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Okay, with just over 8 weeks left I guess I better get in gear! Besides trying to get other things in my life in order and preparing ds, I've really done nothing to get ready for this new one. Well, I guess I have had midwife visits. Part of it is that I'm really a minimalist, baby will sleep with us, and I know there is a box of newborn clothes, dipers, and other things I need in the attic. Just wondering if anyone else is waiting until the last minute too, I guess...
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> That's me too. Although I'm due at the end of July, so I guess I have a little more time left. But DS was born a week early, so I may not have as much time as I think.<br><br>
We don't even have a name chosen yet, and have barely talked about it. Oh well, as people say, babies don't really need much. I've got diapers, my own bed, and baby clothes. And two slings, a car seat, etc. The benefit of this being #2, I guess. Everything else is more for peace of mind or comfort.
 

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Me too...I really haven't done a thing! I'm 32 weeks today, so I'm starting to feel a little pressure...like maybe I should at least order my birth kit!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> The baby will sleep with us. I have lots of clothes for both genders so after the baby is born my mom will throw what ever we need in the wash! We haven't even talked about names at ALL this time. Dh will never commit to a name until he sees the baby and we usually pick something totally different than what was on our list, so I haven't even thought about it this time... Maybe I should at least start THINKING about a possible name...Hmmm...I feel most pressed to get my spring cleaning done at this point. I just really want everything super clean...Maybe I should get off the computer and pick a room!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I've done way more than I am really supposed to occurding to my spiritual tradition. Which isn't that much, but still. Everything else in my life is such chaos. I just want to know this baby will have some diapers.
 

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Uh, we have a pile of cloth diapers (and used stuff that people have been sending from thousands of miles away). We won't have a crib or a changing table or a nursery- so what's there to do except take good care of our bodies?
 

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I've done nothing, and it's starting to freak me out. I need to pay off the midwives within 7 weeks, and I didn't realize it was so close. Plus we have our CSA shares to buy this quarter and we bought a (much needed) new couch that won't be delivered till the middle of June, but I still need to pay for half of it. Then the birth kit and I'm hoping to get a birth tub. I don't know where this money will all come from! I just did a bunch of co-ops too, but I bought things like diaperkits, sunblock, diaper rash cream, etc. But now I have to take a break from spending any money and sell stuff we don't need or use. I know I can do it, I just have to DO IT.<br><br>
Otherwise, we are set on clothes (see: 2 boys already), diapers, Amby, pouches. That's all we really need. Besides money. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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I'm starting to freak out.. I feel very unprepared right now. I have the basics for the most part but there are some things that we will need when she comes. I'm not sure how we are going to swing things either. But we'll manage we always do.
 

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I've done NOTHING. With my first ds everything was prepared weeks in advance, washed and folded and put in its place. BUT then a family of little mice made their home in his co-sleeper with all his cute fluffy toys that he'd received from my baby shower and I was devastated. Mouse poop everywhere. Goes to show that you can have all your ducks in a row and still be behind. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I've done way more than I am really supposed to occurding to my spiritual tradition. Which isn't that much, but still. QUOTE]<br><br>
We're sort of in the same place. Dh's culture doesn't believe in having stuff for the baby before it's born, but he's relenting now that I'm in the 3rd trimester. I bought him a gift "from the baby" (a snugli) and bought myself a breast pump. I have a short, short list of things we need to have before it's born (car seat, onesies, diapers), but everything else can wait or dh would rather not know about it.<br>
Life outside my pregnancy has also been completely nuts for us, so this is the first month I've really felt I had time to think about it.<br>
We've both been cleaning and organizing like freaks, too, which sort of satisifies that need to do something before the baby comes. We're also getting good at doing things that are connected to the baby, but not really for it alone- like we're thinking we're going to tear up the carpet in the bedroom and put down laminate. In the back of our minds, it's for the baby in hopes of reducing allergins, but we'll all get to enjoy it. We've always hated that carpet.
 

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Nothing done yet! Not really feaking out yet (I think dh is starting too freak out) I really waiting till the nesting kicks in and some time off work.<br>
I do think I will take some time around May long off to try to get some cleaning done and hopefully get the basement in order for them to put up the drywall so we can get the bedrooms moved around. I just wish I could wiggle my nose and have it all done! (where is the nose wiggle smiley?)<br>
Every thing will fall into place it always does!
 

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I really haven't done anything. We will be moving to a different state the week of/after my due date, so most of my energy has been going toward setting up the move, not baby stuff. Plus, I have everything we really need, excpet for a new car that we can all fit in with baby. That will have to come after we close on our new house in June.<br><br>
My mom mentioned that she may come up to stay with us the week before Memorial day and help me get organized for the move and for the baby. That was a relief to hear! I need her organizational help!
 

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I have so much that I WANT to do before this baby comes, one example is getting caught up with my son's baby album and finalizing some things our family made that were intended for ds's bedroom, over a year ago.<br><br>
I've done very little preparation for the baby and I do need to think about rooms/spaces because I don't want to uproot my son after the baby is here. We also need names (not my favorite thing to do).<br><br>
I'm concentrating more on birth preparation and I do want to be low-key about stuff, but last time was so stressful, I kinda feel like I need to be 'prepared' too, so I'm not going crazy like I did last time. But in a way I don't want to do it!!<br><br>
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I'm in the same boat. i have been so busy with other things I really haven't had the time or energy to start fussing over all of this stuff.<br><br>
I have accomplished all of my spring cleaning. I got my yard and garden all landscaped and in order(which is great since I won't have the time to fool with it for quite a while). All of the little things I needed to accomplish before the baby comes I have done. (touching up paint and reorganizing closets)<br><br>
I'm still struggling a little to get the midwife paid off, and I don't feel like I can just go and blow money on baby clothes until I finish that up.<br><br>
The only think I have to have is a new carseat and a diaper pail. I still have a full set of newborn clothes for either gender. I have plenty of cloth diapers and covers too. I would like to get a changing table just to have a nice place to store everything, but I could live without it really.<br><br>
I'm just about ready to start getting things done like ordering a birth kit and making some meals to freeze.
 

