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Well, here we are. It's JUNE! My EDD is July 2. I am in freak-out mode now. My baby is breech. I am having a homebirth I am completely unprepared for - still need to get all my supplies together. I am apparently having a shower, as DH won't let me buy anything for the baby. "Just wait and see what happens" is his story. I have NOTHING for this child. I'm a planner. My whole family knows this. Why, oh WHY, would they wait this long to have a shower for me? I want to be sitting around looking at all my babe's things. Organizing. Washing. Preparing. I am about to panic. So, here we are. June. Totally unprepared. I am so excited, so nervous and so anxious. One big ball of wild energy.<br><br>
How's everyone else doing?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> I'm with you on everything except not having anything for babe. I've been slowly amassing everything for months and obsessing over it all every step of the way. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br>
But yeah, EDD is July 1 and I'm freaking out a tiny bit. I'm excited and prepared...but freaking! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><br><br>
My husband was saying to me today (as I researched the likelihood of the air conditioning breaking down in a pre-owned car we are considering buying while we are driving through the desert with the newborn during the day in 50+ degrees celsius heat of July) that my nesting is recently manifesting itself in neurotic ways. And he's totally right. I need to calm the hell down! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> So yeah, one big ball of wild energy here too.
 

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oh man, i am SO ready for this baby!! just dying to meet him!<br><br>
on the anxious side of things though, we STILL DONT KNOW if we are having a home or hospital birth, and today is our big 36 week home birth meeting.<br><br>
we are waiting on the d*&@ insurance company. AHHHHH.<br><br>
if we end up doing the home birth thing, i need to order the birth kit and tub.<br><br>
other than the location issue, i am just so ready. i have been working around the house non-stop getting stuff ready, taking breaks whenever i need to. i am so very lucky--i am still 90% comfortable, though HUGE.
 

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it's all starting to feel so real!<br>
i just ordered our birth kit last night, and we've even sidecarred the crib (to get our dd used to it).<br>
i can't believe that we're in 'next month' mode.
 

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June 1st - I am officially off work! Even though my EDD is July 16 it was all just getting to be too much. I was off for a week on vacation and then went in to pack up my desk yesterday. Interesting that some serious BH and cervix cramping started while I was there. Hadn't noticed it that much or that bad while on vacation! Interesting.<br><br>
I am having a lot of thoughts about birth now, some fears and anxieties coming up. My MWs are being supportive but when I contrast their calm confidence with my anxiety I feel like an oddball. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
Today I feel quite crabby and tired. It's hot here. I'm going to jump back into bed shortly. My mother, god-love-'er, is still taking the kids for half the day so I can get some rest, do nesting, run errands, cook, etc. I'm getting pissed off at dh because he is still expecting me to do stuff like lift and carry and shop groceries by myself (he doesn't drive) even though I am getting very tired. That's the problem with being Super Woman... when your steam runs out, and the expectations carry on, it's crappy. Usually I bounce back pretty quick after a day or two but when it lasts longer (like now) he keeps prodding me to do stuff and I just get crabby. (Hmmm need to communicate more? I think so.) That's enough complaining.<br><br>
I hear you on wanting to organize and get things ready OP. When is the shower exactly?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">June 1st - I am officially off work!<br><br><b>Woop! Good move! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"></b><br><br>
I am having a lot of thoughts about birth now, some fears and anxieties coming up. My MWs are being supportive but when I contrast their calm confidence with my anxiety I feel like an oddball. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br><b>What are your fears (only if you want to share)?<br>
Mine involve interventions and long labour. I have put this birthing experience under too much pressure, I feel, because it's my last.</b><br><br>
I'm getting pissed off at dh because he is still expecting me to do stuff like lift and carry and shop groceries by myself (he doesn't drive) even though I am getting very tired<br><b>Sorry to hear that. I thought he was getting driving lessons? Did he start?Ignore me if I'm prying. I've been there although I was the non driver for a long time and it's a big regret that I left it so late</b></div>
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I need to buy clothes online for the baby for when we're back in Russia. I have been given the really warm snow bunting things so I just need regular outifts but I keep drawing a blank when I look at girl things!! It's weird....
 

