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A few months ago, I gave DH an ultimatum about life in our bedroom--he needed to get his snoring under control, or one of us was out of there. He finally got to feeling so bad in the mornings that we both suspected sleep apnea, which turned out to be the case.

Long story short, he got fitted for a dental implant that keeps his airway open at night--the snoring is gone! Just like that!


What's more, he is sleeping better, is in a better mood (most of the time), and has more energy. The dental device was kind of pricey, but very worth it. He ended up picking it up on our 8th wedding anniversary, so he comes home with a little bag that looks like it could hold a box with something sparkly in it, and says "here's your anniversary present, dear! A good night's sleep." What a guy!
 

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Wow! That is amazing news. My DH snores horribly and the only reason I have relief these days is he works really awkward shift work AND has been sleeping separately in another room (I am co-sleeping with DS in a double bed in other room). Even when my DH is in the other room, I wake up from his snoring. I didn't realize there is actually a solution! Did you visit a sleep disorders clinic or go to a family doctor for this apparatus?
 

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Wow, I'm glad that works for him, that's great!

My XH snored so bad that I ended up sleep deprived, it was h*ll. I actually looked forward to my night shifts so I could get some good sleep during the day.

Hope you have many more restful nights coming up!
 

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Thanks, everyone. Yes, I am looking forward to some more rest. I tend to sleep hard once I am asleep, but I often have trouble falling asleep and/or staying asleep. Any little thing can throw me off, and the snoring was particularly bad.

Tuesday--DH did need to have a sleep study to diagnose this. He was referred by an Ear Nose Throat specialist, but you might be able to have your regular doctor refer you as well. The results came back as "moderate to severe" sleep apnea, which meant that he was waking up quite a bit during the night. There were a couple of different treatments that he could have gone with--the CPAP mask that was referred to is supposedly the most effective, but it feels and looks horrible. There's also surgery that he could have done, but it would have changed his voice, and probably made him sound more adnoidal. DH has a rich, beautiful baritone voice that is of professional quality, and so to ruin that was no option. So he went with the dental implant, which was the least invasive. He was fitted for it by a prosthodontist. The sleep study was completely covered by insurance, and we are not sure about the device yet, but we are waiting to see.

I highly recommend following up on this for anyone who might be suffering from the same disorder!

Mia
 

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and I do REALLY mean that
A good night's sleep is sooo nice when you live with a sleep apnea patient.
I made dh get his machine re calibrated earlier this year after both me and the respiratory therapist pointed out that the wife shouldn't have to take ambien to sleep because he is sooo loud. ( our place is really tiny so nowhere to go that you CAN'T hear)
I am so happy for you that you can rest and that he got diagnosed and got his device !!
 

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Is the device comfortable for your husband? When you say "pricey" what exactly do you mean? (Please pm me if you're not comfortable sharing that info publicly.)

My DH is a chronic snorer and he is willing to do something about it, but we have never found anything that worked. Maybe this is it
I'm so glad it's working for you!
 

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Ah, I'm so jealous. Dh snores horribly. And the kicker is, he never did before we were married (we didn't live together then). When we'd go away together or he'd stay at my place, no snoring. Lovely, cuddly evenings. And then, on our wedding night, BAM! Snoring like a frieght train, and it's only gotten worse since. Most nights I kick him into the guest room, or I'd never get any sleep. He's been using those "Breathe Easy" strips with some success, but I've noticed that they don't seem to be as effective anymore.

I know part of the problem is that he's gained about 25-30 lbs since we've been married. He doesn't seem interested/motivated to lose it, though, so I might have to press him to find another solution. I'm getting so sleep deprived between him and DD, and our marriage is suffering. I feel like Fred and Wilma in our separate beds.
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Jellyfishy: My DH's snoring definitely got worse when he gained weight, too, so you're right that that is probably a factor. My DH always claimed that he snored worse when he was not with me, but since it was pretty bad whenever I was around, I wasn't quite sure I believed him. The Breathe right strips helped us some, but, like you, they stopped doing much good after awhile. If your DH is willing and your insurance covers it, you might want to consider having him go for a sleep study. As I said, it really was the ticket for us.

Nova22: DH's dental device is comfortable for him to wear. It pushes his bottom teeth forward to open up his airway better. He can't really talk once he's gotten it put in, but that's the only drawback. I've heard people say that the CPAP mask (another form of treatment for sleep apnea) is NOT comfortable. As for the price, I haven't seen the bill yet--the dentist is submitting to insurance for us--outer limit, if insurance pays nothing, is somewhere around $1,800. I'm really hoping they pay something, since this is for a *medical* condition, after all. They did cover the entire sleep study--not even a co-pay.

Hope this helps.

Mia
 

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Wow--good for you!

My DH snores & it totally disrupts my sleep. I poke him, he rolls over, but continues snoring. His doctor (GP_ told him it is allergies & there is nothing he can do about it.

I love the days where he sleeps somewhere else to give me abreak. Isn't taht terrible!?!?!
 

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My husband snored so loud I sent him to the doctor, she told him to lose weight, but he didn't listen. Then later he lost about 20lbs and now he is snore free unless he is REALLY sleep deprived. I love it!!
 

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My dad suffers from severe sleep apnea and has had a cpap machine for about four or five years now -- what a difference it made. My mom is well-rested because she no longer has to deal with the snoring and my dad has more energy as well. It's been a life-saver for their marriage (as my mom would get increasingly frustrated with the lack of sound sleeping).

What a wonderful anniversary present!
 

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I really think my dh has sleep apnea, especially because he is tired alot and will sleep almost anywhere at any time along with the horrible snoring. He is in the spare room because I cannot deal with the snoring (I'm a light sleeper anyway). We tried the breathe right, didn't do much for long. I should get him in for a sleep evaluation.

Thanks for posting this.
 

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Glad I could help. Arduinna, I agree that if your DH is falling asleep at odd hours of the day and has a general lack of energy, that sleep apnea may be the cause. Before his diagnosis, my DH would usually fall asleep with our older daughter, around 8:30 or 9:00pm at night, either sleep right through or else wake up briefly at 10:30 when I moved her, fall back asleep until 7:30 or 8:00am, and then complain that he was completely exhausted and had gotten no rest. On weekends, he would usually take a 2 hour nap in the middle of the day. He also would have to drink at least 4 cups of coffee a day, and still had very little energy for anything--playing with the kids, exercise, even sex. I got irritated with him because I felt like I never saw him anymore. We'd finally get the kids put to bed and I'd be looking for some company to talk to, watch tv with, whatever, and he was out like a light.

From what I understand, sleep apnea itself is not particularly problematic, but the complications (lack of rest, inadequate supply of oxygen making the heart and lungs work harder, etc.) are the issue.

Mia
 

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oh yeah, that sounds alot like my dh. He literally can fall asleep anytime that he has the opportunity. I've seen him fall asleep sitting up in the chair even.

I've been so busy I forgot to discuss this with him last night. I have to remember tonight!

He really wants to come back into our bed, but we have to do something about the snoring!

sorry to highjack
 

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Arduinna, I feel your pain my dh snores terrible.

He moved out on to the couch after I got pg; he feels bad because he's snoring keeps me up and then when I fall alseep its actually so loud that it will wake me up.

He's going in for a physical in a couple of weeks and he's going to talk to the dr about this. I'm sure he'll get the lose weight thing though. However he has been snoring his whole life so maybe he'll get somewhere.

Good luck with your husband. I know I miss mine at night (minus the snoring) and I'm ure you miss yours too
 
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