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Can anyone give me some advice on whether or not to keep clothing? I have 3 girls, ages 7, 3, and 2 months. I have bins upon bins of clothing that I was saving from the 7 year old for her sisters. But it's taking up a ton of room and we'll be moving soon and I don't really feel like trucking it to a new place. Do you all think I should just donate the clothing to get rid of it or should I keep it for hand-me-downs? I am really low income but we have a great consignment shop nearby so I could replace the clothing pretty cheaply. I was thinking of saving only what I really love and dont' want to part with and getting rid of the rest because it's just SO much and it will be YEARS before I can get rid of it since the span from oldest to youngest is 7 1/2 years. So I'm not really sure exactly what to get rid of. Do you all save all the kids clothing? My younger two are nearly exactly 3 years apart(2 days from it) so the seasons are right and everything.
 

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Well, I don't have experience with hand me downs yet but this is what I would do:<br><br>
Go through everything and only save the stuff you really like/ in great condition. I would also save things that are more expensive to replace like jackets, snow suits, dress clothing. I would try to get it down to a reasonable amount and organize by size in space bags. The rest of it you can donate and get a receipt for the value, write it off on your taxes!
 

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yeah, i would only keep the items you absolutely love and can't bear to part with. don't keep things just because it's nice, or cute, or was a gift, or . . . you know? pp's mention of the pricy items is a good thought as well, but only the ones that are actually useful.
 

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You may also want to consider a clothes swap to get stuff for your oldest DD. Like see if you can find another Mom that has the next size up for your oldest DD, that needs stuff for her younger DD.
 

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I would store nice shoes and boots, too, but no, wouldn't store *everything* for *four* years.<br><br>
I have a nine year old girl, 4 yr old and 1 yr old boy (currently wearing the unisex snowsuit I bought for his sister ages ago, and his brother's old boots).<br><br>
There is not too much that I can save from an older girl for little brothers, although she doesn't mind wearing "boy" parkas, boots and snow gear, so I'll be keeping some of that stuff. It is sure liberating to be able to get rid of her old stuff completely!<br><br>
And nice to be able to look for new or new to us stuff for the boys. Styles change so quickly. When dd was a baby, she wore lots of gender-neutral overalls and turtlenecks and some of that could have been handed down....but for some reason, with the boys, overalls just don't seem right at all. I'm glad I didn't try to save them.
 

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Could you limit how much new stuff you buy? I know it differs for everyone, but it sounds like your 7yr old could just have way too many clothes to start with. I guess it also depends on the sizes of your dc. My dd is 7 and very slim. She can wear many of the same skirts, short sleve shrits and dresses for several years in a row.<br><br>
So for me, if I had dc that age and gender I would keep all the stuff. But as I said I wouldn't have as much to begin with and even less to store as ideally the middle child should being only a year away in size from the oldest hand-me-downs.<br><br>
I have a good friend that I give my dd's hand-me-down. She has 2dd only 2yrs apart, but her oldest is tall and heavy and the youngest is short and extremely petite so it's hard to pass down clothes in her family.
 

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My girls are 3 years apart and I saved EVERYTHING from the first one for the second one. I had at least 2 big tubs of clothes for each size.<br><br>
It was WAY too many clothes to keep, especially when the younger one received some new clothes as gifts for her birthday and the holidays.<br><br>
I would go through and pick out the outfits I really liked from the tub and the rest would just sit.<br><br>
Definitely go through and only save what you love. I usually pick about 10 outfits for summer and 10 for winter, plus a heavy coat and light jacket.
 

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I've got 3 boys, ages almost 6, 3 and 10 weeks. I've saved EVERYTHING. Finally last weekend I went through a few totes that were in the closet and got rid of the stained or torn clothes. But everything else I save. I usually only buy gap or nice quality clothes and it lasts through all of them, so I am getting my monies worth for sure.
 

