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My 18 month old DD is a hair puller. Well it started out that way. She has now become generally grabby towards other kids her age. She started pulling my hair and my DH hair when she turned 12 months. We tried owwee and that hurts mama when you do that and nothing worked. I finally just ignored her no matter how hard she pulled and it worked, she stopped pulling my hair as soon as she realized there was no reaction to her action. Obviously another baby is not going to ignore being pulled on or having there hair pulled so I am stumped. This is seriously to the point were I am nervous about taking her around other children. A few examples from the last week. On Saturday my DH and I went to the park with two other family's. My DD pulled our friends sons hair while playing in the sand box. Their little boy is 2 and he literally hides behind his mom when he sees my DD coming. After she pulled his hair I picked her up and said NO that hurts, we don't pull hair. I ended up taking her to the play structure trying to keep her busy and the first poor little girl that she saw she grabbed on to. She had two fist full's of hair and pulled. After this we went home. I feel like the worst mom. She is such a loving little girl but when it comes to other children she doesn't seem that way. Today we went to the farmers market with my friend and her 2 year old. My friends child wanted to play in the bouncy gym and against my gut I let my DD run around with her. My DD didn't go into the bouncy gym but she stood outside of it watching. I stood with her holding her hand. Next thing I know she is grabbing on to a little tot running by. My DD took both her hands and grabbed the little girls hood and just stared at the little girl. When I went to grab Lilly she wouldn't let go of the other tot. The Grandmother rushed over and grab her and gave me the look of death the rest of the time we were there. I apologies but she didn't even acknowledge I was talking to her.<br><br>
Sorry for the long post. I think my DD is just really interested in other kids and she's bossy. Are my expectations to high? Is 18 months to young to interact with other children? She has play dates with our friends children during the week but she is not in a play group. She did a weekly gymnastics class for six weeks with my Mom and my Mom said she had to keep a constant eye on her or she would pull other kids hair. Actually the teacher at gym class had my DD sit in the middle of circle time so she wasn't in the circle were she could get her hands on the other kids. Any suggestions on how to help her interacted better with other kids? I am wondering if I should start taking her to a play group or would that just be a disaster. After today I just feel lost on how to handle this.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Oh you poor thing! Don't let that grandmother bug you! When my youngest was 14 mos. she met another baby her age in the co-op store. This other little girl pushed her. Her mother was falling over herself to apologize and hold her daughter. I reassured her that it was often considered normal and that she didn't mean to harm my daughter. She did it again, and mom was so embarassed, and I just reassured her again. That woman you ran into was RUDE. Do not feel guilty.<br><br>
For ME, I would keep my daughter seperate from other tots a little longer. I think getting the "message across" at this age can just be so difficult. But I hope someone has a better idea, since she loves other kids, it would be sad to keep her from them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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