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Is anyone else tired of feeling guilty every time they put food in their mouth? Between the massive 19 pound weight gain I had the last month ( <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes">: ), plus wanting to provide the best nutrition possible, and now the whole thing where she can taste the flavors of the foods I eat -- and I could potentially influence how picky of an eater she is in the future -- eating has become one big guilt-fest <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> . I don't eat enough vegetables. I eat too much cake and chocolate (this is my internal "guilter", btw -- no one but me is giving me a hard time for the way I eat). I've spent 30 weeks (longer, really) trying to be a perfect eater (and not even coming close, of course!) -- I'm TIRED of it. I've resorted to imagining what I would look like at 500 pounds every time I want a "bad" food. It's sadistic, but it works (for one day so far, at least :LOL ).<br><br>
I'm also tired of feeling guilty because I don't get any exercise. My back/hip/pelvic pain makes it impossible to even walk around the block, so I'm guessing swimming is about the only thing I could do. That means signing up (and paying) for a membership at the Y and squeezing my whale body into a swim suit (and how can I shave my bikini line when I can't even SEE it?) and then going out in public (don't forget the fish-belly white skin). Ick. I've heard other pregnant mamas raving about swimming for relieving back pain, though, so maybe it's worth checking out. I admit I find the idea of feeling "weightless" very appealing.<br><br>
I do a pre-natal yoga class once a week, but guilt myself for not doing the poses / breathing / meditation on my own at home.<br><br>
And I don't do kegels either. More guilt.<br><br>
I have a call in to my doc for a referral for physical therapy, but I really don't want to go.<br><br>
I'm tired of not being able to sleep on my back, and then sleeping in a recliner because my hips hurt so bad, and then being terrified I'll have a posterior baby. I can't even lay down and be comfortable without worrying <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: !<br><br>
I hate feeling a prisoner to this pain, and not being able to do things ... simple, everyday things. At a time when more stuff than ever needs to get done, I'm trapped in the body of a 90 year old. And it's going to get worse -- 10 more weeks of worse -- before it gets better.<br><br>
(Notice a trend here -- I complain about the pain, but complain about doing anything to fix it too! I'm feeling really whiny today! :LOL )<br><br>
I hate being at work, so I get nothing done. Feel guity about that too.<br><br>
I just want to quit my job and curl up in a ball in the corner and be left alone.<br><br>
We have a shower this Sunday, and I check my registry online every day, and not ONE thing has been bought off it (and I have things that range from $10 to $150)!! What's up with that? "Oh, thank you! That makes 72 pink infant outfits!! Great! This will be SO useful!" Grrrr.<br><br>
That's enough for now. I'm working myself into a tizzy! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:<br><br>
Anyone else?<br><br>
Shana<br>
EDD 7/29/05
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Sounds like you need a hug.<br><br><br>
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Gotta say, I went swimming today and didn't find it all that helpful. i could barely swim, my stomach WEIGHS so much. And my pelvis hurt when I tried to kick. Hopefully it will feel better for you! Just lazying around on the side was nice, though.<br><br>
Sorry it's so tough going for you!
 

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I'm with you, mama!<br><br>
I eat way too many carbs, not enough veggies & fruits, although I try. I'm just trying to eat enough and go with somewhat healthy things that appeal to me, as I'm getting really full and heartburny easily, so it's hard to want to eat.<br><br>
ditto exercise/kegel guilt.<br>
can't find mat. swim suit, and don't know how I'd get to pool (we've still got only one car and DH works weekends.)<br><br>
good for you for prenatal yoga class! I was doing a tape, but hurt my ribs adn haven't gotten back on the horse so to speak.<br><br>
from last night's appt, seems like baby may be posterior. I think he was trying to get away from MW and doppler, he doesn't seem to care for, but that may mean that what I happily thought was his butt up near the front is not...<br><br>
I'm too tired from sitting all day at work to do things that might help me feel better, walk around yard with DH and check out garden and plants, but do also feel clunky and achy and old.<br><br>
yep, people not buying what's on registry, so I'll need to just buy it myself, and have to return stuff, just what I need another chore! and then feel guilty and ungrateful. ughh.<br><br>
on happier notes, I ordered up our diaper service and got confirmation yesterday, holy cow, I guess this is reallly going to happen!! it's still surreal.<br><br>
any suggestions on shifting the posterior boy? was that site spinning babies or something or was that only for breech?<br><br>
anyhoo, happy friday all!
 

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I have to laugh. I'm feeling whiny and miserable too–but have the opposite problems you do. I want to eat more guilty foods–I have cut myself back to one indulgence per day for this pregnancy. Alas, I have only gained 17 pounds and I'm in my 33rd week. So now I feel guilty because despite my "great diet" I feel as though I must be "dieting." I'm horribly tempted to make up a batch of cookies, maybe a cake or two, and stuff myself like there's no tomorrow– but that's mostly me feeling sorry for myself.<br><br>
I TOTALLY understand about the swimming thing though. I got a bikini to wear which rides below my massive belly (yes, despite almost no weight gain my belly is huge–last week it measured 43.5 cm!) and over my ballooning breasts. Alas, shaving the pubic area is a contortionist act if I want to go through it. Get in the tub, bring a mirror to use, try to shave based on what I'm seeing and stay even somewhat comfortable. I think at this point, the comfort and effectiveness of shaving may be impossible to achieve.<br><br>
But I WANT to swim because it's hot here. I am glad I'm not living in the Phoenix desert anymore or I would be dying. It's only been in the mid- to high 80s and I feel like I'm roasting. I can't wait for the public pools to open–most of them are free, so I have a week more to go before they open up. I intend to simply SIT in the water and bask in the cool breezes that I can catch. I couldn't care less if I get exercise.<br><br>
Of course, I've been trying to keep up my dance classes (Nia) and that's been going ok. But I end up missing many due to sleeping in and just not being in the mood.<br><br>
Let's hope we both feel better soon.
 