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AAAAHHHHHHH!!!!! YIKES! I will be "full term" in two and a half weeks!<br><br>
This title just made my heart start racing!!! I am not ready!! I have boobs and that is it! Nothing else... My shower is in 11 days, so I can start prepping after that.<br><br>
Honestly though, I am really enjoying being pregnant and I'm not ready for it to end! I figure if I have two kids I will only get a few short months of my life to be pregnant and be this close to baby. I want to treasure it!
 

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Wow, you early July mommas have my sympathy. I'm in denial mode "oh, we still have two months" here with my July 27 EDD. But I have this nagging feeling that it could be a couple weeks early . . .<br><br>
I don't have anything except diapers for the baby, and a handful of onesies. Most important--I need to get the carseat! And buy the size 0 clothes.<br><br>
I did order our birth kit online last night. And we have a boppy. And as soon as we move into our new place, my godmother will bring the rocking bassinet over to put next to our bed.<br><br>
So that's it. If we have time, I might check out the birthing class at the hospital, even tho we're planning homebirth, just to help me and dp feel a little more prepared. I think we're going to be great, though.
 

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I am having a lot of thoughts about birth now, some fears and anxieties coming up. My MWs are being supportive but when I contrast their calm confidence with my anxiety I feel like an oddball.<br><br><b>What are your fears (only if you want to share)?<br>
Mine involve interventions and long labour. I have put this birthing experience under too much pressure, I feel, because it's my last.</b><br><br>
I'm getting pissed off at dh because he is still expecting me to do stuff like lift and carry and shop groceries by myself (he doesn't drive) even though I am getting very tired<br><b>Sorry to hear that. I thought he was getting driving lessons? Did he start? Ignore me if I'm prying. I've been there although I was the non driver for a long time and it's a big regret that I left it so late<br></b><br><br><b>I need to buy clothes online for the baby for when we're back in Russia. I have been given the really warm snow bunting things so I just need regular outifts but I keep drawing a blank when I look at girl things!! It's weird....</b></div>
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Hi Welsh, thanks for asking. WRT to birth fears - my second birth was wonderful, fast and I felt a happy high afterwards, lots of lovey bonding feelings, confident in my body's ability to birth, etc. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> My first birth was traumatic because it was long and painful and exhausting... and I ended up with a third degree tear due to a transfer of care and OB intervention. So even though I had a really great healing birth after the first time, I am now worried about having a traumatic birth again this time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Logically I know there are many reasons why it's not likely to happen again (my body is different now than it was back then, this is a different baby, I know much more now, I am more likely to speak up, etc etc etc).<br><br>
Like you say, this is your last birth, you worry about putting too much pressure on the experience... I know, birth is what it is, we can't decide what it's going to be like to some extent because we just have to go with the flow at the time. Birth has it's own plan. I'm just trying to get to a place where I am poised to be "okay" wherever it's at or I'm at. Does that make sense? But I hear you. Are you preparing somehow?<br><br>
About the driving lessons, wow you have a good memory! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Yes, dh did start the lessons, he took all the in-class ones and a couple of in-car lessons. He still has to hand in some silly essay and finish the in-car lessons, book his test and take it. We have a graduated licensing system here. I did ask him the other day to call The Guy who taught him and set up the rest of the lessons in June. He agreed and said he's been wanting to get on it, it is making him anxious. Looking at a pattern of behaviour, he at times doesn't follow through due to whatever reason (anxiety, defiance, whatever). I cannot control him, only myself, but I really hope he gets his a$$ in gear and does this. It would help our family sooooooooooo much, heck it would help ME soooooooo much if he drove too.<br><br>
About buying clothes online for when you're back in Russia -- when are you going back there again? (How old will your new baby be?) It's hard to buy ahead necessarily because you don't know what size the baby is going to be in that season. I suppose you could get a handful of outfits to last you in the beginning while you're there, and then go shopping when you're there, full of the knowledge of what you'll need.
 

