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My babies have gotten into a stage where they're really into hair pulling. I don't think that it's personalized at all, they just really like hair and really like to grab and pull it.<br><br>
Neither the puller or pullee seems to make the connection between the hair pulling and the pain. When one is getting his hair pulled, he usually just sits or lays there passively and howls while the other one calmly and methodically continues to pull. I don't think the puller is aware that he's causing pain and I don't think the pullee realizes what the source of the pain is.<br><br>
How do other people deal with it? Do you just separate them when it happens? Do you admonish the puller (not that he'd understand, he's only ten months).<br><br>
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I just told them "no, that hurts!" and then seperated them. Even now at 18 months I'm not sure Ben understands that he's hurting Claire when he pulls her hair.
 

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hey, i remember you from our ddc <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
mine are really into hair pulling now, too. i usually remove the offending one's hand while saying "nooooo, ouch!" they totally don't get it, though, and i don't think they will any time soon. the fuzz is just so enticing...
 

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I'm pretty sure that until around 18 months, the only real solution is to separate them, or keep hats on them. You can say, firmly but gently, that pulling hurts, and redirect little hands to better things to mess with. But hair is so tempting, and it's really just curiosity and exploration that makes them do it at this point.
 

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One of mine is a horrible hair puller. Anytime he gets frustrated or angry his first reaction is to pull dd's hair. Even if he's upset with me he'll still go after dd's hair. It's like he just needs a release and the hair is his go-to release. It's a two fisted hold on for dear life sort of pull. My first course of attack is prevention. In the event that fails (and it happens at least once or twice a day) I move on to prying open his death grip fingers, saying "ouch, pulling hair hurts, let go!" and picking up and comforting dd who by this time is screaming in pain.
 

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Karen, my twins also take out their frustration with me on each other! Totally cracks me up (uh, that sounds evil but it's seriously sort of funny--mom tells you no, whack your sister to feel better :giggle)
 

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Yet another reason I'm glad mine are BALD <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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We went through exactly the same thing at that age! It's what 10-11-month old babies do - they grab on and don't let go. When they do it to you it's not such a big deal - you can take it. When they do it to each other - OUCH!<br><br>
Our solution was simple - we shaved their heads (not down tot he skin, but short). We kept them buzzed for the next couple of years, which made a lot of things easier.<br><br>
The only glitch was that one of our boys had much longer hair than the other, and that was the easiest way to tell the apart. When that marker was gone, we had to start color-coding their clothes, so we could tell them apart from across the room.<br><br>
Be lucky they're boys! I might have used a clipper on girls too, but probably not!
 
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