[Ornery]

the strategies from "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" by Patricia Evans? I'm considering trying some but I'm really not sure how he would respond.<br><br>
If you have, did they work? What did you try? What was the response you received?

 

[Surfacing]

I have not read the book but I am interested in hearing what others have to say. Learning. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/notes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="notes"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I will say that whenever we change a pattern in a relationship the anxiety skyrockets and the other person will try anything to get us to go back to the old familiar way. If you can move through the difficulty and anxiety, and stick to your guns, it's worth it.

 

[kiara7]

I'm interested in hearing if any strategies worked for anyone.

 

[Ornery]

Just as an update, it isn't working for us. I'm going to continue using the strategies to give them more time to work but I have little hope at this point.

 

[*MamaJen*]

Over the years, I've come to truly believe that the only way to keep someone from abusing you, be it physically, verbally or emotionally, is to not give them access to you.<br>
I always say, abuse isn't what they do, it's who they are. You can't make them not abuse you. It sounds good in theory, but I've never seen it work in practice.