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I kept everything... other than badly stained, torn etc for the looonnnggest time from my first 2dc. I had totes upon totes of clothes!! When I was pregnant with ds#2 (and found out he was a boy) I went through all my dd's clothing and kept a few favorite outfits and gathered a bunch for a friends little girl and took the rest to consignment. I also went through my ds's clothing but kept a bit more since the new babe was to be a boy. I made $170 at the consignment store!! Now a days I don't keep anything of dd's... pass what I can to a friend but the rest goes to the thrift stores. I used to sell on ebay/craigslist but it's gotten too time consuming with 4dc. I do keep some of my oldest ds's clothing to pass along to my next ds (there's a 4 yr age gap but they're of the same build). Now the baby is 11m but already in 24m and my 3yr old was 24m at a different season so I'm finding I have to get some pieces for him but I live 1 1/2 mi from a Savers (LOVE LOVE LOVE them!!) and Salvation Army is 5min away. We also have a goodwill about 10min down the road but I haven't been there in awhile since Savers always gives me my fix, lol. I also have gotten great deals on clothing off of Craigslist. It is hard to know what to keep vs what to donate but I'ld rather have the space since I know I can always hit the thrift stores.
 

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If you can sell it for credit at the consignment store, and use that credit later in the future, I would do it that way.<br><br>
Of course, save your absolute favorites or anything you think your younger ones would adore. Or that would be expensive to replace.<br><br>
It's nice that you have a consignment store so close. The nearest one to us is an hour away, not worth it for me to sell/shop there often.
 

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With my older boys I kept everything and I just handed them down and replaced things as they wore out etc.<br>
This time around since I do not plan on having any more kids, I have been selling the stuff at the thrift store. We have probably enough clothes to dress 3 babies because of Maggie's reflux. Anyway the thrift store takes about half and the rest I pass along to friends. We are in size 24 months clothing. Anyway, I have literally only spent about $100 on clothing for Maggie...up until the last 3 weeks I had only spent about $40.00. I know I can resell what I bought close to what I paid for it some of the items I get more for it reselling then what I paid for it.
 

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I have 3 boys and one on the way (not sure whether boy or girl), ranging from 17 to 2. I keep anything that is going to be usable. I've already paid for those clothes....donating them when my other kids will be able to use them is not in keeping with my motto of trying to purchase teh least amt. possible.<br>
i separate the clothing in bins. when the next kid gets to that point, i go through the bin then and weed out stuff at that point.<br><br>
its fun to see my 2 year old wear a cute shirt that my 17 yo used to wear at that age. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I never realized how clothes could trigger such memories but it can.
 

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My two girls Liz and Maggie have 3 1/2 years apart. Although both are "girlie girls" they can do damage to clothing with stains etc. I find the day to day stuff like shirts and stretch pants can get well worn with my 5 yr old Liz and dosent even get to MAggie. Literally last year a few summer shirts she wore to camp got turned into rags! But dresses are fine to pass down. I save boots, winter gear, coats and bathing suits. I have size bathing suits from 2T to size 8 in girls! I also save dressy shoes, tights, socks and undies. PJs can be passed down but some also got beat up because they were favorites of some sort.<br><br>
I toss gym style shoes, sandels, old old socks, but I bin up the other stuff that Maggie can use in a few years.<br><br>
One thing I noticed in shape and body type as well as how things fit. Both my girls have long torsos like dh. After shirts have been washed a few times they get "short" So a lot of times I hang dry them but they really cannot get passed down well.<br><br>
Also neither of my girls were chubby babies but lean so 24 mos always seemed wide but 2T always worked. No idea why!!<br><br>
I would think if the siblings have similar body types, taste in style of clothing (one loves dresses but the other is a jean girl would not work) and its not too long apart since styles change or things kept in long term storage can also get funny if not stored properly.<br><br>
I always have someone to pass things onto which I do after a cleanout. Last year a couple of friends were very happy to take all my nursing gear. They also had fun with all my girl baby clothes since both had girls.
 

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I've been dealing with hand me downs too. We get so many from my little sister (9) for my dd1 (3). I have decided to only keep a set number of pants shirts and dresses all of which I believe with fit in a large or x-large space bag, then I can just suck the air out, therefore combining my frugal and simple lifestyle.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I save jeans, nice dresses, winter gear, and 5 or 6 of my favorite outfits. everything else goes.<br><br>
Now my oldest is plus size, my middle is slim and my youngest is of course right in the middle at perfectly average. So i don't have much to pass down. also as they have gotten older their tops and dresses go from one girl to the next without a gap. I have an 11, 7 and 5 year old.
 

