[stellimamo]

My MIL (though she doesn't know she's my mil yet lol, we went and got married yesterday and haven't mentioned it

) emailed me today asking if she could have dd for the weekend. I'm not ok w/ 2 nights but in about 7 weeks me and dh are "getting married" and we will be gone for 6 nights on a honeymoon. MIL and my mom are splitting those 6 nights between them.

DD sees my mother all the time because we live 15 mins from each other but MIL is 2.5 hours away. MIL wants a this weekend for a test run. The only real reservation I have w/ them having her is my selfishness in wanting to have her. I don't worry for he safety and I know they will abide by "my rules" (little to no sugar, organic milk, etc).

DD adores all her GP and I really don't think she'll miss me that much to be honest, particularly for one night. Honestly when we come to visit mil/fil they really focus on her and cater to her every need. I couldn't ask for better GPs.

So I guess what I'm asking is do you think one night there will actually be beneficial for when we have to go on the honeymoon? Am I being selfish?
I wouldn't mind taking dd on the honeymoon but dh put his foot down and wants "us" time since we''ve never really had baby free time.

 

[wryknowlicious]

I can understand how you feel - my MIL is almost hte exact same way.

But you have to examine yourself - "am i wanting to keep DD home because it is best for her or to spite my MIL?".

I think a test run may be a good idea.

On the other hand I can see you not wanting DD to spend time with your MIL because you don;t like her attitude.

Re-reading at least your MIL will abide by your rules! Mine constatly paints my 2 yr olds toes - takes her to McCrappy's - gives her soda - and brings her shopping at the mall allllll day long! My 2 yr old now actually has a shopping addiction. seriously. ugh. she thinks she can have any pair of shoes or pants that she see;s.

Having DD go with your MIL may not have been your idea... but it;s not a bad one either IMO.

 

[faithnj]

Congratulations, Newlywed!!!!
How exciting!!!

Otherwise,
I think it would be good to grant the MIL the test run she's asking for-- if for no other reason than to help your DD adjust to being away from you for a few nights. Go ahead and do it, mama. You'll survive. Plus-- I really believe it's good for children to spend time learning from a variety of people who love them, and building a community. Besides, how nice to have a MIL and mother who love your child, abide by your rules, and are willing to take care of her when needed! Wish I was in your shoes!

Last but not least, giving your DH the time he asks for alone shows him you are willing to be cooperative with him. And every marriage needs cooperation and a husband who feels he has a say in things, and a husband who really wants to be with his wife, eh?

Good luck, best wishes, enjoy yourself, etc. etc!!!!

Faith

 

[stellimamo]

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But you have to examine yourself - "am i wanting to keep DD home because it is best for her or to spite my MIL?".

I think I want her home because I want to play w/ her and be w/ her. I really like my MIL and think she's awesome w/ dd. So really I have no issues w/ her going, its more that I just want dd with me all the time.. I think I'm ore attached to her than she is to me!

Thanks for helping put it in perspective.

 

[stellimamo]

Faith thanks so much for your thoughts. You are right I really am blessed to have such a great MIL.

DH is really excited about our honeymoon. And really Vegas isn't a great place for a toddler!

 

[wryknowlicious]

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Originally Posted by stellimamo I think I want her home because I want to play w/ her and be w/ her. I really like my MIL and think she's awesome w/ dd. So really I have no issues w/ her going, its more that I just want dd with me all the time.. I think I'm ore attached to her than she is to me! Thanks for helping put it in perspective.

nak
Thats really good.

Then this may be a good test run for you too since you'll have to leave DD for 6 days after your "marriage" (

we almost did the same thing .. get married before the wedding! ... but my mom had done it and she had her eye on me - she knew what we were up to!)

Good Luck!! And congrats!!