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I'm in the same boat. My shower is in 3 weeks, which is 3 weeks before my due date. I don't want to buy clothes and supplies because I want to see what I get at the shower. I'm trying not to freak out, but that's a ton of washing / organizing / returning / shopping for what I don't get just a few short weeks before the baby is here. That worries me. What if the baby comes early?? What was my mom thinking?? Why so late?? Well, I'm glad to have a shower at all. It will be fun with good food. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
My mother-in-law was kind enough to buy us a stroller, car seat, and bassinet. It's nice to have a few items out of the way. (She's extremely excited to have a grandchild.) We've set those up already to get our dog used to the new things cluttering our bedroom and car. We want to try to change gradually for the dog so as not to freak her out.
 

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Eeps! I'm starting to get so excited! My good friend was due 6 weeks before me just had her sweet babe over the weekend. And another friends having her c-sect Thursday then it's our turn!!! I can't can't wait. I wanna know who this little person is!!
 

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Breathe! First, tackle what you can control: pull together the supplies you need for a homebirth.<br><br>
Second, you need to tell your DH that you must know NOW when your shower will be. (Yes, I'd stoop so low as to tell him HE will be shopping for and buying everything you need if you go into labor early. I'm "due" 3 July, and I've just started serious nesting. If you don't have anything to do while you're nesting, you will go mad.<br><br>
You'll be 36 weeks pregnant Friday, and if the shower isn't this coming weekend, go out and buy a few things for your own sanity. This is not the time to be polite about surprise showers. Glorious that folks are being generous with you, but the reality is that the baby could really come any time. Lots of us go late (I was 42w2d with my daughter) but many many birth early. . .and until labor, you won't know which you are.<br><br>
Good luck with the breech babe!
 

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I hear you! My EDD is June 27, so I'm really freaking out a little. And although I know I'll probably go "late", as both my other DS's were 2 weeks late (I was born late, DH was born late...), I'm starting to feel like this guy COULD actually come early- next week we'll be OK for the HB!!<br><br>
My mom, God bless her, came up this weekend and helped me get the house all organized and put together- since we've spent the last month tearing it apart trying to put it on the market to sell! But now that my "birth area" is all set up, with our bedroom now downstairs, and the den all cleaned out and arranged with my sewing stuff, and new carpet (though maybe we should have waited on that?), I finally feel ALMOST ready for this to happen. I just have to get STUFF now!! I haven't finished getting my birth kit (we're piece-mealing it). A big thing I'm starting to worry about, though, is diapers. We don't have nearly enough NB cloth- I haven't even ordered ANY prefolds, and when mom & I organized what I do have I came up with about 4 covers, an AIO, and a few fitteds I made myself. Ack!! I have the materials for a bunch more, but since we've been packing and tearing things up, they're all in a tub in the closet. At least now my sewing areas is set back up and I can start madly making diapers between now and the end of the month- when I'm not working full time, painting the house, organizing DS's birthday party, or passing out from exhaustion that is!!
 

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Yep, I'm in freakout mode too! I'm also due on July 2nd, but because my dd's water broke at 37.5 weeks last pregnancy, I feel like I can't imagine going into July still pregnant. I'm guessing June 14th, and when I asked dp what date he imagined, he said the 14th without hesitation when usually that kind of question would get me a "I don't know! Whenever the baby feels like it" So, who knows.<br><br>
I've got all the stuff ready as though the baby was already here. What I don't have is the house in order. The last 2 months we've been building a deck and a playstructure in the backyard. I am very very grateful that we get to have these things, and that we have amazing family around doing the work for free. But coming from a completely seperate place, I am so frustrated that it's not done yet! They come over to do a little bit of work here and there and I end up having to make coffee and tea and lunch and snacks and to do all the dishes and clean up after everything...I am getting so so so tired of it. I feel like a jerk not 'serving' them because it would be so rude to get them to do the work and then make them pay for their own lunches etc, so I do want to show my appreciation. I just wish that the work could have taken like 5 solid days instead of a few hours here and there for months. Also, we now have a big huge deck with no railings and it's 4 feet off the ground. Plus a playstructure that has stairs up to a second floor where there are only 2 walls up, and the structure is 5 feet off the ground and it has a slide that isnt bolted down. WTH!!! It's been weeks like this! I am 9 months pregnant, sahm of a 26 month old rascal. Why why why can't this work be done yet?!Rant over...<br><br>
But yes, good morning JUNE!!!!!!
 