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Add me to the "done nothing" camp! We have a large tote of newborn clothes downstairs, which I am hoping are mostly gender neutral since we're expecting a girl this time! Baby will sleep with us / in the cosleeper and we have the infant car seat, so I will probably be mostly set if we get some diapers and clear out a couple of drawers in our room (since DS's clothes take up all of the space in his set of drawers).<br><br>
We're also planning to move a few weeks post-partum, so instead of freezing meals, I am trying to purge clutter! What little of my brain is left after playing with my 17 month old all day has been focusing on move-related stuff , rather than baby-prep stuff...
 

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Sleet76 and Razil:<br>
How are you dealing with moving so close to your due dates?<br>
We just found out that we might be moving- and I am not very calm about it. We don't have a time frame, but the move could be pretty close to my due date, and it is across the country.
 

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newmommaamy,<br><br>
Well, you can ask me again in three months. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> We have the benefit of only moving two hours away, to a city where my mother-in-law lives, and my father-in-law is in-state and parents willing to visit around that time, so hopefully we'll have enough hands to help with our toddler that the move itself won't be too bad. Ever the optimist...<br><br>
We will probably be closing on the house a couple weeks before the due date, and ferry some unessential (but heavy) stuff up there before the birth/move. We're planning on staying in our current house until after the baby comes because I love my midwives and the local birthing center and there really is nothing comparable in the new town.<br><br>
Probably the single issue that makes it even conceivable is that we are hoarding away enough money so that we can hire packers and movers. We'll do the unpacking ourselves, but I just can't imagine packing up all these boxes pregnant - both because of the physical nature of the job and how hard and stressful it would be to live in a half-packed house for weeks and weeks right around delivery time (if we were doing it ourselves, it would take us at least a month to pack everything and it will take the movers a day or two).<br><br>
My husband and I are both military brats, so we've done the move thing several times before -- really I'm more worried about all the changes at once (new baby, new house, general upheaval) for my son, who will be about 20 months at the time. I'm sure it won't be lifetime scarring, but I'm definitely prepared for several weeks of clinginess, unusual behavior, poor sleep, etc.<br><br>
Mostly, the timing is out of my hands, so I'm just trying to keep an even keel and make the best of it.<br><br>
What I'm not dealing with as well is the decision about what to do with the current house we own. Rent it out? Sell it? Get it in showing condition and keep it that way when pregnant and chasing a toddler? Just put it off and sell it empty after we move??? Ack!!!!<br><br>
Good luck to you!
 

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newmommaamy,<br><br>
We are also having movers--DH's new job is moving us, which will make all the difference. Also, my in-laws live close to us now, and will be available to watch the kids for some move-related projects around here, and accompany us to IL. My parents will be meeting us on the arriving end, and we'll have both sets there for a few weeks.<br><br>
I am not sure where this baby will be born, though. My DH has a month off between his current job and the new one--and we'd really like to spend as much of that time as possible in our new house settling in (not to mention we're in a very transitional dump right now, and are moving to a nice house) instead of here. So, we're not waiting around for the new baby to be born. I'd not mind at all if he's a little late and he's born in IL. I'll be forwarding my records to a midwife there, and will see her as soon as I roll into town if the baby hasn't arrived yet. Or, I'll see her for my post-partum stuff if baby has been born.<br><br>
I think a few things that are making me feel really relaxed about this are: I've accepted that I am not going to have control over when/where this baby is born. I'm planning a natural childbirth, which I've done before, so all I need is for people to leave me as alone as possible during my birth--I'm not worried about the new hospital's epidural policy, etc... During the birth, I want things to go naturally, and DH will be able to stick up for me well (and they tend to listen to him, he's an M.D., so part of the hospital club), but I am not going to be too bent out of shape if I end up consenting to a hep-lock or something of the sort. And probably most of all--we moved out-of-state when DD (our first) was only 4 weeks old, and it went fine. It was stressful, but I think a lot of that was thanks to it being our first baby, not necessarily the move.<br><br>
Kids getting a bit nutso in background, gotta run!...
 

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yep, I've only just started "doing things" and I'm pretty sure that I'm not going to come close to accomplishing all that I want to, or even need to! I need to order my birth kit (that one's pretty important!), finish some sewing projects, hopefully finish ds's scrapbook (yeah right, he's 4.5 and I've only done the first 2 months!!), read a couple of books, finish some knitting projects, and prepare material for classes I'm going to teach starting in august which I know I won't have time for after the birth! then there's the garden, which is *almost* done, and the home renovations, which are dh's domain but I have to help some or he'll get overwhelmed and never make it. all that is not even counting any shopping! we have pretty much everything already that she'll *need* --partly because she's second and mostly because my mom is a shopaholic!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> but there are some things I want to get, a few toys I never got around to getting for ds and such as that. I'm due july 1 and could go early (especially when I look at everyone else's belly pics-- yikes! I'm HUGE!!) so I really need to get a move on!!
 

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I'm right there with you! We've bought a couple outfits for our babe, but that's it. I think we're waiting on money to fall from the sky so we can buy the things he needs. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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