I am hoping that someone in the Mothering community can help me. I am a grandmother to a sweet little 4 year old whose mother has borderline personality disorder and doesn't know it . Her father, my son, is toeing the line with his wife and is rejecting his entire family. I haven't seen my grandaughter for months. I am very sad, and don't know what to do. I cannot condone the parent's behaviour and am worried about my grandaughter and I also worry about her brother, who is due to be born in January. Our styles of parenting couldn't be farther apart. My DIL and my son employ hot saucing, spanking, time outs and constant threats. What on earth can I do? We don't communicate at all anymore. I am still a mother, and my heart is broken over this situation. Does anyone have any suggestions?