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Freak out mode I wish...No I feel like I just hit a stop block. I am not due until the 22nd of July but my track record will no doubt take me into August. This is my most uncomfortable largest pregnancy yet. I have hit the wall of being done. I have everything I could possibly need except a baby on the outside. This is number 4 for me and I am to done...lol
 

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Yes yes yes. EDD July 5th. I can't believe its JUNE! My MW is bringing the birth supplies this Thursday, my shower is this Saturday, and my earliest day I can have my homebirth (36 weeks) is Monday.<br><br>
I am somewhere between...<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br>
and<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br>
and<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><br><br>
That's me. In cartoons.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am somewhere between...<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br>
and<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br>
and<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><br><br>
That's me. In cartoons.</div>
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36 weeks tomorrow here! I'm actually really hoping the baby comes a little early (as long as it's ready)...but other than feeling huge and done, I don't feel like there are any signs of my body getting ready to evict my little tenant.<br>
So here's a question for the wiser mamas: if baby were going to come at 37 or 38 weeks, would I be feeling anything now at 36 weeks or seeing any signs???<br>
I shouldn't torture myself like this...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Wow, you early July mommas have my sympathy. I'm in denial mode "oh, we still have two months" here with my July 27 EDD. But I have this nagging feeling that it could be a couple weeks early . . .</div>
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I am in denial mode too except my EDD is the 28. I really don't expect him to come early though, I would be in absolute shock if that happened. Now thats a scary thought! I don't know why I think he will be late, both of my others were early.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">So here's a question for the wiser mamas: if baby were going to come at 37 or 38 weeks, would I be feeling anything now at 36 weeks or seeing any signs???<br>
I shouldn't torture myself like this...</div>
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Don't torture yourself! You can have loss of mucus plug and contractions (prodominal labor) for days and have no baby. In my experience, when you aren't thinking about it and least expect it BAM labor hits or my case WHOOSH water breaks. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I had DD at 36 weeks, I am sure your time will be here before you know it!<br><br><br>
Like I said before I am in denial.. I was just telling DH that I can't imagine having another baby. I know that sounds weird and it does creep me out. I was so deeply bonded with DS and DD by this point and all I thought about was holding, nursing, smelling and kissing them. But this time around I try to imagine life with 3 little ones and I am drawling a huge blank... whats up with that? I have nothing ready, perhaps thats part of the problem. I have yet to dig out DS's baby clothes, wash the small diapers and such. I also want to order some preemie diapers and covers. I just keep telling myself that I have plenty of time for that but really my time is dwindling into nothing. I really need to get my butt in gear and get some stuff done.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">if baby were going to come at 37 or 38 weeks, would I be feeling anything now at 36 weeks or seeing any signs???<br>
I shouldn't torture myself like this...</div>
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Well I'm not sure how wise I am on this one, but you're absolutely right: Don't torture yourself like this!!!!<br><br>
I lost my mucus plug at 30 weeks last time, and then sat around at 2cm for weeks. I also sat around at 4 cm for the last couple of weeks. Don't get overly excited and loose sleep over the 'signs' of labor. Most of them <i>promise</i> nothing! It's when all the signs add up and turn into labor and you can no longer sleep that you need to start thinking it's imminent!
 

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Yaliina - your pace makes me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Wow, you have a lot to do. When are you going to stop working FT?<br><br>
Mamakaikai - I so hear you on appreciating the help but feeling impatient with the patchy progress. Is there a kind way to kick them in the rump and say something like, "We're so keen and eager to see this wonderful project finished, ds really wants to go out and play on the structure but it's not yet finished/safe, blah blah blah." ?<br><br>
Maranapanda - <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> That about sums it up! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
Chase_mommy - as for not feeling bonded yet or not getting stuff out, life is so different when you have other kids running around, esp. little ones like yours AND you're homeschooling so it's not like you have a ton of time to yourself to think and daydream! Are you finding that you're still just focussing on meeting the day-to-day needs of your family, not having any time for you to work on baby stuff?
 
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