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My DS has had a habit of playing with his hair as he nurses off to sleep, but recently he has begun pulling it very hard. Sometimes he pulls it out or broaks it off. I doesn't seem to even bother him. I try to redirect his hand to fiddle with my shirt or a towel or my fingers, but he always wants to go back to the hair. Has anyone seen this before?<br><br>
He is always very happy and mellow. He is never left by himself. He cosleeps, hangs out in the mei tai, etc.<br><br>
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
 

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Well it looks like I am alone on this one. I have started putting a burp cloth there for him to grab at and also putting my finger in his hand so he doesn't have to grab his hair. Hopefully he will forget this habit.
 

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So sorry that I didn't see this post yesterday; dd is a hair twiddler too. Oh, and so am I, so no surprise as to where she's picked this up from. She will twiddle and pull at her hair when she's nursing to sleep, or she will pull and scratch the inside of her ear - OUCH!<br><br>
It's a self-soothing mechanism, so I think you're on the right track by redirecting it to something non-destructive. I've noticed that dd is more twiddly when she is overtired, so that may be something that you see with ds too. Dd hates it when I hold her hand to stop her doing it, but I found that if I stroke her fingers it distracts her for long enough for her to break the habit......
 

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I second the you're not alone vote, although I have no suggestions. My dd was a pincher - she'd pinch my boobs constantly and even herself :LOL ! She only stopped when...wait...she didn't stop <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> . Ds so far only pinches when he's tired. He pulls my hair, but THAT'S normal <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief"> . Doesn't sound like it's bothering him, so I guess redirecting him is the best you can do. Maybe find something that has hair - like one of those nasty little ponys or a barbie or something. then he can yank all he likes??? good luck!
 

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Yeah, Kieran loves hair, yanking on it, stroking it, eating it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> It's all about redirection and gave us a chance to teach him "let go" from a very early age <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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both of my kiddos are hair fiddlers. It's cute @ times but can also be a pain in the $#@!!!<br>
Ecspecially when DD is trying to twiddle mine to put herself to sleep and DS is trying to get his hand up there too.<br>
When they get frustrated they usually end up going for their own hair, but not always.<br>
I will enjoy reading these responses for advice also!!!<br>
I know a woman at our playgroup who actually cut off her hair and made a ponytail for her daughter to lug around and play with. I suppose that <i>is</i> an option, but honestly it kinda grosses me out.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">both of my kiddos are hair fiddlers. It's cute @ times but can also be a pain in the $#@!!!<br>
Ecspecially when DD is trying to twiddle mine to put herself to sleep and DS is trying to get his hand up there too.<br>
When they get frustrated they usually end up going for their own hair, but not always.<br>
I will enjoy reading these responses for advice also!!!<br>
I know a woman at our playgroup who actually cut off her hair and made a ponytail for her daughter to lug around and play with. I suppose that <i>is</i> an option, but honestly it kinda grosses me out.</div>
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Yikes.
 

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My baby always pulls her hair--more in the beginning--and she has a lot! When she was a couple of months old she'd reach back, pull, and them scream as if to say "who is pulling my hair?" Now she still does it occasionally at 9 mos.
 
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