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So my husband has left his gun laying around many times. I get upset by this because I have a 10 year old son and he has friends over. I am concerned. Every time I have found it I have hidden it. My husband the other day says why did you hide my gun. I said because they shouldn’t be lying around. I thought to myself if it happens again I will hide and and not tell you where it is. I don’t think he should get mad at me and make excuses that he has a lot on his mind. Well if you have a lot on your mind maybe you shouldn’t own a gun.
 

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You’re right to hide it. Guns are very dangerous, and shouldn’t even be in the same house as children. Most gun shot accidents involving children happen because there was a gun in the house. Children think the gun is cool (especially if their father thinks it’s cool), pick it up, show it off to their friends, and before they know it, shots are fired. Someone ends up in hospital. Someone is killed. Child services and the police are involved.

If your husband must have a gun, it should be kept locked in gun safe, unloaded, and the ammunition should be kept in a separate safe, also locked, far away from the gun. Ideally, he should keep his gun somewhere else entirely. Perhaps he could store it in a gun safe at a friend’s house who doesn’t have children. LEAVING A GUN LYING AROUND WHERE CHILDREN ARE PLAYING IS EXTREMELY DANGEROUS. This is a recipe for disaster. Your husband is asking his child and/or his child’s friends to get shot, permanently injured, and possibly killed. I know that I would never allow a child to play at a house that had a gun on premises. I know that if my child were shot as a result of a gun on the premises, I would want the owner of that weapon to see jail time.

A few years ago, I read the book, Protecting the Gift by Gavin de Becker. The author has worked for the FBI and now runs one of the most sought after security teams in the country. He specialises in preventing violence; preventing kidnapping, shootings, rape, molestation, stalking, etc. He helps people to get out of dangerous situations and consults with corporations to prevent workplace shootings. His company has provided security for high ranking government officials and A-list celebrities. Protecting the Gift is written with children in mind. How do we protect our babies, children, and adolescents? What poses a threat to them? How to we arm them to protect themselves? He writes in detail about the dangers of keeping a firearm in the same house as a child. He shares that, in his experience, children always seem to find a way to play with that gun and it will go off. It will hurt someone. The best thing you can do to protect your child from being shot is to get that gun out of the house. He’s in much greater danger from that gun at home - accidentally shooting himself, his friend accidentally shooting him - than from an armed intruder or a school shooting. Do not play with fire. You will get burned.
 

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It's irresponsible to leave a firearm lying around and unattended whether children are around or not. You are right to hide it and keep your kids safe. It is also a good time to educate your children about gun safety, it is not a toy and should never be touched or pointed at anyone. Gun safety is a serios thing and it sounds like your husband could benefit from some education in this area. Get a gun safe or lock box and put it away.
 

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Our son knows gun safety and how to handle a gun in a safe manner to put it away if he should find a gun lying around in the house (he doesn’t ever find a gun lying around the house because we are responsible gun owners). I carry a weapon on me all the time. We’ve never had an issue and no child besides my own ever even knows I’m carrying a weapon. My son practices target shooting with us. His friends are never around when this happens. Your husband is wildly and wantonly irresponsible and dangerous, and he’s opening you both up to felony charges or worse. You could even invite CPS into your home with these childish behaviors. I recommend a safe that YOU have the combination to. All that said, as a mother, there shouldn’t be any children unattended in your home AT ALL, yours or anyone else’s, considering how irresponsible your husband is. Find out the local laws regarding such things, print it out, and staple it to his stupid face if you have to.
 

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Our son knows gun safety and how to handle a gun in a safe manner to put it away if he should find a gun lying around in the house (he doesn’t ever find a gun lying around the house because we are responsible gun owners). I carry a weapon on me all the time. We’ve never had an issue and no child besides my own ever even knows I’m carrying a weapon. My son practices target shooting with us. His friends are never around when this happens. Your husband is wildly and wantonly irresponsible and dangerous, and he’s opening you both up to felony charges or worse. You could even invite CPS into your home with these childish behaviors. I recommend a safe that YOU have the combination to. All that said, as a mother, there shouldn’t be any children unattended in your home AT ALL, yours or anyone else’s, considering how irresponsible your husband is. Find out the local laws regarding such things, print it out, and staple it to his stupid face if you have to.
Excellent response and advice. You are a responsible gun owner and you are teaching your son that same respect. Good job mom!
 
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