him not to put into his mouth. going to the park or on playdates may also take his mind off of nursing. keeping food out so he can eat if he's hungry has also helped us. if not possible(or he dumps them out ) offer snacks frequently.<br>
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Right there with ya mama...I'm 17 weeks PG and DD is 18 months, starting to nurse ALL THE TIME!! The worst part is that she's starting to bite accidentally when she latches and the pain is killing me!! (Late teether, getting use to teeth) I've started to lose patience, which I also hate, as I (used to) love nursing her. (sigh) I do keep a bottle of milk with me and make the switch when I start to go dry/get pain and she usually takes it..she's molar teething and I know its also about comfort.<br><br>
Sorry I'm not too helpful, but know you're not alone.<br><br>
Dee
 

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Thanks for the replies.<br><br>
My milk supply has dropped and I know that's frustrating for him. He does have a plate out with snack food, and a sippy cup of oj, and a sippy cup of water, available to him at any time. He just doesn't want those.<br><br>
He is getting a WHOLE bunch of teeth at the same time, some of them molars. Up until a month ago, he still only had 4 teeth, and now I think all the rest of them want to come in RIGHT NOW.<br><br>
I'm sure he does sense my frustration, but when its so unbearably uncomfortable, and he's doing it for the third time in ten minutes, I find it really hard to keep my cool about it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">.<br><br>
Thanks for the support, ideas, and commiseration.
 
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