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And it is *probably* another boy. Baby was being REALLY uncooperative so we aren't positive but I guess it is better to just make peace with is now... Not going to lie, I cried. And I feel guilty for not being happier, I LOVE my toy boys, they are such awesome little people so I see no reason why another one would be bad. Plus, way less money we have to spend... except more warm small sized clothes since this is our first winter baby, we don't need anything. I don't know though... I am praying the baby is more cooperative on the 9th and maybe, maybe there is still hope I might get my girl.<br><br>
Here are a couple pics from the u/s:<br><br>
Here is the one she labeled as a boy... and I just don't see what on earth she is talking about:<br><a href="http://i546.photobucket.com/albums/hh438/plowman126/BABYBOY3_11.jpg" target="_blank">http://i546.photobucket.com/albums/h...ABYBOY3_11.jpg</a><br><br>
And here are the 2 that look like maybe crotch shots that just don't look like either boy or girl clearly:<br><a href="http://i546.photobucket.com/albums/hh438/plowman126/BABYBOY3_10.jpg" target="_blank">http://i546.photobucket.com/albums/h...ABYBOY3_10.jpg</a><br><a href="http://i546.photobucket.com/albums/hh438/plowman126/BABYBOY3_8.jpg" target="_blank">http://i546.photobucket.com/albums/h...BABYBOY3_8.jpg</a>
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I'm sorry baby wasn't more cooperative.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I feel so bad about not being excited... I am happy the baby looks healthy and we got to see it and everything but I feel like if it is a boy they are all going to get clumped together. Everyone does it already with Trevor and Trenton. And Trenton never gets anything new, so if the new baby is a boy he probably won't either. And I am scared I will never get to parent a girl, to have a daughter. And at this point I just really want a more definitive answer!
 

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Oh, I feel you. I had my u/s yesterday and we're having another girl, and we so wanted a boy. My husband, especially. And he did cry today, too.<br><br>
I completely understand and please don't feel guilty. Having to let go of a dream or a hope is a huge thing, and of course you're entitled to take some time to mourn. I hope that they're wrong and you'll find out that you're having a girl down the line, but if not, then go ahead and feel everything you need to feel. It's all right.
 

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Thank you Muffinette!! I needed to hear that... I really did. DH thinks I am being silly because while he does want a girl he isn't that upset, if that makes sense. He thinks I am ridiculous for not being happy the baby is healthy but I AM happy about that, just not the fact that it is probably a boy... I am sincerely hoping for a more definitive answer on the 9th.. at least to have more idea one way or the other.
 

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I totally understand! We have a boy and a girl, so everyone assumes we should be happy with either since we already have one of each. But I was so sad to find out its a boy. I really was hoping for a girl because I have such a great relationship with my sister and I really wanted my little girl to have a sister to. Now she will have 2 brothers, and I just feel bad she won't be able to experience having a sister <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I will say I am VERY happy he is healthy, and I am glad I found out so I have time to deal with it and be happy hes a boy!
 

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Ask your husband how he thinks he would feel if you had three girls. Generally speaking (but not always, of course), men tend to want a son and women tend to want a daughter. My dh was disappointed each time we'd find out we were having another girl, and then especially crushed after we lost our last baby at 16 weeks and then found out it was a boy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> He adores his girls, he just really wanted a son. And I understand, because if it were reversed and we had all boys, I know I'd really be wanting a girl.<br><br>
So I think your feelings are normal and okay <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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I think what is most upsetting to me right now is the "probably a boy" bit. If we had gotten a good clear penis shot I could mentally start preparing myself, sorting through our clothes, looking for super cute baby boy winter clothes, all of that. But I feel like I can't until our u/s on the 9th when we will hopefully get a better look. If anything I feel like I am more in limbo than before, and I really just want to know! Yes, a for sure boy answer would make me a bit sad but I can start to deal with it... I am glad that you ladies don't think I am horrible for feeling this way though!
 

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Honestly? I have NO idea what led her to say probably boy!!! The pic I have that she labeled "its another boy" looks nothing like my last 2 u/s (with my 2 sons, who are definitely all boy) and there are a few crotch shots (or what seem like crotch shots) where I just don't see any indication either way!!!! Ooo, here I will link the pictures in the OP...
 

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hmmm, i'd probably be inclined to believe her observation even it wasn't clear to me. i would never have seen girl parts in mine even tho i insisted the tech point it out to me. (i think she was insulted, actually, thinking i was questioning what she saw, lol)<br><br>
i sooo empathize, i know what it's like to mourn the idea of having the opportunity to raise a girl. idk, i may have gone on to have 5 more kids until i got one.
 

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I am inclined to believe her more now that I am looking at the video (there seem to be some much clearer shots than the one she printed for us) but I am really happy we have another u/s on the 9th with our OB (anatomy scan) so we should be able to get confirmation then. We will most likely have a 4th... and if that is a boy maybe look into adoption or having a 5th... who knows, I just feel in my heart that I am meant to have a girl in some way.
 

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Cherry... it won't let me view your photo... Says your page is private?<br><br>
And I am going to keep trying to prepare myself for boy confirmation on the 9th, but there are totally parts of the DVD where it looks like girl parts too, then parts where it looks like maybe boy parts... So annoying!! I probably need to just stop looking at it and wait my next u/s in 2.5 weeks...
 

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Oh, and I don't think there's anything wrong with holding out some hope, you're right, those pics aren't the clearest <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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I can see your pic now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> No idea what I am looking at but I can see it! With both my boys we got a very clear "toilet bowl" shot where it was super obvious that they were boys... I hope we can get a shot like that at my next u/s!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I should have explained it! The baby's spine is to the right, on the bottom left is his rump, and the little knob sticking out on top is his penis <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Oooo ok now I see it!!! At first I was like ummm... I see a blob of baby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I am always a tad confused by u/s photos!!
 
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