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I found out with my 2 children what we were having way before hand.<br>
This is baby #3 and my D and I really wanted a suprise.. For so many reasons I thought It doesnt really matter since we do have 1 of each and for my DDs sake since she wants a sister it would be more exciting if she didnt know and will jsut be excited for a baby when it comes.<br>
well I told the tech today I didnt want to know and all along she has been saying "the baby looks fine", "everything looks great" very nice general remarks at each US (ive had alot since I am having issues) anyways today she asked me if I want to know the sex. I said NO. Then as I was walking out she clearly said "HE looks great" 3 different times<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><br>
Im feeling alittle let down and trying so so hard to not think about it but its sticking with me. I am NOT going to tell anyone IRL so everyone else can be suprised but I just feel sad now that I actually <i>think</i> I know<br><br>
something simliar happend to my friend last yr when her DR asked my BFFs DD if she was excited to have a little sister<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"> my friends was really upset because he said it at like 30 weeks along and all that time they had no clue.<br><br><br><b>so has any DR or tech told you or implied about the sex even if you didnt want to know????</b>
 

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Not in your DDC, but this basically happened to me when I was 16 weeks along. I had to have an urgent u/s due to a bleeding episode, we did not want to know the gender of our baby due to my having a scheduled c/s for medical reasons. The tech was checking my placenta and how the baby was. She quickly covered the screen and asked if we wanted to know and I said "no", then she said "Oh good because it is <i>really</i> obvious." I then said it must be a boy. She "well girls can be really obvious right now too". So <i>technically</i> we didn't know, but we pretty much did. He was still mostly a surprise, since we didn't know for sure.<br><br>
I knew he was a boy all the time though, my mama instinct and the vast difference of my pregnancies between my DD and him told me that.
 

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thank you for sharing your story.<br><br>
Now on my sono pics I think I see the part of the "boy" that I am having...<br><br>
Im kind of over it I guess... I think it may be fun for me to keep my own little secret with my little guy in the womb<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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wow, that's really annoying! It almost makes me want to skip the ultrasound... I also wonder if I'd be able to tell the sex myself just by seeing it on the screen. Do they generally turn the screen away?
 

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That is really unprofessional, and maybe you should let the tech know how disappointed you were.<br><br>
I haven't had that experience, but I think that's part of why I'm paranoid to get an ultrasound--I just can imagine seeing the penis or lack thereof or someone else spilling the beans.<br><br>
So sorry you had such a lame visit.
 

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FWIW, DD was a surprise, and two different techs and the midwife used "he" a few times as well as "it," and we were sure it was a slip, but the one tech said she just didn't like "it" too much. I was *SURE* dd was a boy and I analyzed our 34 ish week ultrasound with a fine tooth comb and both DH and I really thought we saw boy parts, but we also kept the "it is a surprise mantra" and had that attitude.<br><br>
I wouldn't be so quick to assume . . . if you want to surprised, you still can. At any future ultrasounds remind them that you want to be surprised, and maybe you will be.
 

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Yeah now that I think about it the other tech at the same hospital said "she" at one point, so I think I got thrown after that first time. That's why I was like, "well we don't really know."
 

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Grrr...things like this are annoying but TAKE HEART....little girls at this age still have an *ahem* dangle (for the most part)<br><a href="http://www.baby2see.com/gender/external_genitals.html" target="_blank">http://www.baby2see.com/gender/external_genitals.html</a><br>
scroll down and check out the in depth pics and the comparisions...really intresting stuff. While you might "think" you see a penis it could be anything <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I would be seriously upset at that tech. But on the other hand have thought it could always happen...mental slip up. We don't want to know the gender and I plan to chant that throughout our sono (when and if we get one).
 

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I had to have 4 ultrasounds when i was pregnant with DD and 2 times, 2 different techs said 'HE'. Where i live, they aren't allowed to tell you the gender, but there are places about 2 hrs from here where you can go to find out; so at my ultrasounds no one ever asked if i wanted to know or not.<br>
Anyway, my last ultrasound with her, at 32 weeks, i told the tech i was sure it was a boy (honestly, i was certain from my positive HPT onwards!) and she said, "see how baby's hand is over it's face>? How cute.. usually the shy ones are girls".<br>
It went right over my head <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> I was shocked when she was born.<br>
and DD is all girl, of course <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Maybe she was just throwing you off...lol<br><br>
With my second babe I said I didn't want to know...I left the room to clear my bladder and she told Daniel...as we left he made a remark..:"I guess you were right"(I knew it was a girl in my gut) I was so pissed and still am.
 
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