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I really lost it with my ds yesterday. I hs him and he just wouldn't do a darn thing I asked him to do. Getting through 3 subjects was like pulling teeth and I just flipped. I just had some bloodwork done because I was sure I had a thyroid problem; have had multiple symptoms (mood swings, depression, fatigue, dry skin and brittle nails). I also thought I had a blood sugar problem, maybe diabetes, because of food cravings, lightheadedness, and frequent yeast infections. All tests came back normal, except for sky high cholesterol (now on pravachol and low-fat diet; oh joy!!). I've just been really down and out since getting pregnant w/ my second child (dd born 8/27/01). I was divorced from my ex and going through it all alone. I had some major custody problems w/ ex regarding our ds and had alot of hell from him while pregnant and he basically neglected dd for the first 6 months of her life. Also, I breastfed her for 1 1/2 years. I loved bf'ing her and ds when he was little, but my dd was (and still is!) very high maintenance. I'm not exaggerating when I say she never slept for more than 15 minutes at a time until she was 1 year old. She also bf'ed on demand 24 hours a day, despite being on solids by 7 months. Needless to say, I was like death warmed over for about 2 yrs. I just feel like I never bounced back from that pregnancy. I was just looking at some photos of me and my ds when he was a baby; I looked so happy!! I see a definite change in my daily outlook on life since baby #2. It also doesn't help that I had to quit my dream job 5 months into 2nd preg. and have never gotten back into that line of work. (I've come to suspect that my old supervisor is trashing me to potential employers, but that's another story..) I'm now on 10 mg prozac for wicked pms (taken only 10 days before period each month.) During the week b4 my period, I feel so rotten I feel like giving custody of my kids to my ex! Another thing, 5 months ago, my dr's office called in a different birth control pill (I take it for severe mentrual cramps) and I was on the wrong dosage for 2 months. Since then, I've had the pms and other period problems. Anyone have any ideas on what's up with me? Am I just a whiner? Am I a bad mom? I'm going nuts and my kids are suffering for it! (I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this super-long post!!)
 

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Could you just be "overly" tired? Exhausted maybe?<br><br>
I was suffering from exhaustion last year and I was very short tempered with my family.<br><br>
Maybe you should look into some supplements(tonics, herbs) and most definately some R & R! When you can of course, I have children too. So I totally understand what you are going through.<br><br>
hugs,<br>
mom2A
 

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Some days I am just tired; it's funny, I'm less inclined to be bitchy and short-tempered on the days I haven't had sleep. I just feel really tired and frequently no sleep means really bad tension headaches (headaches run in my family). The reason I think there's something else wrong w/me is that some days I just have no patience at all, regardless of my fatigue level. If ds is beating up on dd, some days I just go w/ the flow. Others, I just scream bloody murder. I guess it's just mood swings related to that screw up with my bc pill. (My doctor said it would take up to 5 months to get my hormones back on track) Anyway, thanks for your support.
 

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sounds like you have an awful lot on your plate! i think a lot of moms in your shoes would be short on patience. i've been in that space before, just last year. i needed more support from my family, and to be listened to. for someone to just hear me let it out, without judgement. then i could start the step-by-step process of figuring out how to make my life work better. i finally feel like i'm over it. not that i never lose my patience, but it is so much better now.<br><br>
treat yourself like the good person you are and ask for help from whoever is around you. i wish you some relaxing moments and lots of love for yourself. you are handling way more than average stress.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I felt awful and was very short-tempered after DS#2 was born, and it got progressively worse. After being "blown off" by mainstream medicine, I saw a naturopath. She did some testing and it turned out my cortisol level was WAY too high. I was also having food cravings and PMS for the first time in my whole life. She put me on various supplements and a more low-carb diet, and I actually feel human again for the first time in a couple of years!
 

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Hi,<br><br>
You mentioned you get tension headaches.<br><br>
You might like to try a "rice sock". All you do is take a long "athletic" type of sock and fill it up with long grain rice inside & tie a knot in the end.<br><br>
When you feel a headache(or even just tension) coming on take that same sock and toss it into the microwave for a couple to 3 minutes. It becomes an instand heating pad!<br><br>
Just put it around your neck and within minutes you'll start feeling relaxed. It doesn't eliminate my headaches completely but just about. It will also relax you enough so you could sleep if you'd like.<br><br>
You can use it over and over. An added bonus, it smells like a nice rice dinner...lol. Ummm I wonder if that would also be considered "Aroma therapy" as well...lol.
 
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