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<p>When I had my appt last time they asked a question that every mom gets. The circumscision question. Knowing that i have two boys already she looked a bit uncomfortable. I would guess it doesn't always go really well.</p>
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<p>But she was so relieved when I told here there was nothing to worry about I leave my children the way they are born. Just makes me wonder how it'll go in a few weeks as I have a friend who is two weeks behind me and she has a circ'ed boy and I know she isn't really set either way</p>
 

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<p>My mw asked me that question too and I just said that we won't do it. She asked if I needed some documentation. I laughed and said no. lol</p>
 

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<p>Are you guys seeing hospital CNMs?</p>
 

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<p>I'm planning a homebirth, and my midwife would have brought it up with us at some point if hadn't brought it up first.  I think we mentioned it at our second meeting in that we had left our DS intact.  Her response was, "Well, good!  That's one conversation we won't have to have then."</p>
 

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<p>i'm in Canada so my midwife does both home and hospital.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Aliy</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1282264/had-to-laugh-a-little-at-my-midwife#post_16081231"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>i'm in Canada so my midwife does both home and hospital.</p>
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Same here. :)</p>
 

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<p>I was just curious. My first was a hospital CNM, and she asked because they would have done it during my hospital stay. With my HB midwife it hasn't even come up, I figured it was because it's not like she can do anything to help if I did want one! Would you need like a referral or something? Where would you even get it done if you wanted to? Is that an in-office procedure for a ped, surely not, right? Though I guess a moyle does it in a house?</p>
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<p>It's not so popular these days (yay!) here in the US. Is it the norm in Canada?</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Banana731</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1282264/had-to-laugh-a-little-at-my-midwife#post_16083626"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I was just curious. My first was a hospital CNM, and she asked because they would have done it during my hospital stay. With my HB midwife it hasn't even come up, I figured it was because it's not like she can do anything to help if I did want one! Would you need like a referral or something? Where would you even get it done if you wanted to? Is that an in-office procedure for a ped, surely not, right? Though I guess a moyle does it in a house?</p>
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<p>It's not so popular these days (yay!) here in the US. Is it the norm in Canada?</p>
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<br><br><p>most peds offices can do it. even if you cave a hospital birth you can do it at the peds office a few days later. I know this because one of my best friends has a jewish husband, and they just had a boy a few months ago. </p>
 

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<p>they do it in the ped's or a even some GP's do it here... costs about $200. It's not all that common even less common in the province I am in</p>
 

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<p>Only 200$?I think it's more expensive here. If it's done in the hospital there is a fee that goes to the hospital and then another fee that goes directly to the dr. I trying to remember the price but i don't remember. All I do know is that it was more than 200$ total. Totally expensive.</p>
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<p>I think it's also depends on the region.</p>
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<p>I wouldn't consider it at all as all males(my bro, bil, dh and nephews), in both sides are not. Plus I saw one happen when I was in the hospital with dd1 and i will never let my child suffer like that. Poor little guy. :(</p>
 

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<p>Our midwives give out some literature (or maybe it's on their website) about circ. They don't recommend it (duh), but if you are going to do it, they suggest using a moyle, as the hospital procedure is like half an hour and the moyle does it in seconds. This is my #1 reason why I am so happy we are having a girl- won't have to have this fight with DH. </p>
 

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<p>well that was at least one cost I heard of here..... I know it does change...</p>
 

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<p>here in WA it's pretty common, every little boy who's diapers I've ever changed has been circ. which makes me kind of nervious about caring for a little boy who won't be. we had the circ conversation before we found out DD was a girl, and it went something like this:</p>
<p>DF: no son of mine is going to be circ, it's barbaric.</p>
<p>ME: I have no reason to want to circ him, the claimed medical benefits are a wash. only reason I would do it is if you had a strong religious belief. </p>
<p>DF: uh, okay. I thought you were going to fight me on that one</p>
<p>ME: nope</p>
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<p>DF has a pretty crunchy mom, so even though it was even more the norm to circ when he was born, he was not. </p>
 

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<p>Hmmm....I don't remember my midwife even bringing it up before DS was born.  MAYBE it was part of the hospital pre-registration.  Then they asked right after he was born, we said no, they said okay and we all went about our lives. </p>
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<p>Marissamom, I love that story!  Ours was a little different, but still sort of funny.  A couple weeks after arguing about it and then sending DP a bunch of anti-circ articles, DP walked into the bathroom one day while I was taking a bath and brightly said "Good news!  I read the articles and I think circing is completely unnecessary and I don't think we should do it!"  Then he walked out.....</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Banana731</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1282264/had-to-laugh-a-little-at-my-midwife#post_16083626"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>It's not so popular these days (yay!) here in the US. Is it the norm in Canada?</p>
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I'm Canadian (ex-pat in WA) but my family is all back in Ontario.  My sister had a son last December and she had him cut, largely because her husband wanted his son to look like him (wah??!), but also because its what she knows (my mom bought into the "its unhygenic to leave boys uncircumcised" when my brother was born, and seemingly all my sister's friends felt similarly when they had sons).  She and I spoke about it and I sent her a bunch of links to articles, but she did it anyway.  She said it was horrible and for the first few days afterwards when he was clearly in pain and his little penis looked so....mangled...she regretted it, but I know she doesn't give it a second a thought now.  I have no doubt if she has another son that he'll be circumcised too (shudder).  Thankfully, my husband doesn't want it done if we have a boy (even though he is circumcised) so its something we don't even have to discuss.</p>
 

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<p>My midwife brought it up as well- she's Jewish so I wondered what her stance was. When I said we wouldn't be doing it, she said, "Good! There's no reason to have it done." I had to convince my DH because he believed all the lies that are so popular. Didn't take long after I gave him some facts and told him about possible complications.</p>
 

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<p>It was never really a discussion for us... DH had no intention of getting his son done and the cost was a big stopper for us as well.  both of us figure ehy they come that way why change it we aren't Jewish so there is no religious aspect.</p>
<p>Sound like my friend is still planning on having her next son done. I really don't know how to approach it. I have told her what i think and kinda left it t that.. maybe the midwife will be able to give her some info that would change her mind</p>
 

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<p>I had a homebirth first time around, and am planning it this time too.  The MW during the first pregnancy asked me several times, and I said no every time.  Not sure if she just didn't remember my answer or if she was trying to feel me out to see if I could be persuaded.  She is Jewish, and I read an article about her that said that she had become much more religious and traditional about half way through her career.  So I wonder if she became in favor of circing.  </p>
 
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