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Well, I am feeling pretty darned miserable myself. However, as far as food goes, I do whatever it takes to get through the day. I am actually feeling a little bad for gaining the 8lbs that I have gained, and I still have 6 weeks to go. Not because I am some weirdo, but just because I never gained with my first due to morning sickness and now I am still sick, but not quite as sick so gaining a little. I feel enormous. I am the heaviest I have ever been in my life and 16 lbs heavier right now than when I gave birth to dd. So, I am trying not to think of it. The baby will be fine and when I am no longer pg, I will feel well enough to worry about a good diet and exercise.
 

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YES!!! I have never, ever had a "sweet tooth" in my life. Dessert and sweets were a very rare thing for me. But being pregnant has caused me to loooooove sugary stuff and I feel so bad for eating.......<br>
a whole cake.<br><br>
I made it on Sat. and DH only ate one piece! So by Tues. I had murdered the thing! I felt so bad about myself! I do not believe pregnancy to be a time to just binge on whatever I want, but I really could not help it. The rule of thumb lately seems to be "if it's there, I will eat it". ugh.
 

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Leosmama, I think it's great you've managed to gain some weight even though you feel so crappy. I know what you mean about being the heaviest ever in your life, though. It's hard! And I agree, when all this is over and I'm staying at home -- and settled into the "I have a baby" routine -- I plan on getting my cottage cheese butt to a gym! Not now, though. It's just not possible.<br><br>
Bri276, you crack me up. I would have done the same thing. I think I finally understand what addicts feel like. I never really got that "alcoholic" thing before. Just don't drink, right? But I have a lot more sympathy now. :LOL<br><br>
Cresorchid, don't do it! Don't succumb to the junk food urge! As long as your OB/MW is happy -- and it sounds like there's no lack of "stomach growth", lol. My weight gain was "perfect" up until a month ago (exactly 1 lb/week in 2nd trimester, for a total of 15 lbs). Somehow I got the foolish notion that I was doing great and wasn't even trying that hard, so when my appetite ramped up even more, I figured I still didn't have to try hard (which translated into, "I'll eat the way I have been, and then tack on chocolate and cake to fill me up when I'm still hungry!"). Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong! I still don't know how I managed to gain so much weight and not get stretch marks on my belly (don't worry, I more than make up for it on the amazing exploding boobs -- yuck).<br><br>
I made hubby go out last night and buy veggies for snacks (blech). I've cut out the trail mix, cut WAAAAY back on the chocolate, and am also realizing that a lot of the time when I think I'm "hungry", I really just want to get rid of the bad taste in my mouth (which seems ever-present -- is this a pregnancy thing?). So I've started chewing gum, lol. My goal is not to stop the weight gain of course, but I do want to stop gaining at the rate of 4+ lbs/week!<br><br>
Yeah, I'm vain, but there is the issue of worsening the back pain, and also needing to provide good nutrition for my babe.<br><br>
It sounds to me like you're doing great -- you're eating healthy and feeding your bean all sorts of good stuff. Keep up the good work!<br><br>
Shana<br>
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After gaining 50+ pounds with Simon and losing all of it without dieting, just breastfeeding and eating like a long-haul trucker the whole time, I swore that I would not freak out about weight gain this time...but I can't help it. It's just so startling to put on 10 pounds in a month for months running, and I swear I can feel my butt getting bigger by the day. I do eat constantly, though, so it's not like a mystery or anything. I try not to overdo the sugar but I'm not always successful. I don't weigh myself though, and my midwives don't weigh me either - they're just satisfied to know that I am indeed gaining weight (no question about that). So the only time I have to face the scale is at the backup OB's office, and I try not to look.<br>
So I'll be hypocritical and say don't give yourself a hard time. I mean what are we going to do, go on the atkins diet or something? Just a few more weeks.<br><br><a href="http://www.spinningbabies.com" target="_blank">http://www.spinningbabies.com</a> has lots of posterior turning/prevention techniques. It's great. I don't know why they don't put optimal fetal positioning info in What to Expect and hand out brochures on it at the OB's office...just seems like something everyone ought to know.
 

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Oh man, I could have written the original post myself. My 1 month weight gain was 10lbs, and I was shocked. So far I have gained 16lbs, which is average for me to gain throughout an entire pregnancy, not in a couple of months! I'm heavy to begin with so it just adds fat to an already fat body.<br><br>
I have done some swimming-though it's hard because my two girls are always with me, I have a friend watch them so I can do a couple of laps. I love it! I would defnitely recommend it.
 
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