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Greetings.<br><br>
I think this is my first time posting to this area of MDC. I've read some, but not posted.<br><br>
Anyway, I've realized over the past 2 weeks or so that the reason why I end up getting angry when things just keep happening that I don't want/need not to, is because I start feeling frustrated, either w/ my 2 children or in combination with them and life's pressures, and I am not able to disapate it. I'm posting this here in gentle discipline because the place where it has the biggest impact on my life is dealing w/ my children.<br><br>
In my former life, when I was frustrated, escpecially w/ dh, I'd sit and write about it. That helped a lot. Obviously, now, w/ a 4.5 y.o. and almost 2 y.o., I can't ask them to sit and wait while mommy writes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
What do you do to make it so your frustration doesn't turn into anger?<br><br>
BTW- I've read lots of discipline and parenting books and I have yet to find any long term solutions for me. And, I know that 90% if not more of the difficulties I have w/ discipline are my problem not their problem.<br><br>
TIA,<br>
Sus
 

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Remaining calm has had a huge impact on my 3yo son's behavior. He used to push to get me mad and enter into a "dance" with him. All that happened was I would get more frustrated until I was about to lose my cool. Now that I have focused on remaining calm he doesn't push because I won't dance. I have counted to ten, taken deep breaths, and come to understand that he doesn't push to be obnoxious, he pushes to find the limit. When I remain calm, he remains calm and we can talk things through. Knowing this helps me stay sane and speak quietly and rationally through bouts of frustration.
 
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