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I had the most amazingly beautiful and easy pregnancy, my baby and I were both healthy and had a loving and supportive midwife. This was my first pregnancy and I saw no reason not to have a home birth. I lost my mucus plug a week before going into labor. I had mild contractions though out the night, and by 4:30am Sunday morning they were very regular. My husband I went for a walk and I continued light labor though out the day. My midwife came at 11pm when my contractions were getting quite strong. I labored in the bath, in bed, and on the birthing stool, but I had a cervical lip that wouldn't budge. I was very nauseous though out the labor, and was beginning to feel really wiped out. The cervical lip would disappear and reappear, and when I was finally able to push, I lost contractions. My midwife talked to my mum and mother in law about a hospital transfer, but she said she believed I could do it, thank goodness! The only reason we didn't transfer was because baby's heart rate was steady and there were no signs of distress. It was just a matter of me not progressing. Trying to push without contractions was making me so exhausted. My midwife decided to rupture the bag of waters to get things going. This worked! My contractions returned. The midwife estimated the baby would be born at 3 am. I began laboring on the birthing stool, and going back and forth between the stool and bed. When I was laying down the cervical lip would come back, so I had to stay on the stool. I had my mum holding one hand, my mother in law holding the other, my husband applying pressure to my back and my midwife checking the baby. At this point was nearly delirious, I kept feeling like I was going to pass out. When the baby's head finally crowned my husband didn't have time to come and catch the baby, he really flew right out.
My beautiful baby boy Tenzin Kai was placed on my chest at 12:09pm! (Monday April 4th. He weighed 11lbs, 3 oz!!!!) We went to the bed where he breastfed contently. My husband cut the cord and my midwife reminded me that I needed to deliver the placenta, and it had been an hour. I didn't have any contractions to help deliver the placenta and I was given herbs to help. I pushed and pushed on the birthing stool, and was getting nowhere. Finally she said to push, and she would pull a little bit. It came out, and filled the bowl, it seemed that there was a lot of blood. Then I started hemorrhaging. She told everyone to quickly lift me to the bed.
Then she said "stay with us" I thought, she thinks I might die??? I knew that there was no way I was going to die, I looked at my baby and tried to stay calm. She put two shots in my thigh to help me coagulate. The bleeding slowed down, and we could finally all take a deep breath. She finally had time to deal with the baby- she noticed that his umbilical cord was larger at the base than normal. She told us we should go to the doctor the next morning, and be prepared to fly to Honolulu. We got to spend the first day and night in bed with our sweet babe. The worst case scenario was true. There was something leaking from his umbilical cord, and we would have to fly to Honolulu to see a specialist.
I was hardly able to walk, and completely drained, but all I could think about was my baby I hardly noticed myself and my pain. I was upset that we had to go to the hospital after all, but I just prayed and prayed that Tenzin would be ok. When we arrived no one knew what was wrong- they had to do investigative surgery. I just cried and cried. This couldn't be happening. Handing your newborn baby over to an aniciolgist is one of the hardest things I have ever done. We had to have faith, it was all there was to do.
During Tenzin's time in surgery my husband and I were trying to be strong for each other, reminding each other that premature babies have heart surgery, and our healthy strong baby would be fine. We were in the waiting room, and it was past the time that he should be finished. I started to freak out, "I have to go to him!" I told my husband. Just a second later the surgeon stepped in and said "He's finished" (Tenzin had a very rare condition called patent urachus. The bladder is connected to the umbilical cord until 3 months in utero, it then detaches and the bladder descends. His stayed attached, and there was urine leaking from the cord.) They let me in as Tenzin was waking up. It was so hard to see him with an air mask, IV, and monitors all over him. He had a little weasy cry. When they were able to take off most of the cords I held him in a rocking chair and he tried to nurse. They told me he would probably have to relearn to suck properly, but it didn't take him too long. We spent the next few days in the hospital, I would breast feed him over the metal crib where he still had some sort of cord on every extremity. He just did so well. We were allowed to go home early since he was eating so well. Tezin is now over two months old, and as healthy as can be.
Some afterthoughts. It was possible that Tenzin could have gotten an infection from the opening, and because we weren't at the hospital right away there could have been more serious complications. If my bleeding didn't stop there wouldn't have been time to get me to the hospital which is half and hour to 45 min. drive.
The positive side: My midwife said that if I would have had an ultrasound when I was pregnant they would have noticed the umbilical and I would have had to have a cesarean, and they would have taken him directly into surgery. I feel so blessed that we had that first day at home to snuggle in bed. We are very blessed!
 

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I think I would go ahead with another homebirth. It sounds like the hemmoraging was gotten under control. I'm not sure I would have let them pull on the cord like that though, it could have contributed to the hemmorage IMO. For future info also, every story I've read where a woman was hemmoraging, eating a bit of the placenta stopped it almost immediately.

I think you are right in that you are blessed to have been home and so is your baby boy for getting both the peaceful entry into this world, bonding time with mom and dad, and the medical care he needed.
 

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I voted yes (though I haven't actually had a hb yet). It sounds like this condition is very rare. What are the chances it would happen to the next babies? I also agree that the pulling on the placent could have caused the hemmorage, just from reading posts on here. And as far as infections are concerned your baby has more of a chance getting an infection at the hospital than at home.

BTW lovely birth story.
 

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Congrat's! And your story is amazing...you were so brave with your little one. I am so happy all is well!

I don't think you will hemorrhage again. And I don't think that your next baby would have this. Have you spoken to your midwife about your concerns? I wish you many warm thoughts as you put this birth through your head again and again...and as you come to the decisions you will make for your next birth.

Just remember...each baby and labor is different.
 
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