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It almost seems that after bath, books, and nursing/rocking, daddy or I can lay her down in her crib and she sometimes falls alseep on her own. Sometimes she wants no part of it though so we try again the next night. We never leave her side until she's out and sometimes she squirms and whines a little in the process.<br><br>
I think this is key to helping her with putting herself back to sleep upon night wakings.<br><br>
Have any of you successfully gotten your baby/toddler to do this without CIO?
 

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we are so having this problem right now.
 

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Since ds was about 2, he is much more interested in being on his own for certain things.<br><br>
With bedtime, one of us takes him up, gets him cuddled in, sings songs, pats his bum and then once he's comfy, we tell him we are going to check on his sister and we'll be right back.<br><br>
At first, we'd go right back so he knew we meant what we said and that we did come back. Then we'd stay out a bit longer. Some nights I'd say goodnight and see him in the morning. And he has been fine. If he does call us back, we go right away. Many nights now he asks us to go check on Ellie or please go while he plays with his animals.<br>
I'd say he probably goes to sleep on his own about 75% of the time now and he's 2.5 yrs.<br><br>
I think with any changes in their routine, you have to do it so gradually that they don't even realize there are changes going on. They come to think that what you are doing now IS the routine.<br><br>
And from day one, he was nursed or rocked to sleep. We have never let our kids cry it out and wouldn't dream of it.<br><br>
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Try foot massages, with or without lavender lotion!<br><br>
I learned this trick from when I worked as a pre-k assistant at our local Waldorf school. The soul leaves the body through the feet during sleep, resulting in dreams, and nice foot rubbing helps to relax the body and and warm up the feet to facilitate a quicker soul escape.<br><br>
It is also so important to keep yourself calm, and imagine in your head a PICTURE of your sweetly sleeping child. Sing a very simple slow song. Your child will relax with the foot massage, sense your calm insistance on sleep, and WILL SEE THE SAME PICTURE of her sleeping.<br><br>
If you are antsy and pictureing her not falling asleep because you are worriedd, she'll see that same picture!!!<br><br>
If she's not used to foot rubs, she will need you to start off the massage with a few playful rounds of "This Little Piggy" or some other goodnight toes song.<br><br>
It is so nice to be able to gently put a child to sleep without having to lie down next to them. It may take a long time at first -- rubbing her feet until she falls asleep, but as the nights go by she'll fall asleep faster.<br><br>
Never underestimate the importance of touch and song when guiding your children through the neccessary processes of life <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
also, reading more than one book before bedtime can actually be too stimulating for some children.
 

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Nicholas is two-and-a-half and goes down to sleep in his "big guy bed." This is the method we used for all three.<br><br>
For the first few days, I put him in his bed and sat right next to him and rubbed his back, sang, etc til he fell asleep.<br><br>
When he was ready, I sat in a chair by the door with a book. I assured him I was there, sang to him if he wanted.<br><br>
The I moved to hall.<br><br>
Then I moved across the hall to my room.<br><br>
Now, about a month-and-a-half later, I put him and his big seven-year-old brother down at the same time, and they're both asleep within five minutes.<br><br>
With all three kids, I've been very open to their cues. If they need held, or talked to, or kissed, I'm right there doing it. I make very small incremental changes, and include them in all steps of the process. Works for us!
 
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