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I have a friend I just met and she asked if my DD (4 years old) would like to come over to her house to play with her DS (5 yr.), just her. It would be the first time I have left her with anyone other than my her grandparents. Is it normal to have all this anxiety about it? I have only had a few playdates with this mom and she is very nice. I still haven't decided if I'm going to go through with it. Am I being overprotective? Perhaps I am nervous because I haven't known this mom very long but she also knows that we're moving and she mentioned wanting to help out with that. agh I don't know!
 

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There's always a first time for everything and it you will always feel nervous. Her first day at school, going to college, getting married. You'll always wonder how she's going to cope without you. If you trust the woman and your daughter's ok with it I'd say do it.
 

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I would say, if you don't feel comfortable with it, don't do it. I wouldn't send my dd off I wasn't comfortable about it. How long have you know the mother/kid? Have you been to their house before? Just wait, give it time, when your ready, it will feel safe and good and you'll be happy to have a break!
 

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invite her over to your house for a playdate. she can watch the kids while you pack<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I felt uncomfortable with my dd's visit two visits to one of her friends and the second visit was such a disaster that the parents and I no longer want anything to do with each other. She has playdates with other people that I am fine with, but I was nervous at first because of our bad experience. There hasn't been a problem with the other families though so I don't know that nervousness should dictate this issue. If you have the heeby jeebies about this family then that should be taken into account though.
 

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If your not comfortable, your not comfortable. Just say thanks anyway. My DD is almost 6 and I still don't let her go over to her friend's house without me, and we're good friends with the family for years.<br>
My childhood experiences probably have a lot to do with it though....I remember feeling totally helpless at a friends house when she'd start being bossy or mean...and then there was the Naked Dad family, that was even worse....the thing was though, my Mom thought I was having fun going off to my friend's by myself.<br>
So nope, I'd say if you have an inkling of doubt, don't send her. Maybe have her and her Mom over to your place instead?
 
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