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We only have one child and I generally try to only have two weeks worth of DD's clothes for each season. We only have two seasons here really and short-sleeve shirts are worn in both seasons. When I say two weeks, I mean 10 school outfits (1st grade), 4 nicer outfits, some play clothes (clothes for camping and sand/playground, amount depends on upcoming season's possibilities), and activities clothing (swimsuits and gymnastics, etc for 'X' sessions in two weeks). Whatever a typical two weeks would entail her wearing/needing. Those nicer outfits are usually suitable for 4 different activities, such as shopping, party, wedding/big social event, or whatever I think is coming up.<br><br>
DD & I go through her clothes and toys about three times a year together (birthday-spring, summer, and holidays-winter). We've been doing this since she was 8 months old and I make it a game. The idea is to make room for the new gifts coming up (and school starting), but the frequency also serves the purpose of keeping the clothes in check! DD is a fashion diva and LOVES clothes and shoes! Without regular "culling", her entire room would be taken over by clothes and shoes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> Prior to her growth slowing down, it worked beautifully for keeping her happy with just enough "new" clothes three times a year (pulled from the "too big" drawer is just as good to her as coming from a store) while fitting in her drawers. We have no "totes" of clothes waiting for her. Clothes given to us that are too big are put in the bottom drawer of her dresser (divided by season and stored as outfits). Clothes that still fit when the current season is over go in the middle drawer of her dresser (stored as outfits). Top drawer is for underthings. We go through middle drawer first each season and immediately give away anything that doesn't fit anymore. Clothes that fit and are in season go in her closet. Rotating frequently keeps everything "fresh" and interesting to her and keeps the clutter from taking over.<br><br>
We do the same with toys, but we rotate based on room instead of season.<br><br>
So, I would go through all those tubs and let your DDs help you. Have fun with it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Hold a fashion show, take pictures, reminisce... It'll take a week or more, but when you are done give away the unpopular items ASAP.<br><br>
We don't generally receive those less frequently needed items like heavy coats and rainboots, etc, so I have to buy those when needed. She only has one of each and they are kept in the hall closet year-round until they no longer fit, then they are given away ASAP. I would keep those items from your stash, as they can really add up and be unexpected purchases.<br><br>
Enjoy! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I would only keep things that are still in good condition, things of a specific brand name that are good quality, items that are expensive to replace (snowsuit) and it all has to be somewhat neutral and timeless (like jeans, shirts without print).<br>
I would sell or donate everything that is "trendy" because it would look outdated by the time the other children get to wear it (unless you don't really care about that). I don't keep socks, tights and shirts with stains either.
 

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I saved everything from my son. I set aside clothing that for some reason or another has sentimental value, and the rest is stored in tubs in my mom's basement. I'm having a girl this time around, so there's not much from my son that I can use, but we're still keeping it because my brother and his wife don't have kids yet and now that I'll have a child of each gender, I can pass down stuff to them when they do have kids. Whatever they don't want, I plan to sell or pass on to someone else, because we're not having any more kids.<br><br>
In your case, since storage is limited, I'd buy some big tubs - as many as you feel you have room for, and then save the best clothing from each size until you fill up the tubs and consign the rest and set that money aside so you can buy clothing for your oldest as he needs it, or for the younger kids if they have other needs that aren't filled by what you've saved.
 

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I can't count on having the money to replace stuff... And it seems they grow right when other big bills come in or are looming (Christmas coming or when I jsut filled the oil tank) ... so I save from my Ds age 12, for my Ds age 6- so have 6 years worth of stuff in the basement, but I keep it neat, in tucker totes and on pallets so it is not on the floor, as the floor gets damp down there sometimes. Then from DS (age 6) I save all the unisex stuff for DD who is 2. There is actually quite a LOT of unisex stuff because I have a rule that when I buy new, I buy unisex, same with when I ask for stuff for my kids for thier B-day or Christmas... So they have lots of red, green, yellow, navy, dark purple, light blue kind of stuff...<br><br>
Any really boyish stuff that Ds age 6 outgrows and I would not put on DD, gets either consigned for some cash or freecycled. Then when DD is done with her stuff, I have 3 friends with younger baby girsl, so I consign a few things, but most of it gets divided between the friends. i do have some friends who pass some girlie stuff on to me for DD, then when I end up with too much stuff I just pass it on to another friend.<br><br>
This works really well for me but I just find you have to label stuff really well. So I guess I am the one lone voice saying to save it, but that is what I do anyhow.
 
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